Is Adhithya Kumar Tripathi is class conscious - Page 7

My POV , on how AKT handling current situation

The way he is doing by being silence when Malini talk , I totally agreed because no point talking or arguing with a weak person especially with dimaag problem . Let her talk whatever she wants as long she is happy , my priority is not harm done to my bacha .

He knows Imlie is very angry with him . Its useless to talk when a person is angry . The brain is block with anger can’t accept any explanation . He giving her space to cool down .

He have confident in Imlie being a strong person compare to Malini .

He is a person who think careful with all the circumstances and outcome before making decision .

Benefit of doubt , he being easy to Malini due to her Health and Prengancy . We have seen how nasty he can be . A few occasion we have seen how he Snap at her .

He loving Imlie soo much and fighting for their rishta with the family and comminity and proudly announcing her as wife shows he is not Class conscious

Originally posted by: _Seera_

To see the same aditya we have to take astep back.. and try and see situation from his perspective..

Again i am not saying has not made mistakes but when he realises him mistakes he corrects them...after video deletion he wanted to make it upto imlie.. tried his level best Malini playe dthe tricks.. when imlie n rupi were talking imlie herself told that what should i say that i overheard them talking no one will believe me... and then same imlie made the same mistake..

Sorry i digress.. coming to aditya.. he tried to explain to imlie that he molestation and the pregnancy news has left him in a state of constant confusion.. this is same aditya.. confused one.. he was still dealing with that trauma when imlie was not able to forgive him.. and he was willing to wait.. reason being his only constant is Imlie..

Aditya doesnt say anything to malini cos he doesnt consider her anything.. his every thought, his every dream his every memory is of imlie.. and thats exactly what he meant when he said to imlie that hum tumhaare hai.. he needed time to heal and so did she.. the only problem was they both were not patient with one another... patience is what they need to learn...

Some where he also carries the guilt of ruining Malini's life, her two suicides and her pregnancy.. thats a lot of guilt to carry... so if he thinks its best not to say anything to her then it is because he is guilty...

and last point for his behaviour.. is his upbringing and t familys in general way of dealing with things.. (APS had mentioned something similar to me).. do you see any from t family questioning Malini? and only reason i feel is that she s carrying the baby.. she is so unstable koi bhi baat sunke pohonch jayegi suicide karane.. so koi chedta hi nahi hai.. jo karna hai karo just keep the baby safe.. she has always been handled with kid gloves by everyone.. including imlie..

agree to disagree.. and definitely respectfully... just we should see the character from all perspectives... and try n see their past behaviour.. we might get a lot more insight in them..

Seeraji, all your points about MC taken but what about AC. Why is he still allowing AC to call Imlie murder, naukrani. Why is he not as harsh with AC as he was with Imlie in first 50 episodes or SK after he tried to kill Adi.

Thats all I really want to understand. I can to a great extent understand where he is coming from for MC's case. But what I don't understand is his handling of things here MC is not involved. I would try to put some examples below to the best of my knowledge:

1.) Imlie telling him that she can't sit on that bed. Now I know that people can say that she already sat on bed multiple times after SA night so why make issue now. But I expected Adi to understand her pain before her having to voice it out.

2.) Why no push back or punishment for AC.

3.) Why not saying to Malini openly that he doesn't believe Imlie shot her or in his guilt, he will allow Malini to call Imlie a murderer.

4.) Dialogues he said after SA night, "trust my love" , "focus on us", he said before SA night as well. Still SA happened and we have a baby in picture. Why no some reflection that how his same dialogues on similar warning from Imlie look hollow. Why no assurance to Imlie that same thing won't happen again.

5.) He doesn't want to doubt MC or push her back, fine, but why only words and no action to make Imlie feel comfortable and secure.

6.) Everytime Imlie said that Malini will do something big, something big happens and it involves Malini but blame is put on others. AC in one case and SK/Imlie in other case. Why no reflection on how did Imlie know that something big will happen even if Malini is not at fault but Imlie was right about big shock coming up, why can't she be right about the reason behind it.

Another thing that hurt me badly was him calling Imlie a liar in front of everyone. You can say that he had reasons to say that but still it hurt me as it would have hurt Imlie. Earlier he was so connected to what Imlie is going through even when their relation was not revealed to world. Now so much happened to Imlie under his nose and Imlie is screaming for help but all he can say is ye Imlie ka vaham hain. I just can't make peace with this change whatever the reason.

Originally posted by: Chintapandu

Thank you for opening this thread MMji and for asking for my POV, so here it is

I don't know where to start cuz I have a lot in mind and want to throw a few points out there without offending any of our friends here.

So first things first, I do believe he does possess an unconscious class bias, and this is not an insult to AKT in any way. I'm merely pointing out what many of us, consciously or unconsciously, chose to ignore because of the fact that Adi accepted Imlie despite her social status and the plethora of good things he had done for her.

I'll explain my broader POV and then give you some specific examples that support it.

Sadly, this prejudice is not new nor is it limited to this show or a few characters in it. Class [includes caste in most cases] prejudice is ingrained in our society for a very very long time. It is everywhere and every human tends to show it at some point or the other in their life. One has to be aware of their own prejudices to fight them off. A single person cannot be blamed for this unless it overpowers their common sense [Ex: Mrs.C] cuz it is a social evil that is actually taught at home starting at a very young age that cannot be erased easily.

Adi and the Ts are no exception when it comes to this unconscious classism - the Ts loved Imlie as their maid and as an adopted daughter. But did that acceptance make them give her a room and all the luxuries of a Tripathi daughter? No, cuz she was still a maid and they loved her because she was a maid and that love vanished when they got to know that she is married to Adi. The first reason Aparna stated for her disbelief that Adi is married to Imlie is that she is a 'naukraani' and that HER son couldn't marry a naukraani.

While the Ts were busy loving Imlie earlier, Adi didn't miss a chance to remind her of her status - "apni jagah mat bhulna", "family ki naukraani hain", "joothe mein phasey kankad", "mitti not chandan" [albeit for his self-assurance, but these words were what he chose to term her as] and "kya socha? muh maange rakam dedenge?" "ye tumhare haq ke paise hain", "chinta mat karna aur bhi bhejte rahenge". Let's not forget that he was also the one who tagged her a thief in PD because she's a village girl - just like his family did in the beginning regd. the jewelry and later regd. their own son after the truth-revelation [He is a Tripathi after all, and if you noticed, amma bitwa are same same in many aspects].

He was the one who comfortably forgot about her studies even after M reminded him until he himself realized how talented she is because SK telling him about Imlie's sapna of aage badhna wasn't convincing enough - he didn't believe that a village girl like Imlie could actually achieve her dreams.

He was quicker than the Ts to realize his mistakes and rectify them, but this doesn't make his prejudice vanish.

It resurfaces every now and then. Some of those instances are

• When he wouldn't bash M the way he bashed the warden for questioning Imlie's character,
• When he wouldn't give benefit of the doubt to Imlie when she says M has wrong intentions [it is not about trusting M, it is about him considering the possibility that Imlie could be right and he couldn't consider it],
  
• When he wouldn't ask M for the truth one last time after Imlie's accusations but asks Imlie after M accuses her,
  
• When he wouldn't let M go to jail despite the video evidence but would want to send SK to jail despite the eye-witness telling that he didn't shoot.
• When he wouldn't question AC one last time after her confessing to drugging him despite Imlie claiming otherwise,
  
• When he wouldn't file a case on AC saying her going or not going to jail doesn't make a difference but would want SK behind the bars saying he was the culprit - doesn't matter who instigated him.

Not to keep an account of his wrongdoings but to show you where I found it in his actions. These were some of my observations, still not able to gather all my thoughts but let's call it a day. So this is my POV.

I still stand by my point. I'm not insulting AKT, not even blaming him. This is too common in our society too. Would any of us not react the way the Ts did if we were in their place? I can't say no with confidence.

But joh hain vo hain, he did what he did, and he realized his mistakes too. He supported her and fought for her after that, not before that. I mentioned what he did before that in bold. While we constantly remind ourselves of what he did after he realized his mistakes, the topic of the thread is not about what Adi did for Imlie. I know and I remember what all he did for his love. I also remember that he was ready to die for all the hurt he caused Imlie and that is forgotten. But that doesn't mean the things in bold never happened. Trying hard not to offend anyone so please consider.