Kaisa yeh pyaar hai? - Page 2

Originally posted by: ashne

Kanan, Initial feelings don't undergo radical changes. But I do believe that People change over time and so does ur feelings. The feelings of love when u marry someone and 10, 15 yrs later are very different. It may still be love, but emotionally different (I don't know if I'm making any sense here). The things u give to a relationship and the things u expect from it also changes over time. This is my POV, thru my experience.😊

Whoa! So much said in such few words! 😊 I think I understand partially. But I am struggling to put this in words. Bear with me, please.

The initial rush of love (or what we think of as love) has to die down and reach a calmer, more mature phase. This maturity is what I think you are referring to in the 10-15 years bit. The hard work put into making a relationship work is the expectations bit. Sometimes, one person works harder than the other leading to a tilt in the equation. Maybe even leading to some (or a lot of) friction.

But the initial feelings do not undergo radical changes even if the people do change. Thats what stumps me a bit. So, again, my limited understanding kicks in here. It remains love, but does the love stretch itself to encompass and accommodate the changed person? Or does it hang on to memories of the person we fell in love with? So, in essence, love does change, right? Or does this depend on the type of person one is? Sorry...I know this is messy and badly worded.

@bold: This makes perfect sense to me. A few months after she married the man she loved, one of my friends said that 'love' is a different beast. Within a few months of marriage, she was able to view her 'love' with complete objectivity. Now I don't know if this made any sense.

PS: Reminds me of a song from a very old Hindi film "pyaar ko pyaar hi rehne do koi naam na do"

Sorry to bore you. I blabbered a lot. May I know your name please? If you don't mind.

Originally posted by: -dear10-

kesa ye pyaar hai , zindagi bekaar hai 🤣

logo ko yehi nahi pata ki unko chahiye kya pesa ya pyaar abhi pyaar mil raha hai to pesa chahiye kal pese milenge to pyaar chahiye hoga 😆

esa nahi ki rishi try nahi karta 8 saal pehle wo noukri karta tha magar wo kya kare uski life asaan nahi uski biwi ko BT ho gaya ab prem pujari lag gaya patni ki sewa main jiski aaj ke time main kadar hi nahi hai wo bhi shrimati ji ko bahana hi lagega 😆

khud apni family ko sambhal nahi sakti what she want mil gaya na pati isharo par naachne wala jo iski family ko apnaye ye shart bhi rakh deti shadi se pehle ki uska kamanna jaruri hai 😆 inko to pati ke kamane ke tareeke se bhi problem hai 😆

ab bas rishi ko apni kamayi ko talaak de dena chahiye uski khushi ke liye yahi sahi rahega 😆koi bhi chhota mota kaam karke apna or beti ka guzara chala sakta hai kamse kam kisi par bjh to nahi banega bas bolne ki baat hoti hai ki apne bojh nahi hote 😆

baki precap main ye old cc ki doctors aunty jinko kisi lady ka chakker aana khush khabri hi lagti hai inka koi kya kare sabko pata hai indira doctor ke paas jayegi or ghar aker jhoonth bolegi ab usko bhi to alag hona hai apne nikamme pati se 🤣

khud se rishi ko door karne ka kaam indira ko shadi se pehle karna chahiye tha tab karti to rishi ki zindagi humesha ke liye barbaad nahi hoti wo tabhi apni zimmedari samajh jata like ashique movie 😆

na dream hai na passion deewana banke biwi ko pyaar karo anjaam yahi hoga ek din wahi biwi dhikkaregi 😆

nice post kanan

judai ka alam aa gaya hai ab alag hona hi hoga or phir zindagi jung hai karke rona hi hoga 😆

one more point rishtey todne wali adalat bhi dekh li aaj usool insaaf my foot 😡

Mona Di.. Aapka ye Hitler roop mujhe bahut pasand hai..😆..

pati ke paise kaamane ke tareeke se be patni behaal hai

Chalo, RK ke liye dialogues tayaar hai Writers ka kaam asaan hai 😆

Originally posted by: -PD-

Love wonot change but circumstances changes... responsibilities creates these circumstances.

Everything has a limit, even love has a limit.. In love, one should take the other person as guaranteed... True

if you take the wife and husband who came to fight... wife said he is not working and husband says i married her because she said she has job and he donot need to work and concentrate on his dreams.. this will look good initial stages but as soon as responsibilities grow the frustration levels will increase, difference will occur which will dominate the love.
Here husband has taken wife as guaranteed as a tool who will work for him and wife took husband as guaranteed feeling i have worked hard to take care of him so now he has to listen to me.

I have seen a live example in my life of such couple (thank god their are not married before they broke up), they loved each other for 6 to 7 years... girl got the job and she is ready to get married to the guy and said she has the job so no need to worry about his job or money.
But later their relationship when sour when the girl asked the guy to be serious about his job as her alone salary is not sufficient for them.. at the end they break-up...

I hope my post makes some sense in compared to your post 😳

Makes a lot of sense, Preethiji 😊 Has me thinking about many things...

Originally posted by: light_28

Mona Di.. Aapka ye Hitler roop mujhe bahut pasand hai..😆🤣..

i m truely a fan .

Smash hit lines di..

khud se rishi ko door karne ka kaam indira ko shadi se pehle karna chahiye tha tab karti to rishi ki zindagi humesha ke liye barbaad nahi hoti wo tabhi apni zimmedari samajh jata like ashique

dI.. aapke post mein ye shayaari kamal ki hai..

Kaisa yeh pyaar hai.. Zindagi bekaar hai

Logon ko yehi nahi pat ki unhe chahiye paisa ya pyaar hai

Pyaar milaga toh puchenge paisa kahan hai

Ab toh itna bura haal hai ki

pati ke paise kaamane ke tareeke se be patni behaal hai🤣🤣

Chalo, RK ke liye dialogues tayaar hai 🤣Writers ka kaam asaan hai 😆

Yes, she's on a roll! Full bhadaas Monaji ne bhi nikaal di 😆

I have been wanting to ask...Monaji, may I please read the FF you're writing? Please send it to me too.

Originally posted by: AllThingsNice

Makes a lot of sense, Preethiji 😊 Has me thinking about many things...

Originally posted by: -PD-

small correction kanan 😆 i just saw i wrote something wrong in my post 😳

In love, one should NOT take the other person as granted.. 😳

power fluctuations are happening here so i wrote in a hurry 😆

Of course...I understood that you meant that. And that's the bit that has me thinking. Will write it down when its a bit clearer in my head. 😊

Originally posted by: AllThingsNice

Whoa! So much said in such few words! 😊 I think I understand partially. But I am struggling to put this in words. Bear with me, please.

The initial rush of love (or what we think of as love) has to die down and reach a calmer, more mature phase. This maturity is what I think you are referring to in the 10-15 years bit. The hard work put into making a relationship work is the expectations bit. Sometimes, one person works harder than the other leading to a tilt in the equation. Maybe even leading to some (or a lot of) friction.

But the initial feelings do not undergo radical changes even if the people do change. Thats what stumps me a bit. So, again, my limited understanding kicks in here. It remains love, but does the love stretch itself to encompass and accommodate the changed person? Or does it hang on to memories of the person we fell in love with? So, in essence, love does change, right? Or does this depend on the type of person one is? Sorry...I know this is messy and badly worded.

@bold: This makes perfect sense to me. A few months after she married the man she loved, one of my friends said that 'love' is a different beast. Within a few months of marriage, she was able to view her 'love' with complete objectivity. Now I don't know if this made any sense.

PS: Reminds me of a song from a very old Hindi film "pyaar ko pyaar hi rehne do koi naam na do"

Sorry to bore you. I blabbered a lot. May I know your name please? If you don't mind.

Originally posted by: -PD-

small correction kanan 😆 i just saw i wrote something wrong in my post 😳

In love, one should NOT take the other person as granted.. 😳

power fluctuations are happening here so i wrote in a hurry 😆

Originally posted by: ashne

Kanan, Initial feelings don't undergo radical changes. But I do believe that People change over time and so does ur feelings. The feelings of love when u marry someone and 10, 15 yrs later are very different. It may still be love, but emotionally different (I don't know if I'm making any sense here). The things u give to a relationship and the things u expect from it also changes over time. This is my POV, thru my experience.😊

Originally posted by: AnkitalovesHD

Hi Kanan, this is Ankita. Loyal follower of your posts actually. 😆 Ummm sorry to butt in. Most of the comments on your threads are very thought provoking. Felt like addressing Radhika on what she said.

Radhika: I think I partly relate to what you just said. I believe that change is constant. None of us are the same people we were 10 years back. So I can imagine people falling out of love too as years pass. Often the person we fell in love with has changed so much over the years that we are left reminiscing the good ol days and wonder what ever went wrong. Apologies for a derailed train of thought, I fail to put my thoughts into coherent sentences. My main point being that Inshi are particularly different. Maybe their expectations from each other are so high because off the number of times their relationship has hit the end of the road, only to start from scratch. I mean they were married and separated. They hit minor road bumps every two days. Clearly none of them have rubbed off on each other. Are they compatible? But honestly are anyone of us compatible in a relationship or do we mould ourselves to suit the desired situation, get tired one fine day which results in the shift in the paradigm? Love surely is an enigma. The reasons why we fall in love or fall out of love elude me. 😊 But every married couple can vouch for your statement. The one about how the context changes over times. It is true. We are only human beings.

I find this idea of one's emotions about love being challenged when times are rather suffocating, quite cloying. 😊 Trust and understand are the key words. Its easier said than done thought. The attributes Rishi and Indira once found so desirable in one another upsets them now