Why Malini fails to be a sympathetic character

This is obviously a personal view and please don't misconstrue it as character bashing.

Personally, the reason Malini fails to be a sympathetic character in this situation boils down to her reaction to the situation.

Most especially the suicide attempt, I'm assuming it was done to make her sympathetic to us, and most importantly the other characters especially Adi's family, from the writing I've seen so far.

Here's where it went wrong for me, the whole suicide attempt was done to gain Adi's attention and not because of her emotional health, that's a very toxic, manipulative and abusive mindset. It's very telling because as soon as she left the hospital, she not only came back to his house but his room instead of going back home like any self-respecting woman and leaving his toxicity behind. Not only that but she's acting like there's a hope for this relationship (sharing bed, honeymoon etc) when it caused her to go such great lengths to seek his attention and she has suspicions on his feelings towards her.

This is where she fails to gain my sympathies because she would have been one of my favourite characters had she left him behind, sought therapy and concentrated on moving on instead she chose to be manipulative and emotionally abusive.

Now Adi is scared to tell her the truth because of the suicide attempt and is stuck in this loveless marriage (Adi is a very flawed character and no-one is denying that but at the end of the day, he didn't do it on purpose -love happens- and has tried to be honest from the beginning).

Someone here will probably call me a hypocrite for being pro Imlie despite the harkatein she pulled at the beginning of this marriage and for still liking him but Imlie is still very young at the age of 18 and has a village girl upbringing whereas Malini should definitely be more mature as she's older and more educated.

If anything, the immature 18 year old has shown herself to be more mature than the lady who is nearly twice her age, and constantly pulls stunts like not eating, suicide attempt, leaving for parents house time and time again, and Imlie hasn't shown herself to be manipulative and emotionally abusive to her husband and in-laws.

Originally posted by: Ahlaam5

This is obviously a personal view and please don't misconstrue it as character bashing.

Personally, the reason Malini fails to be a sympathetic character in this situation boils down to her reaction to the situation.

Most especially the suicide attempt, I'm assuming it was done to make her sympathetic to us, and most importantly the other characters especially Adi's family, from the writing I've seen so far.

Here's where it went wrong for me, the whole suicide attempt was done to gain Adi's attention and not because of her emotional health, that's a very toxic, manipulative and abusive mindset. It's very telling because as soon as she left the hospital, she not only came back to his house but his room instead of going back home like any self-respecting woman and leaving his toxicity behind. Not only that but she's acting like there's a hope for this relationship (sharing bed, honeymoon etc) when it caused her to go such great lengths to seek his attention and she has suspicions on his feelings towards her.

This is where she fails to gain my sympathies because she would have been one of my favourite characters had she left him behind, sought therapy and concentrated on moving on instead she chose to be manipulative and emotionally abusive.

Now Adi is scared to tell her the truth because of the suicide attempt and is stuck in this loveless marriage (Adi is a very flawed character and no-one is denying that but at the end of the day, he didn't do it on purpose -love happens- and has tried to be honest from the beginning).

Someone here will probably call me a hypocrite for being pro Imlie despite the harkatein she pulled at the beginning of this marriage and for still liking him but Imlie is still very young at the age of 18 and has a village girl upbringing whereas Malini should definitely be more mature as she's older and more educated.

If anything, the immature 18 year old has shown herself to be more mature than the lady who is nearly twice her age, and constantly pulls stunts like not eating, suicide attempt, leaving for parents house time and time again, and Imlie hasn't shown herself to be manipulative and emotionally abusive to her husband and in-laws.

Disagree

Malini didnt attempt suicide to get his attention...she was pushed over the edge. Yes she should be strong enough to deal with issues but she was not in the frame of mind. I dont support suicide but to say it was a manipulative act is hardly right.

And which room is she expected to live in her sasural if not her bedroom? And this has been discussed in many threads, why is it expected of Malini to not give her marriage another chance? Why should she just jump to divorce? Why why why? She can very well choose to stay in loveless marriage all her life...its her choice. Didnt Imli choose to be maid in name of her forced marriage?

And aditya is not scared to reveal the truth due to Malini's health. Adi is a selfish hopeless man who just blames other people for his deeds. He blamed Malini for covering his lie...he has no morality. Spineless moron. And what is the logic in love-happens? If Malini had fallen in love with another guy while being married..she would be called characterless.. But aditya should be excused...he is man after all....rules are different for them...hypocrisy at another level

And why should Malini suffer alone? If aditya is suddenly in love with someone else, why exactly Malini should lay the red carpet for them? Which wife would do this?

And Imli has pulled enough stunts of her own...for a 18 year old she is over smart. Imli's biggest manipulations is the fact that she has pretended to be Malini's well wisher for the longest time while romancing aditya in Malini's bedroom.

Time and again have been reading anti Malini posts just to make Imli look good. That's not how things work.....anyways each to their own

Actually I am sympathetic towards her. Man comes back home, not even checking how Malini is doing. Forget abt he don't consider her as wife. For humanity sake also not showing concern about Malini. I felt sad for Malini, for this man she tried to commit scuicide.

I want Malini to move out with her mother to different city. But if she does that show will end there. Lets see how long they will show malini fighting with her heart. Really sad status of hers.

She already failed to gain sympathy. If she had the audacity, then she would pack her bags & be at her mother's house. If she wanted, she could've taken the initiative to interrogate her husband directly as supposed waiting for him to open up or react wherein she would lose her consciousness. Yes, Aditya is failing to tell her truth but woh konsa pehel kari h to ask him directly? Rather, just cook up some fake boyfriend to get a reaction out of him?

To each their own. But I am sure there are enough people who find Malini the only likable character in this show. If it is ok for her legal husband to cheat on her with her maid but not okay for her take some time to come to terms with the betrayal or have a knee jerk reaction to it.

Originally posted by: fantasyshowfan

To each their own. But I am sure there are enough people who find Malini the only likable character in this show. If it is ok for her legal husband to cheat on her with her maid but not okay for her take some time to come to terms with the betrayal or have a knee jerk reaction to it.

Didn't she already had her knee jerk reaction when she tried to commit suicide?

After giving out every possible reaction, she is taking time to come to term with so called 'betrayals.

Ya, surely that makes sense.

I am sure Malini has her own audience, but except sympathy what even that audience can give her.

Originally posted by: gopi2929

Disagree

Malini didnt attempt suicide to get his attention...she was pushed over the edge. Yes she should be strong enough to deal with issues but she was not in the frame of mind. I dont support suicide but to say it was a manipulative act is hardly right.

And which room is she expected to live in her sasural if not her bedroom? And this has been discussed in many threads, why is it expected of Malini to not give her marriage another chance? Why should she just jump to divorce? Why why why? She can very well choose to stay in loveless marriage all her life...its her choice. Didnt Imli choose to be maid in name of her forced marriage?

And aditya is not scared to reveal the truth due to Malini's health. Adi is a selfish hopeless man who just blames other people for his deeds. He blamed Malini for covering his lie...he has no morality. Spineless moron. And what is the logic in love-happens? If Malini had fallen in love with another guy while being married..she would be called characterless.. But aditya should be excused...he is man after all....rules are different for them...hypocrisy at another level

And why should Malini suffer alone? If aditya is suddenly in love with someone else, why exactly Malini should lay the red carpet for them? Which wife would do this?

And Imli has pulled enough stunts of her own...for a 18 year old she is over smart. Imli's biggest manipulations is the fact that she has pretended to be Malini's well wisher for the longest time while romancing aditya in Malini's bedroom.

Time and again have been reading anti Malini posts just to make Imli look good. That's not how things work.....anyways each to their own

Yes she did and the script supports that, if she was pushed over the edge, why would she return to the house so easily for the man 'who pushed to her to the edge'. Forget that, why did she put on her whole wedding attire to commit suicide, that's not pushed of the edge, that's a very calculative and manipulative move, she was very clearly in the frame of mind.

It was definitely to manipulate into Adi taking her back because she didn't even refuse into walking back to the house. And her entire language about committing suicide is very manipulative and emotionally abusive.

'You always make me wait so I thought I would make you wait this time. You will live happily without me' -The first few things Malini says to Adi.

What a joke of a script but it truly shows her character, she was not pushed in a corner. It was a calculated and abusive behaviour and she said it herself just not in those words. It was revenge as Adi said.

She clearly doesn't care about her mum, dad, grandma and anyone else who loves as long she takes her 'revenge' on Adi, what a selfish action to take in this situation but I guess she finally got some attention from Adi as she wanted. Wish the writers treated this scene/situation more sensitively and gave it the justice it deserved.

She herself admitted to Adi that she committed suicide because of some nonsensical 'fictional man' (we know for sure, it's because of Adi) to gauge whether Adi would get jealous.

Adi is right in this instance, what kind of example is she setting by trying to commit suicide over one stupid man. She's doing it for badla and that's nothing but toxic, manipulative and abusive without a question.

Ofcourse it's her choice to stay in a loveless but it's not okay for her to force and emotionally abuse someone else into staying into a loveless marriage. Her life, her choice and his life, his choice. Adi should have the right to get a divorce from her if he wants but if she attempts stunts like not eating and committing suicide when he's not around then he's forced to be bound into a loveless and abusive marriage with her.

Yes Adi made a mistake marrying her because he thought himself into be love with her but now he's trying to rectify the situation and she's basically not letting him. He should be able to walk away from the marriage should he want to and not be stuck because she wants to save the marriage.

You can only save a marriage when both participants are willing for it to work not only when one person wants it.

If Malini fell in love with someone else then I would happily support her, I can't speak for the misogynistic society and I don't agree with their norms, values and views so don't put that on me please. I hold the same respect and standards for all genders.

So instead of Malini getting therapy, moving on and doing better, you want everyone to suffer in a loveless including everyone involved families? I don't understand that but okay. Malini would do better for herself and her mental health to leave a man who doesn't want her behind instead of torturing herself and their families like this.

You can't force someone to love you, unrequited love is just that, unrequited. You'll only make yourself unhappy instead gracefully move on.

Imlie has never pretended that she cared about Malini, if anyone has done that, it's Malini who cares to pretend that she cares about Imlie. When she wants, Imlie is her family but she's truly shown herself when she said Imlie was only a naukrani, she's happy to leave Imlie in the hands of her abusive mom and act blind, dumb and deaf. She knows what her is like but she doesn't care.

Unfortunately the writing for this show is weak and I do wish they hadn't put the romance in while Adilini were still technically together but Imlie like any human being is flawed and she's in a tight situation and she's very young, he is her husband first and foremost not a stranger.

I do take age, maturity and background into account when I look at the characters.

I'm not making Imlie look good but she makes for a sympathetic yet flawed character and so does Adi to some extent, very very flawed but still sympathetic.

Whereas Malini is not very sympathetic, her actions are very calculated, very manipulative, very selfish and most of all I'm unable to connect with her looking at her age, maturity and background.

It's not anti Malini post, per say, but a constructive criticism on how she's been written so far. Wish the writers would give us a strong, dynamic, sympathetic character but it's also true that people like Malini exist.

They're just not my cup of tea.

I used to like her initially and bond she shared with Imlie. I knew her finding out truth will be heart breaking, but now I just feel a chore that should be completed, because her character is all over the place, wrecking up the story.

I would still some how would have made my peace with her inconsistency, but overdose of screen space and a tunnel vision support given to her, makes it impossible for me.

'She is being cheated and she is the legal wife' are not only factors that make a character worthy watching. So, as a character, i don't find any substance in her since beginning, now it's just being annoying.

Originally posted by: Hari73

Actually I am sympathetic towards her. Man comes back home, not even checking how Malini is doing. Forget abt he don't consider her as wife. For humanity sake also not showing concern about Malini. I felt sad for Malini, for this man she tried to commit scuicide.

I want Malini to move out with her mother to different city. But if she does that show will end there. Lets see how long they will show malini fighting with her heart. Really sad status of hers.

It's sad to that she tried to commit suicide for a man that doesn't care about her except she did if for revenge and to seek attention and I can never get behind this type of suicide for this reason.

Suicide has treated to lightly in this show and I wish it got the due it deserved except this show seems to glorify it on some level.

I want her and her mum to move out and do better for themselves, they both deserved better than this. The only problem and why they fail for me is they both refuse to move on and do better for themselves, instead she seems to be on the path to becoming like her mum; bitter, cold and abusive.

Why will the story end if the script shows us getting herself help, moving on as a parallel story and doing better for herself. If the writers had the guts to do that, she would become one of my absolute favourite characters and a role model (that's been already by the suicide attempt right now but there's still hope for her character for me) except these serials never want to write layered multi-dimensional characters.

Originally posted by: Writer_Soul

I used to like her initially and bond she shared with Imlie. I knew her finding out truth will be heart breaking, but now I just feel a chore that should be completed, because her character is all over the place, wrecking up the story.

I would still some how would have made my peace with her inconsistency, but overdose of screen space and a tunnel vision support given to her, makes it impossible for me.

'She is being cheated and she is the legal wife' are not only factors that make a character worthy watching. So, as a character, i don't find any substance in her since beginning, now it's just being annoying.

Someone who understands me truly.

"'She is being cheated on and she is the legal wife' are not the only factors that make a character worthy of watching."👏👏👏

It does not even make for a multi dimensional character nor a sympathetic one.

You're right, there's no substance to her, no consistency and the writing is absolutely in shambles when it comes to her characterisation. It's very disengaging.

Especially the way Adi's family is on her side and blamed the suicide attempt on Adi, glorifying it. I was most disappointed in Nishant, for a very educated man. His character is another mess.

I don't understand the families tunnel vision for Malini and why they bare their tummies (like a weak scared animal) to Malini's mum when she never created these unconditional bonds with the family and Rupi is the only voice of reason tbh. The only consistent one apart from Adi, Imlie etc

Her character at this point is literally the reason 85% of the other characters in the show are being ruined.