Arylie Discussion Thread 38 🧿 - Page 66

Originally posted by: JJ_Holic

This shaadi business is depressing. Anybody wants to guess that scenario of why Aru could be ardhnagn in the Holi episode. Lets live in happy scenarios.

normal 19/20yrs girl see this n reaction

but Imlie will throw bucket of water dimag phir gaya hain kya aise nangu pangu ghum rehe ho itna girat ho tum, humara toh saara umeed hi

Originally posted by: aakritisri1111

Jaisa in dono ka track record raha hai I think Imlie in order to show her fire had tear out Aru's Kurta 🤣 unless they are planning for some like 'Ang Laga De' squence☺️

bold in blue agar iye bhi ho n oh bhi oh patrakar dekh le ek baar then saara depression maaf abhi tak ka

Originally posted by: KrishnaSourav

Imlie aapne aag , fire mein Uska kaapra jalva diya so he get Ardhangn n Imlie ka Balba aur bhi fuse ho gaya

normal 19/20yrs girl see this n reaction

but Imlie will throw bucket of water dimag phir gaya hain kya aise nangu pangu ghum rehe ho itna girat ho tum, humara toh saara umeed hi

And then we will be like

Originally posted by: KrishnaSourav

bold iye hoga humara imagination mein

bold in blue agar iye bhi ho n oh bhi oh patrakar dekh le ek baar then saara depression maaf abhi tak ka

https://tenor.com/view/khichdi-arre-vah-abhi-kitna-suppak-bola-tu-huh-supriya-pathak-hansa-gif-19066929

@bold - I swear agar sach me aisa hi hua to itne dino ki saari disappointment maaf 🤣

Ye imlie ka eye liner kisne banana ... it looked horrible during post rescue scenes

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

great post! just wanted to add on to your above points --

Aryan is an interesting character to me because he is not meant to be the hero in the typical sense. He is anti-hero and he owns it. He is also suffering from complex/prolonged grief.

Looked it up and there are stages of grief that people go through:

1. Shock or disbelief -- Reality hits hard; There’s unwillingness to accept the loss.

2. Pain & guilt -- Troubled by ‘If only’ and ‘I ought to have’ thoughts and questions. Did you do best at that moment? These thoughts magnify the pain

3. Anger and bargaining -- Feelings of anger or frustration. Some people may feel angry at a person who caused a loss. Others may have feelings of anger directed toward God or a higher power for not preventing the loss. Some blame the person for leaving them. Others want to bargain for a better outcome.

4. Depression, Reflection, and Loneliness -- Reflecting upon the loss they experienced and how it has affected their life will cause many to withdraw from others to deal with their feelings of grief alone

5. Acceptance and hope -- Accepting a loss means you can acknowledge the loss and feel okay with moving forward with your life

If we see it through these lenses, it is clear that Aryan has not at all processed his grief. He is still angry, he is still in pain and he is still in disbelief. Unlike Narmada and Arpita who cried buckets and even had a period of depression, he felt that he did not have the freedom to weep and grieve. There was the business to take over, people depending on him and a famiy completely shattered. He was left alone to pick up the pieces. In order to do that, he shut down his emotions completely. He refused to cry because he knew that if he did, he would break. So his sense of responsibility, frustration and anger is what kept him going for four years.

I read a quote somewhere that said -- "if you hold on to grief too tightly, it can corrode your soul" -- in many ways, that is the impact of grief on Aryan.

From the beginning, people in the office have been wondering why Aryan is so protective of Imlie. For Aryan, Imlie was a victim just as he and his family were. He took her under his wings and his protective instincts have been on high alert. So he is in some ways trying to protect Imlie from herself and her stupidity. Just as he picked up the pieces for the business and his family, he is now attempting to do the same for Imlie.

Hi, I am with you on this! And it strikes me that healthy healing process embodies these in a somewhat sequential grieving stages.

But here it's a find my own way through it meander. Of course some parts of all stages will linger.. but this boy as you point is clutching on to all of them almost too tightly.

Stage#.

2. he didn't do enough-- which is why he repeatedly convinces himself to let Imlie go and try in PD despite knowing the risks and futility.

3. Anger and disbelief - his hi we haven't chatted in 4 years to the deity..

4. Loner - yes, but is sort of seeking out and chatting up his new non-friend.

5. Hope.. is this crazy girl, that he's taken under his wing as you point.

They really should support mental health as a priority, and promote resolution!

Hope both the characters get to ditch their tortoise avatars some!

Originally posted by: JJ_Holic

This shaadi business is depressing. Anybody wants to guess that scenario of why Aru could be ardhnagn in the Holi episode. Lets live in happy scenarios.

I’ll give you happy scenario 😘 up Until now aryan has only reached out to Imlie or held her hand or pulled her to give her comfort, to get her attention, to get her to listen, in anger, etc but never with a romantic inclination. For gods sake we haven’t even had the mandatory dori tying scene YET.
what will happen when he reach out to her romantically. We will go bhasam in arylie ki agg 🔥🔥🔥 fire fire everywhere.
sorry my mind is full of gutter water all the time these days until I get that goddamn tight hug. My bucket needs to be filled and this pushing shoving is irritating the crap out of me.

Originally posted by: SundariP

contrary he was always for playing the petty... we've list of that 😆

but this one is taking it too much because as you say imlie is getting hurt...

ah... the angst is not good is all i can say 😵

Nope, I know that, but being petty with AKT is something I love 😌🤣 He deserves it 😈

But Imlie ke saath kabhi nahi and the idiot knows she is getting hurt

@b: 💯

Originally posted by: Azured

Hi, I am with you on this! And it strikes me that healthy healing process embodies these in a somewhat sequential grieving stages.

But here it's a find my own way through it meander. Of course some parts of all stages will linger.. but this boy as you point is clutching on to all of them almost too tightly.

Stage#.

2. he didn't do enough-- which is why he repeatedly convinces himself to let Imlie go and try in PD despite knowing the risks and futility.

3. Anger and disbelief - his hi we haven't chatted in 4 years to the deity..

4. Loner - yes, but is sort of seeking out and chatting up his new non-friend.

5. Hope.. is this crazy girl, that he's taken under his wing as you point.

They really should support mental health as a priority, and promote resolution!

Hope both the characters get to ditch their tortoise avatars some!

It will be interesting to see what happens when Imlie realizes that Aryan is just as vulnerable as she is. Since I just started watching recently, something I noticed is how her tears always falls on his hand and you can literally see him react like he felt a punch in his heart. He feels silently but does not express. So that is why, she sees him as someone trying to boss her over. It is only when they are playful, they are both equal emotional footing. In order for her to fully realize what he is asking her to do with her life and why he is pushing her, she needs to understand that he is grieving and this isn't some misunderstanding. She needs to walk in his shoes and see the world from his perspective -- a world where he had to fight for the business, for the family and where he had to pick up the pieces and survive. He is a survivor. His pain cannot be dismissed as "Aditya babu did no wrong" -- that kind of silly argument will not fly and minimizes and callously dismisses what has happened to Aryan and his family.

In order for forgiveness to happen, we need to acknowledge the bad that has happened. We cannot dismiss it or give excuses -- just accept that yes, this was wrong. Then only can the hurt person move on. So there are challenges for Imlie ahead -- she has to accept the ugly side of her ex-husband. But if she does, will that mean she will go guns blazing against Tripathi & Co?

Originally posted by: Deltablues

Thank you so effing much.

Emboldened : Literally what this idiot is trying to do with goading her all the time. He's willing to turm into a punching bag for her to fight for herself. The idiot could have done that without the constant triggering but meh.

Can the damn girl grow a spine and neurons please? Nobody wants to see her quasi incestuous kinks for Aparna et al. Please Atif, my jaan.

Haha, I wish for both for her too. All the attitude is spent on the one guy that's in her corner, unapologetically so even when they were friends.

This day I have decided to presume she'd get some sense knocked in. Tomorrow I never know!

Atleast she didn't fully turn around and gaze extra long.at the ex out of some sense of loyalty. And despite all the am trying to catch your eye attempts, she didn't give In too much. Neither did she jump to shush Aryan. Out of character for her actually??

But the volcano is only dormant until they exit this party, and no hopes she will stay consistent.

But she's atleast realizing she needs to fight smartly - though her objective is really hazy. Fake wedding is off the table. So either get married or don't.

Incase of the no wedding, she still has the threat of lawsuit against her Apne.

She should just figure alternate evidence if she's taking the high road, or play dirty and mess with the existing one. She's home free, until the next attack - which she has been graciously freed from!

But the people use you because you let them lesson is no where close to being realized, least of all prepare for it!