How to Choose ?????-between right and wrong

Yesterday episode was stuck in my mind...i was thinking...how ...how to decide between right and wrong when the person standing in front of you is your elder . Now dadi ji has her on set of rules on which she have belief...directly saying no to them...is being rude to your elder . Staying with your morals and values ...apni jagah...but you can't just disobey your elders...especially when they even are not aware that what you are as a person .You are new to the place . So how will the decision be taken ???????...Now we all know that today indira will not be ready to put those shoes on her head...but will that be right ?????...ofcourse for us...but will it be right for the family...?????...No...not right...that is a conservative family...and they are believing in some things from the past years...now suddenly a person with new thinking joins the family...will the things change ????...or will the kind of understanding be there ????...no...it takes a lot of time for thinkings to change...

So in such a situation what according to you guys is right...What would you have done if you were ever trapped in such a situation...?...you knew the person is your elder ...and your husband's grand mother whom you are meeting for the very first time...the family is your husband's family...so even when what was ordered to you was against your values...you will do it for the happiness of elders standing there and will not take it as an insult . After that slowly and gradually you will try to place your opinions in the family .Or you will reject that...say no to it...as your heart does not allow that...for you...their happiness does matter but not at the cost of your self respect . You will have confidence in yourself that you will make things right in future .

Now if you go with first way...Aren't you actually encouraging something you are against...may be later ...even after your tries...it will always be you who will bow down to the family happiness ...your opinions will never matter...So by continuously doing the tasks which are against your will...will not a part break in you ??????...it will be like a jail where you just have to do thinks asked...

and if you go for second option...the first impression your family will get is that the girl does not know to obey elders . Her "akad" matters more than the elders words for her . May be that will even spoil relations further . And if in future ...you kept on rejecting the things you were asked to you...a kind of gap will developed . Than making things fine will be like impossible . Now if you keep on rejecting...saying no...to your elders...especially those elders who are not aware about your nature...your values...things will get complicated .

So what's right and what's wrong...????...How should one deal with it ?????...

I don't know why Ila mam like throw her ridiculous ideas on us . I like the way Indira is understanding up for herself

and Indu very young yet open minded unlike that dadi . What kind of set rules is that to hold someone else shoes on ur head , am mean what century these ppl live in . She is a Dil not a slave for god sake

Everything in yesterday was wrong all the way . Anyways let see what a waits us

😆 They made Indira change in the middle of road with so many men around ( is this also conservative ideas )