Imlie the romanticist comes down to earth (a little)

* pooja, shabia, mili (sorry, can't remember if there were others who tagged me as well) -- so I have been behind on episodes and finally managed to catch up today. so was holding off from trying to comment. just giving my impressions on the last few episodes. however, I am having fever from the summer heat and so please excuse if my random thoughts are not coherent.

Aryan rejects Sundar --

Aryan is spot on and practical - makes a distinction that he is okay with Sundar as a friend but not as a life partner for Arpita. As he says, he has expectations that his sister will live in the comfort she is used to and not have to penny pinch

Imlie takes it personally because she sees a rejection of Sundar as a rejection of herself

Arpita slam dunks -- if Imlie cannot admit her own feelings, then she has no right to lecture someone else. Nodding my head to Arpita ❤️

Aryan pointing out Imlie's flaw - is she as obsessed with people who are related to her as she is about friends? yea, the Tripathy family effect. thanks Aryan for showing her the mirror. 👏

Aryan at the table -- okay this I didn't like; if aunty blue is putting Arpita on the spot, wouldn't the more sensitive thing be to take Arpita aside and have a conversation privately? why allowing sindoor mile aunty to interfere?

Also is no one suspicious of this relative's matchmaking skill? why not ask for the profile details, process, maybe investigate and then invite them over? 🔥🔥 NEVER TRUST PUSHY RELATIVES -- just my experience!!!!!

Wrestling match -- how old are they???? not like they are in karate or self-defence class?? 😂

Aryan misunderstands Imlie --

Arpita does not live in lala land while Imlie clearly does -- she simply brushes aside that people can just ignore society and live happy. easy to say for someone young with fire in their tummy vs someone who is older and not ready to fight

Imlie - "I will fight!!" 🤦 -- oh dear, I hope that viewers dont' take some lesson from Imlie that we need to fight for everyone. instead, the truth is "you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make a horse drink water" -- at the end of the day, everyone has to fight for themselves. if they are unwiling, no matter your effort, it will go down the drain. but thats real life. in Imlieland, she will get applauded with prizes. 🤦

Aryan locks Imlie -- the Tripathy effect strikes again. Aryan knows that she always put other people in front and Rathores not necessarily on top. hence his mistrust of her and intentions. makes sense to me!

Uday walks in alone -- why????? what happened to his relatives? who comes for a rishtha meeting alone??? fraud alert!!! 🔥🔥🔥

uday wanting a relationship history of aprita - what a cheapo! I actually knew a rishtha which broke up for that very reason. the guy was sleazy!!!!

Imlie - asking Arpita -- finally some sense, yes, a girl needs to say yes and not the rest of the relatives 👍🏼

Aryan -- everyone needs to learn how to cook and you can't also reject someone who can't cook. true true. my army uncle used to tell that everyone should know to cook 3 things minimum -

1. cup of coffee/tea

2. bread omlett

3. maggi noodles!

my uncle used to say that if you know these 3 things, you can survive anywhere! 😂

Aryan cooks for Imlie --

Imlie inspired masterchef challenge -- win the heart of your love through the tummy!

what kind of cooking competition has such bad lighting???? 🤦🤦🤦 I object!!!!

Narmada - this is too much fun! no aunty! no one cooks in such bad lighting, the food is going to be awful. does food by candlelight when electricity goes off come well? please!!! romance meter broken - 95%

are creatives aware that FK has some fangirls who love his arms? is that why the sleeves are rolled up? 😂

Imlie makes a plan for Uday --

"whatever I did was for you to be happy" -- Imlie, Imlie (shaking my head) 🤦 you don't get to decide that. each person has their own individual choice. you are still mad at your mom that she took high handed measures to get you married to Aryan but you don't think what you are doing to Arpita is high handed?

Aryan - "is she really that stupid?" -- yes Aryan she is. 😆 she will listen maybe if you wrestle with her and pull her close and say she is pretty. perhaps. kekekek

Aryan telling Imlie to stay out of the family's decision making - I totally cheered. 👏 the Tripathy family effect strikes again!!! this is what you get Imlie when you make stupid decisions for your ex's family and keep calling them family. she has been continiously rejecting Aryan and his family and today he turned it back on her. well, she only realizes their worth if she doesn't have them in their life.

conclusion: it wasn't as bad as I thought; the chickens are coming to roost for Imlie and am totally okay with that. now only if the creatives make her realize that all of this is because of weird unheathy obsession with the Tripathy family. Aryan and Arpita mostly made sense to me. Imlie sounds exactly like one of those people who have never gone through the arraged marriage market process and is super romantic. well, sorry girlie, but arranged marriage market is mostly about thinking with your head and making a decision based on the info you have. if you feel he wasn't a good match, then provide actual reasoning and not some in the air romantic mumblings. 🤷‍♀️

Hope you are fine now dear🤗

Take good care of yourself ❤️

Thanks for sharing your in-depth analysis👍🏼

There is only one conclusion, no matter how much sense Aryan makes, he will still be proved wrong in order to uplift imlie.

Originally posted by: Shabia1

Hope you are fine now dear🤗

Take good care of yourself ❤️

Thanks for sharing your in-depth analysis👍🏼

There is only one conclusion, no matter how much sense Aryan makes, he will still be proved wrong in order to uplift imlie.

still under the weather.

yea, that is what happens with all female leads -- they can never do any wrong. 🤷‍♀️

however, this track clearly shows how much life experience Imlie does not have. she really is young and is a romantic. instead of focusing on sundar, she needed to focus on why uday didnt make a good match and what are the red flags. if she had talked practically, aryan might have taken her seriously as opposed to him thinking she is trying to blindly support her friend because of pyaaaaaar (eye roll)
I would say that I hope young women reading this forum take away that if you have a gut feeling about your rishta, articulate it but you have to be smart in how you articulate and ask the right questions. don't be imlie and give random romantic gyaan -- that does not work in an arranged marriage setup!

I strongly believe in looking at compatibility before marrying, but it doesn't mean people who enter a relationship with just love/romance aren't happy/content. I am speaking from experience, a female cousin of mine married a daily wage worker at 16 years of age (Yes, it was illegal, there was a lot of police drama). Everyone, including me, thought she'll come back to her mother cause she wouldn't be able to adjust. Guess what, it's been 8 years and she is still living with him. She is apparently working as a helper in building constructions (she passed her 10th and 11th with flying colors, I remember her dad calling us with her grade, which is better than mine :P). I used to joke with my friends on how I would never do such things. With age, I be-grudgingly accepted it. I'm not saying Arpita-Sundar will be like this or they have enough love between them to be like this, but there are people who do this and I now think it is same as a middle-class woman marrying into a rich family. Adjustments are necessary in both cases.

Again, these are sensitive topics and no offence to anyone's opinions. Following this forum for the past 6 months, this is the first time I felt strongly enough to reply. And this is not entirely related to the current drama.

Originally posted by: Dewwww

I strongly believe in looking at compatibility before marrying, but it doesn't mean people who enter a relationship with just love/romance aren't happy/content. I am speaking from experience, a female cousin of mine married a daily wage worker at 16 years of age (Yes, it was illegal, there was a lot of police drama). Everyone, including me, thought she'll come back to her mother cause she wouldn't be able to adjust. Guess what, it's been 8 years and she is still living with him. She is apparently working as a helper in building constructions (she passed her 10th and 11th with flying colors, I remember her dad calling us with her grade, which is better than mine :P). I used to joke with my friends on how I would never do such things. With age, I be-grudgingly accepted it. I'm not saying Arpita-Sundar will be like this or they have enough love between them to be like this, but there are people who do this and I now think it is same as a middle-class woman marrying into a rich family. Adjustments are necessary in both cases.

Again, these are sensitive topics and no offence to anyone's opinions. Following this forum for the past 6 months, this is the first time I felt strongly enough to reply. And this is not entirely related to the current drama.

good point. :)

we had a poll & discussion about whether financial compatibiltiy is important and it was interesting that many in the forum felt it is important to have shared values, interests as well as similar financial goals and ability.

I am not too much of a romantic in that I am skeptical at times. I think lot of people who say they are in love are more in love with the idea of being in love. especially when younger, many are interested more in a relationship because they get to show off to their friends that someone finds them attractive. they want to go to the movies, beach etc and experience what others of their peers are also having. so many do get into relationships because they want that love feeling. not necessarily because they are really in love with the other person or even interested in the other. so in those cases, yes, eventually things turn sour when reality hits. for those whose love is genuine and they are willing to make the necessary sacrifices and accept the limitations. so good for them! :)

this morning, I was randomly browing through youtube and found this documentary (10+ minutes) -- the parents talk about raising a blind baby and the challenges raising a blind baby and the challenge - I was moved by the love they had for their son as well as the strong committment they have towards each other. that is a team. ❤️ 🥰

Aad to hear that you're unwell. Take care and get well soon. 🤗

Spot on, on all points... Honestly i don't mind imlie doing all this, if only it would be an experience and lesson to her, but using a 20 yo star eyed teenager to preach audience is distasteful.

I only watch for Aryan, imlie character never did anything for me before also. I hardly connected with adi/imlie/adilie in old narrative, mostly i felt bad for Malini until she turned criminal.

Originally posted by: SundariP

Aad to hear that you're unwell. Take care and get well soon. 🤗

Spot on, on all points... Honestly i don't mind imlie doing all this, if only it would be an experience and lesson to her, but using a 20 yo star eyed teenager to preach audience is distasteful.

I only watch for Aryan, imlie character never did anything for me before also. I hardly connected with adi/imlie/adilie in old narrative, mostly i felt bad for Malini until she turned criminal.

thanks -- thats why I haven't been too active the last few days

I think a 20 year old preaching to audience is a bit laughable. see, if they gave her sensible dialgoue like her sharing with arpita that she too went with societal disapproval as the daughter of an unwed mother and believes that we need to fight for our rights -- it would be interesting. instead, she just sounds like a romantic loony with her head in the clouds as if love will pay the bills. if she told aryan that arpita was in a phase of her life where more than financial security, she needed to be comfortable and in need of real companionship, then it would make more sense to push with sundar. if she had said that they should do a background check on uday, talk to his relatives before rushing into an engagement, that would have been practical...so yea, I really don't want aryan apologizing to imlie -- I felt that she got exactly what she deserved. she has been keeping him and his family at a distance and clinging to the Tripathy family. is he going to overnight assume that she is by his side when they don't even have a clear defined relationship? and we all know that imlie is more impulsive than rational.

To your last point, I again have a real-life experience with it. My aunt's son was born blind. He completed post-graduation (there are articles on how he achieved it), he is now working as a govt. teacher and assisting his professor in building special tools for aiding blind kids in studies. As if this is not enough, he is a pro in music and has knowledge of > 3 instruments. He did a lot of shows along with his parents. None of his relatives achieved even half of it. Hats off to his parents.

To your first para, my problem is that this was rarely a concern/topic of discussion with ITV leads, whose selling point is opposites attract. But, it became an issue with Arpita-Sundar. I'm having trouble understanding whether it is because of role-reversal (a lot of regional films explored this already, so not sure) or something else entirely.

Originally posted by: Dewwww

To your last point, I again have a real-life experience with it. My aunt's son was born blind. He completed post-graduation (there are articles on how he achieved it), he is now working as a govt. teacher and assisting his professor in building special tools for aiding blind kids in studies. As if this is not enough, he is a pro in music and has knowledge of > 3 instruments. He did a lot of shows along with his parents. None of his relatives achieved even half of it. Hats off to his parents.

To your first para, my problem is that this was rarely a concern/topic of discussion with ITV leads, whose selling point is opposites attract. But, it became an issue with Arpita-Sundar. I'm having trouble understanding whether it is because of role-reversal (a lot of regional films explored this already, so not sure) or something else entirely.

i don't think it's about role reversal --- we'd totally welcome such a bold move by creatives, but we can;t see it taking this direction at all

also trouble is nothing substantial character development of sunder is shown either in old narrative or the present one.

it's not a problem with leads because they're shown to have certain fire.. while sundar is never shown to have any, which does not make him any less as a person per se but hardly evokes strong emotions in audience to pick them over others.

i don't know if i made sense here.

maybe it is role reversal or just needed some conflict -- so status difference was used as plot device to get aryan and imlie fighting? it could also be that today's audience are lot less romantic and maybe more skeptical about love just saving the day? 🤷‍♀️