Well, what can I say about an episode which fulfilled so many of my wishes i.e. Aditya taking a stand for Imlie, Adi-AC confrontation and finally the question to Malini "If she knows her mother". My answer is "No". 😊
Anyways, for me, today the episode was a bird's-eye view to so many layers that we will see unfolding in the near future but the major was the widening crack between Aditya and Malini relationship or should I say another insight to their shaky foundation. This time, it was not understanding but "Bharosa". That word struck me as soon as Aditya's mom asked him "Tujhe malini pe bharosa nahih hain kya" and at the end of the episode, I was asking myself the same question.
They say that love is the center of a marital relationship but it can crumble very fast if it does not have the support of trust, affection, care, respect and understanding. We have already established that there is no understanding between them but is there no trust too? Because if there was trust, would Aditya come running to Malini's house? Wouldn’t he wait or wouldn’t a simple call be suffice, confirming that everything is good? I guess not and I think it all goes back to the basic problem of their relationship, Aditya's insecurity about the class difference and Malini inability to recognize or address it. Methinks, over the years, Aditya must have faced similar taunts from AC and every time instead of cutting it at its root, Malini either might have ignored it or bandaged it with her "Woe is me" act. This might have made Aditya reluctant to discuss it, bring it up or just plain give up. Thus resulting in the trust not getting build where he feels that she can protect another person against her mother's vitriol especially as she was not able to do it for him. The fight though started with Imlie but I think, it soon escalated with him airing out all the grievances that he must have felt over the years when he was in a similar situation, where time and again, Malini must have pulled him (ghasita)into similar situations with her mother by just being plain selfish only about her and her family's wants, needs and demands, rather than recognizing how uncomfortable Aditya is feeling.
Trust is earned not given and Malini, may be because she cannot handle confrontation or may be because she is reluctant to see any black spots in her relationship or because of the walls that she has built around her, to protect herself from emotional turmoil , has failed to earn that trust where Aditya feels secure with her, her class or her upbringing. Its seems like most of their fights have ended with Malini being emotionally hurt and Aditya making amends due to the guilt of hurting his little princess, thus failing in addressing this core issue between them.
Surprisingly, even after the two recent fights between them, where the same issue was brought out by Aditya, instead of addressing it, she is more concerned about why she was not the limelight of his care and concern. Ok, I will give that to her that she may be too upset after Aditya's outburst. But shouldn’t she after 7 years be used to it by now and be able to read between the lines? Imlie can but I guess she cannot Anyways, hopefully after they have all calmed down, she revisits their two fights and come to the conclusion that problem is Aditya's insecurity and takes measures to address it for a healthy relationship. I very much doubt though.🥱
The second major point in the episode was Imlie's breakdown. AC is a very astute women and maybe because of her husband, she can sense and connect things that others cannot. Her words were like a bucket of cold water on Imlie who is equally astute but also sensible. Till date, Aditya has multiple times made it clear to her, of his fear that the truth about their "nakli" relationship would destroy his "asli" relationship. Hence, they both have taken measures, defined boundaries and done what can be done to ensure that the nature of their relationship remans a secret. Little do they know that their relationship dynamics is changing, as feelings are entering into their equation and both of them have failed to consider its implications. Relationships can be hidden but feelings cannot and Aditya's outburst today was a prime example of it. Yes, there is no love there yet but there is care, protectiveness, affection, trust, all predecessors to love. Imlie who is more sensitive out of the two, immediately connected the dots after AC words. She understands that there is big difference between a relationship crumbling because of a truth about a forced relationship vs growing feelings for a third person, however platonic they might be. First one can be blamed on circumstance but the second cannot and hence a heartfelt plea to her Sita Maiyaa that she, as in herself (not the relationship) should not be the reason for breakup. (My wish too) Thus, I think going forward Imlie might take measures to defuse the situation but Aditya, for whom these thoughts are not even on the horizon of his conscious mind, might just walk on the path that he kept insisting that he did not want to walk on i.e. the path where his "nakli" rishta might very well become "asli".
This episode, for some reason, brought back to me, that picture of Aditya where he was holding the two coins. At that time, I had asked this question on your post that "who will he cherish more?". Today's episode kind of answered a part of it that question that is, though, he wants to cherish the silver coin more, he is unable to do it because of the weight of expectations that are attached to it. He wants to hold it tightly, protect it but its slipping away as it keeps reminding him about his insecurity and how unworthy he is of that coin. On the other hand, holding on to the simple copper coin is so effortless because it is so much like him, has no expectations from him, and gives him a feeling of apnapan that makes him want to cherish and protect it from the harsh world. 😊
Edited by pamk06 - 4 years ago
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