Arylie Discussion Thread 38 🧿 - Page 64

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

All those friends who are bothered by this forced marriage track, don' worry. Aditya will be Aditya and he will tick off Imlie. She then will be mad and marry Aryan happily because she is like a volcano and needs to spew. 😂 😛

And for those of us who are not bothered (like me) because we know that she just has to open her mouth and say 'no' (it is not like Aryan will refuse her 'no' unlike *cough *cough)... Maybe someone needs to give her toothpaste so she can open her mouth and say what is in her heart? 😂

This. The k-k-k- kiran wall will make her literally run to Aryan. I want her to grow a spine and give me a fuccking showdown between Imlie Aryan Singh Rathore and the incestous family.

Bring back the MVP, Malini didi, Atif!

Originally posted by: bob-bob

Anybody else screaming at the screen when Imlie turned and looked at AKT. Only me?!? Pissed me off to no end

I screamed twice. Once when AKT was pulling the decorations - I was like your happiness will be short lived. And ASR Came and I was like yayyy.

Then Imlie turned around when walking past and I was screaminggggggg. Like you missy are the worst!!!!!! What is this behaviour?!?!?

but bold in blue there problem for everything n the result of today's TRP

Imliya please give us clear word who is AKT for u n spare us from further thing n ASR listen to that girl , if she wants to move on then be with her but if she wants to doormat of AKT then leave her to do that

right now m pissed with iye baat iha nehi kehe sakti

Originally posted by: Deltablues

This. The k-k-k- kiran wall will make her literally run to Aryan. I want her to grow a spine and give me a fuccking showdown between Imlie Aryan Singh Rathore and the incestous family.

Bring back the MVP, Malini didi, Atif!

Raising a petition to bring Malini Didi Back 🤣

Originally posted by: aakritisri1111

Tu mandap me kaise baithegi... Dulha to mere paas rahega

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Originally posted by: KrishnaSourav

tu iye kya GIF lati hain kaha se lati hai 🤣

Matlab kya isme bhi X rated dikh gaya?😲

Ruko zara main man kii aankhon se dobara dekhoon 🤣

Originally posted by: Azured

(1) No doubt over-protectiveness and fear of losing someone Aryan cares about is triggering his own trauma and misguiding his actions.

Either her continued distrust reminders or her helpless and forgetting to fight mode -- triggers him into wanting to reactivate her fight mode. And the brilliant strategy he's come up with is to remind her how much she hates him. Hatred also powers his own fight mode. It's sad, but lover boy is grasping at straws to keep her from the ex, who is unfortunately one fake suicide attempt away.

(2) green: He should be focussing on the events yes, but he's also repeatedly facing the character he holds responsible for all that's gone wrong in the lives of those he holds dear. If Imlie can't stop chanting Ts are awesome, getting Aryan to forget/ ignore persona non grata is a tall ask.

Not to forget the ex continues to create trouble (which is also hard for this boy to ignore) and hasn't even fully realized his many wrong-doings, not even towards Imlie.

Which makes me think the ABP in him wants some retribution/ a little sadistic pleasure in making the ex relive atleast a very small measure of what he saw Imlie go through in that page3 wedding. Also he's in a weird way sticking it to the ex for hurting his girl (for both then and potential current evil emotional blackmail plans)................

great post! just wanted to add on to your above points --

Aryan is an interesting character to me because he is not meant to be the hero in the typical sense. He is anti-hero and he owns it. He is also suffering from complex/prolonged grief.

Looked it up and there are stages of grief that people go through:

1. Shock or disbelief -- Reality hits hard; There’s unwillingness to accept the loss.

2. Pain & guilt -- Troubled by ‘If only’ and ‘I ought to have’ thoughts and questions. Did you do best at that moment? These thoughts magnify the pain

3. Anger and bargaining -- Feelings of anger or frustration. Some people may feel angry at a person who caused a loss. Others may have feelings of anger directed toward God or a higher power for not preventing the loss. Some blame the person for leaving them. Others want to bargain for a better outcome.

4. Depression, Reflection, and Loneliness -- Reflecting upon the loss they experienced and how it has affected their life will cause many to withdraw from others to deal with their feelings of grief alone

5. Acceptance and hope -- Accepting a loss means you can acknowledge the loss and feel okay with moving forward with your life

If we see it through these lenses, it is clear that Aryan has not at all processed his grief. He is still angry, he is still in pain and he is still in disbelief. Unlike Narmada and Arpita who cried buckets and even had a period of depression, he felt that he did not have the freedom to weep and grieve. There was the business to take over, people depending on him and a famiy completely shattered. He was left alone to pick up the pieces. In order to do that, he shut down his emotions completely. He refused to cry because he knew that if he did, he would break. So his sense of responsibility, frustration and anger is what kept him going for four years.

I read a quote somewhere that said -- "if you hold on to grief too tightly, it can corrode your soul" -- in many ways, that is the impact of grief on Aryan.

From the beginning, people in the office have been wondering why Aryan is so protective of Imlie. For Aryan, Imlie was a victim just as he and his family were. He took her under his wings and his protective instincts have been on high alert. So he is in some ways trying to protect Imlie from herself and her stupidity. Just as he picked up the pieces for the business and his family, he is now attempting to do the same for Imlie.

Originally posted by: Ahlaam5

This is the behaviour that leads to TRP falling

I'm not over that, giving him this hurt looks🤢 chal hatt doormat🤢🤢🤢

☝🏽 Me to Imlie cos she's being rude Aru by sending them hurt looks to B/S

joining the party

You know who is downright creepy and psychotic.

Koi Malini Didi ko waapis lao yaar🤣

Originally posted by: Azured

Hello!

Been thinking (which shouldn't be done, agreed!) .. ended up being a super long post!

I'm not for the forced wedding/ rehashing any past trauma.

Having said that:

(1) No doubt over-protectiveness and fear of losing someone Aryan cares about is triggering his own trauma and misguiding his actions.

Either her continued distrust reminders or her helpless and forgetting to fight mode -- triggers him into wanting to reactivate her fight mode. And the brilliant strategy he's come up with is to remind her how much she hates him. Hatred also powers his own fight mode. It's sad, but lover boy is grasping at straws to keep her from the ex, who is unfortunately one fake suicide attempt away.

(2) green: He should be focussing on the events yes, but he's also repeatedly facing the character he holds responsible for all that's gone wrong in the lives of those he holds dear. If Imlie can't stop chanting Ts are awesome, getting Aryan to forget/ ignore persona non grata is a tall ask.

Not to forget the ex continues to create trouble (which is also hard for this boy to ignore) and hasn't even fully realized his many wrong-doings, not even towards Imlie.

Which makes me think the ABP in him wants some retribution/ a little sadistic pleasure in making the ex relive atleast a very small measure of what he saw Imlie go through in that page3 wedding. Also he's in a weird way sticking it to the ex for hurting his girl (for both then and potential current evil emotional blackmail plans).

Also didn't he do the "romantic photo shoot" drama during his engagement? No, he can't shift the blame onto how he was misled and jealous. That was all on him, how much ever he wants to believe otherwise - if he remembers it that is.

(3) Ideally he should send her for counselling: but this girl is in so much denial about what's happened to her, and has selective memory, before it is totally doused by residual feelings and misplaced gratitude. And has cut ties with him, so that's a closed option.

I doubt a few sessions would even help her realize she's been emotionally abused..least of all accept it, talk about it, and act upon it. We'll have to skip many many months in I-land for the results, and no telling if it will work on the all-is-well with my Apne world thinking girl.

So TV logic wedding (sigh!).

(4) blue: I don't see him revealing his true intentions to her, as she would then question him as to why does he care for her.

He is unwilling to accept the answer to himself (despite being clued in by his own thoughts, and Arpi di's many chats with him). So he is not in a position to reveal them in an answer to Imlie right now. Hence can't justify the need to care so much as to commit a lifetime to her.

(4) bold: Imlie did say she likes to revisit traumatic situations to change her view points?? (The plant gifting conversation.) I guess he's taken it to heart.

So here's revisiting the trauma of a forced wedding. One she has a very very easy way out of. His continuous

what will you do goading,

keep trying,

conserve your energy,

rest well,

keep fighting me..

-- are all intended to make her wake up from her self-pity and just think her way out.

Ts have already given her the out. So why wouldn't she come up with an alternate negotiation: simple you don't like me to help the Ts, fine I shan't. But you make whatever revenge plans you want, but dismiss the current charges and promise to not directly or indirectly hurt the fam.

She IS indeed rightfully traumatized. But at this point it's clearly self imposed, coz whatever family obligation shackles have been released now (atleast temporarily).

She's likely having phantom shackles, and is scared to feel disconnected from the family. Ok, we'll give her that. She's young and this is all the big family she has.

BUT, this dodo wants to be a journalist. JOURNALISTS ask questions (she's asked too few until now). They think. The collect data (including her flash backs). They analyse. They conjecture and verify (not yet attempted also).

So all the when am not muddled with T fam thoughts, I focus on my goals career girl can't pause to think!

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I don't think she's even processing her flashbacks. She's judged already (hence my ask for non judgemental listening). She is forgetting her own advice. Two instances come to mind:

(1) fight club- she corrects the journalist,

(2) celebrity interview - she corrects the angry judgey boss man.

Sadly, she's following in the ex's foot steps of half baked self beliefs when it comes to figuring out the details and accepting the truth and also in not so fine manners too.

Have a legit conversation with Aryan. Rather than sweeping everything under the rug, identify the issues and see what can be done. Figure out and renegotiate!

It's been a few days since the office reveal. Why can't she step back and think things through. Least of all get a viewpoint. Then figure out how to change. She can easily change the game/wedding requirement if only she used some thinking time.

I do sympathize with the poor kid losing her only ever friend. But growing up (and chosen career) also means, holding off on the judgements, communicating and figuring out the problem and potential solutions.

Or better yet, look at changing professions, if rational non-judgemental thinking is so challenging. But what can I say, the shining example of a star Journalist still lives and breathes.. alas!

Unfortunately, she's the one who has the short end of the deal. So onus is on her to find a way out, get Aryan to talk, even if he is unwilling.

(5) orange: No I don't want her to know the truth and still compromise on account of some other Apne. The whole challenge is to think for herself. She shouldn't be doing it for the Rathore family (howsoever non-toxic) either. Then she's compromising again and maybe dutifully having emotional feels for her husband eventually.

The guidance has been given. In any deal look for your profit. She's chosen to accept the lessons too.

Now it's a hurdle race/ maze, and she needs to figure her way out. Sometimes there is a closed door. It only takes one try to figure if it is indeed locked, or just shut. In her case it's the latter. But she refuses to see it.

Aryan's grandiose but unasked social goodness objective is to have her stand tall and strong on her own two feet.

Nothing is stopping her from asking him to get lost! But if she's willingly (however reluctantly) playing his game.. he's already given her the cheat sheet. Not to mention continues to drop the same hint, ad nauseum!

She is one slow pupil.

I wish both these fictional characters wisen up:) and my apologies for the mumbo jumbo from my end. Appreciate your patience!

Thank you so effing much.

Emboldened : Literally what this idiot is trying to do with goading her all the time. He's willing to turm into a punching bag for her to fight for herself. The idiot could have done that without the constant triggering but meh.

Can the damn girl grow a spine and neurons please? Nobody wants to see her quasi incestuous kinks for Aparna et al. Please Atif, my jaan.

Originally posted by: KrishnaSourav

oh not me alone , u r also in same boat

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