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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: ashne


Preethi, over the years u become so comfortable with the other, that u begin to take him/her for granted. Sometimes u need to consciously look into urself to see if we r doing that😳



i will note that 😳 but still I feel in some things we should not take partner for granted, in stressful circumstance it will grow into bigger issues 😒

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Posted: 12 years ago
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i will note that 😳 but still I feel in some things we should not take partner for granted, in stressful circumstance it will grow into bigger issues 😒


Yes, it is a natural human tendency😒. I consciously make an effort not to do that😳
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: ashne


Anki🤗, u r out of hibernation😳

I don't think anyone of us is compatible in a relationship. We tend to mold ourselves accordingly. When we get into a relationship - the first thing that we realize or are drilled into us is that, compromises are necessary. Some find it easy, some find it hard. I don't think we change ourselves to fit into the others ideals but we mold ourselves in such a way that both are compatible. Here again, if one person ends up doing and the other doesn't - it won't work. But if you honestly do ur part, then the other will too.

I was talking in general - not related to InShi. But like u said, Ila has shown their relationship to be very fragile - like u said even after so many yrs and so many road blocks - they don't seem to understand each other. wonder why is that. What could have been a beautiful relationship of two completely opposite individuals have been turned into a joke (for lack of a better word).


Radhika! 🤗I edited what I wrote, a little. 😛 Added a bit.
Anyways, I know you definitely did not extrapolate keeping Inshi as your pivot. 😆 Its you and your experiences. On the other hand how can we really claim to understand anything using Inshi as an example. Ila gave Rishi so many qualities and he still fails to earn a living. I know its not a cake walk to joining an embassy just on the basis of having dabbled in linguistics and never practiced it. But Rishi has ample possibilities. But then again this is telly land where these career facets have been given to the characters according to situation. Rishi was shown as a linguist because Indira needed one, he was a lawyer because the situation demanded him to don the role of the knight in the shining armour inorder to bring forth justice to Mandira and Indira. And now he is shown the way he is to facilitate the story and its ludicrous plot. Same with Indira. Indira's past suddenly comes forward one fine day to take the story forward. That she had dropped out from law school in the last minute. 😆 So yes Inshi cannot be taken seriously into arguments and debates.
My point was the opposite actually. Acc to me these road block fail to gap the bridge. The time they needed to work on their relationship and their nascent marriage was not given to them. They were obviously attracted towards each other and decided to overlook little things which back then were these endearing flaws one could live with. Now they are not young lovers but responsible parents and a lot more. Their expectations stockpile every minute and cracks appear here and there. Changing over time away from each other will make the other person seem like a stranger after a while. Being away for 8 years is quite the fatal blow in a marriage. I know couples who married right out of college. YEars later they complain that the other person has changed beyond recognition. They still seem to cling on to the erstwhile image of their partner which is directly associated with blissful times which elude us post marriage due to our responsibilities and the problems and frustrations it seems to elicit.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Beautiful analysis of love,Kanan;no one could have written it better,👏👏👏.As for the questions that your words have raised,I would say,love will only change if it is conditioned,as is Indira's love for Rishi.But when one's love is unconditional,as Rishi's,love remains the same throughout,every season,every day.In fact,true love is when we stop finding faults in the one we love;true love is accepting the person as he/she is,not as one wants him/her to be.And Rishi has always loved Indira the way she is;he has always been true to his love.Whereas,Indira,I doubt,have even for once,loved Rishi unconditionally;and sometimes I feel she has accepted Rishi because he was the only choice she had.As I see it,Rishi is and will be always "in love" with Indira;and Indira has just loved Rishi.And there is a huge difference to be "in love",and to love.(well,this is what I have to say,and its an earnest request please,no hard feelings;its my opinion,which is made without trying to hurt any of the fan's feelings.)


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Posted: 12 years ago
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@Ankita and Radhika: Lots of thoughts (questions) crowding my pea sized brain right now. All beyond HD, actually 😊 Will hopefully be a bit more articulate after some sleep. See you'll tomorrow.

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: AllThingsNice

@Ankita and Radhika: Lots of thoughts (questions) crowding my pea sized brain right now. All beyond HD, actually 😊 Will hopefully be a bit more articulate after some sleep. See you'll tomorrow.


Will wait for ur thoughts😳
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Earnshaw

Beautiful analysis of love,Kanan;no one could have written it better,👏👏👏.As for the questions that your words have raised,I would say,love will only change if it is conditioned,as is Indira's love for Rishi.But when one's love is unconditional,as Rishi's,love remains the same throughout,every season,every day.In fact,true love is when we stop finding faults in the one we love;true love is accepting the person as he/she is,not as one wants him/her to be.And Rishi has always loved Indira the way she is;he has always been true to his love.Whereas,Indira,I doubt,have even for once,loved Rishi unconditionally;and sometimes I feel she has accepted Rishi because he was the only choice she had.As I see it,Rishi is and will be always "in love" with Indira;and Indira has just loved Rishi.And there is a huge difference to be "in love",and to love.(well,this is what I have to say,and its an earnest request please,no hard feelings;its my opinion,which is made without trying to hurt any of the fan's feelings.)


Arpita 🤗 🤗

So glad to see you come out of hiding. You deprive us of your comments and posts and fiction.

Again, will comment on 'love' tomorrow...hope to see you around more often.

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Earnshaw

Beautiful analysis of love,Kanan;no one could have written it better,👏👏👏.As for the questions that your words have raised,I would say,love will only change if it is conditioned,as is Indira's love for Rishi.But when one's love is unconditional,as Rishi's,love remains the same throughout,every season,every day.In fact,true love is when we stop finding faults in the one we love;true love is accepting the person as he/she is,not as one wants him/her to be.And Rishi has always loved Indira the way she is;he has always been true to his love.Whereas,Indira,I doubt,have even for once,loved Rishi unconditionally;and sometimes I feel she has accepted Rishi because he was the only choice she had.As I see it,Rishi is and will be always "in love" with Indira;and Indira has just loved Rishi.And there is a huge difference to be "in love",and to love.(well,this is what I have to say,and its an earnest request please,no hard feelings;its my opinion,which is made without trying to hurt any of the fan's feelings.)



Hi Earnshaw! Long time, I hope you are doing fine. 😊
I cant seem to put Rishi in such a tight spot. 😆 No one deserves to be incriminated for being over selfless. That is one pressure under which any sane man can crack. See Rishi's love might be more selfless as opposed to Indiras. I can happily concede there. But the bare fact remains that the qualities that used to entice Rishi once have started annoying him now(Maybe because he is far more practical! So a difference in ideals or temperamant maybe? Or simply because Indira's usools cant be given so much importance since a small little child has been thrown into the equation?) But now her principles have started bothering him and have come between them. He cant really accept her the way she is, now can he? 😊 No one can love another person unconditionally. Why is Rishi stockpiling so much expectations from her if his love was unconditional? His condition is that she accept him the way he is and not bother try and changing him. Every human being has vested interest no matter how small. I feel a selfless relationship is tailor made and quite frankly impossible.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: AllThingsNice

@Ankita and Radhika: Lots of thoughts (questions) crowding my pea sized brain right now. All beyond HD, actually 😊 Will hopefully be a bit more articulate after some sleep. See you'll tomorrow.


I was going to say the same thing. Brain completely fried. I am trying to keep up with what Radhika and you wrote. I tried reading Radhika's answer a few times, blinked my eyes and resigned when my head started paining. So much to think and so much to write but then again I have been staring at my laptop screen in futility. 😆 We all need to sleep on it. Thank you for going through our comments. Makes us feel appreciated. 😳
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: AnkitalovesHD


I was going to say the same thing. Brain completely fried. I am trying to keep up with what Radhika and you wrote. I tried reading Radhika's answer a few times, blinked my eyes and resigned when my head started paining. So much to think and so much to write but then again I have been staring at my laptop screen in futility. 😆 We all need to sleep on it. Thank you for going through our comments. Makes us feel appreciated. 😳


Was it so incomprehensible, Anki. Frankly speaking, i don't think I have been able to give a coherent view of my thots

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