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Hello Friends..the reason for this post is i would like to share something with u all which will be useful for u not only in this forum but everywhere that u go. How many of u knew about the author Karan Salmansohn? For those who does not know her, she is a self-help book author. In one of her book, she actually have offered empowering strategies for embracing forgiveness. i have taken up a part from an article which i found online and thought of sharing it with u.
Say a Prayer
Whenever angry feelings about a person who's harmed you enter your mind, tell yourself: "We are all good, loving souls who occasionally get lost." Pray for this person to find their way back to a happier place.
Focus on Gratitude
Resist seeking happiness from the outside in. Instead, focus on gratitude exercises to bring happiness from the inside out. If you allow your self-image to be at the mercy of unpredictable events and unreliable people, your happiness will be forever on a chaotic roller coaster ride! Happiness must always be an inside joy! When you are tempted to focus on all the ways the world has done you wrong, instead count your blessings by making a list of the five aspects of your life that you appreciate. It is good practice to purposefully end your day this way to keep focused.
Look for the Lesson
Many Buddhists consider huge difficulties to be a sign you're an old soul'the bigger your misfortunes, the closer you are to enlightenment. Whether you believe this or not, it's certainly cheery to reframe all your life's bad events as tests of your character. If you feel particularly tested right now, ask yourself what the heck you're being tested for! Patience? Compassion? Resilience? Forgiveness? Open-mindedness? What strengths must you develop further? Now consciously go out there and develop them!
Whenever angry feelings about a person who's harmed you enter your mind, tell yourself: "We are all good, loving souls who occasionally get lost." Pray for this person to find their way back to a happier place.
Focus on Gratitude
Resist seeking happiness from the outside in. Instead, focus on gratitude exercises to bring happiness from the inside out. If you allow your self-image to be at the mercy of unpredictable events and unreliable people, your happiness will be forever on a chaotic roller coaster ride! Happiness must always be an inside joy! When you are tempted to focus on all the ways the world has done you wrong, instead count your blessings by making a list of the five aspects of your life that you appreciate. It is good practice to purposefully end your day this way to keep focused.
Look for the Lesson
Many Buddhists consider huge difficulties to be a sign you're an old soul'the bigger your misfortunes, the closer you are to enlightenment. Whether you believe this or not, it's certainly cheery to reframe all your life's bad events as tests of your character. If you feel particularly tested right now, ask yourself what the heck you're being tested for! Patience? Compassion? Resilience? Forgiveness? Open-mindedness? What strengths must you develop further? Now consciously go out there and develop them!
Maintain Perspective
If you're going through a challenging time, remind yourself that this specific event is merely a part of your life'not your "whole" life. Consciously keep this "slice of life" perspective, and don't let the event overwhelm you. As the song goes, "The best is yet to come!"
Learn the Lesson
Develop a "student not victim" mentality. Vow not only to disentangle yourself from emotionally harmful situations, but also to consciously avoid similar situations in the future.
Let Go of Resentment
Keep in mind a fabulous Carrie Fisher quote: "Resentment is the poison you swallow hoping the other person will die." Recognize that when you resent someone, you are not only hurting yourself, you're also giving this person control of your emotions and you don't want to give this person bubkes!
Stay Centered
Recognize that when you respond with hate to hate, anger to anger, bitterness to bitterness, you are ironically becoming part of the problem. Choose to resist becoming like them and instead put in the conscious effort to remain a loving, soulful, happy person.
Get Revenge Positively
Contemplating revenge? The best kind of revenge is living a successful, happy life. If you train yourself to consistently be more loving in thoughts and actions, your energy will attract more positive people and positive results. As Albert Einstein said, "You can't solve a problem by staying in the same energy in which it was created." To stay focused on highly positive thoughts, repeat this meditation ritual throughout the day: "Love, forgiveness, letting go, peace."
So many things have happened here in this forum. The best thing to do is to forget and forgive. Holding on to the past and blaming others are not going to bring u anywhere. U are going to miss a lot in the life if u do that. Just remember that life is short and u have no clue on what might happen on the next minute. Thank you for those who take time to read this post. I hope u got something here. We wanted the world to be a peace place for us to live in. If we cant make peace in a forum then how can we expect the world to be a peace place. Nothing is in God's hand. It is all in our hand. Let's all forget and forgive. Be friends and make this forum the coolest place in I-F.😊
If you're going through a challenging time, remind yourself that this specific event is merely a part of your life'not your "whole" life. Consciously keep this "slice of life" perspective, and don't let the event overwhelm you. As the song goes, "The best is yet to come!"
Learn the Lesson
Develop a "student not victim" mentality. Vow not only to disentangle yourself from emotionally harmful situations, but also to consciously avoid similar situations in the future.
Let Go of Resentment
Keep in mind a fabulous Carrie Fisher quote: "Resentment is the poison you swallow hoping the other person will die." Recognize that when you resent someone, you are not only hurting yourself, you're also giving this person control of your emotions and you don't want to give this person bubkes!
Stay Centered
Recognize that when you respond with hate to hate, anger to anger, bitterness to bitterness, you are ironically becoming part of the problem. Choose to resist becoming like them and instead put in the conscious effort to remain a loving, soulful, happy person.
Get Revenge Positively
Contemplating revenge? The best kind of revenge is living a successful, happy life. If you train yourself to consistently be more loving in thoughts and actions, your energy will attract more positive people and positive results. As Albert Einstein said, "You can't solve a problem by staying in the same energy in which it was created." To stay focused on highly positive thoughts, repeat this meditation ritual throughout the day: "Love, forgiveness, letting go, peace."
So many things have happened here in this forum. The best thing to do is to forget and forgive. Holding on to the past and blaming others are not going to bring u anywhere. U are going to miss a lot in the life if u do that. Just remember that life is short and u have no clue on what might happen on the next minute. Thank you for those who take time to read this post. I hope u got something here. We wanted the world to be a peace place for us to live in. If we cant make peace in a forum then how can we expect the world to be a peace place. Nothing is in God's hand. It is all in our hand. Let's all forget and forgive. Be friends and make this forum the coolest place in I-F.😊
samnewale aap ko galat samajha.--gali diya.
now you got hurt.aap ko ko gussa aaya.
now what you going to do??
palat kar gali doge??.thappad maroge??
then again he will retaliate.
this hurting each other will continue forever.
so i have a solution for you to end this.if you like it then use it.
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aap ko gussa aaya though wait one min.take deep breath.don't retaliate.
instead say sorry to your opponent.
aap though bahut gussa ho.shayad anjane main meri taraf se galthi huwi hogi.please forgive me if i hurt you .
mujhe maaf karo.
extend your friendship hand to him again.
now your opponent will surprised by your behavior.his ego is satisfied.
usse bura bhi lagega for hurting you.he will also think -some where i made mistake my self.
2 min main he will say --sorry back to you.
and friendship will blossom again.and fight is ended.
try this.send pm to your friends now itself and this will going to end this forum fight.
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