life after a scandal - Page 5

Originally posted by: kavyasam

@tanu - I guess most indian girls thing that way and it is right, and some may have a different view and if they are adults then that is not wrong either. it is complicated and depends on what love means to that person and if marriage is for love or just for a legal partner. mera post ka literal meaning mat lena jo page 4 par hai. I was talking with the healthy mind point of view. :D.

@nisha - that is what I too meant if the person is worthy and emotions are involved. not with anyone just for the sake of it. marriage is the institute of sanctity and most boys and girls want to enter it with sanctity. like u said wait for the right person and right time and spend the precious school and college years towards building a better career and life, than get involved in matters like like this. I took the topic offtrack with my post 😆. let me stick to the after effects of this scandal.

Originally posted by: khota_sikka_sri

I don't know how they could have overcome it. When they do something like this, it becomes a part of life forever. You can run from it, but you can't hide from it.

Originally posted by: sakmhlove

I m totally against the sex bfore marriage.in the epi it was done by two teenagers who dont know the seriousness of this issue.it was silly mistake which they misht realise even widout this mms scandal.today youth should hav control on themselves.regarding this issue i m having indian thinking.the main thing which i dont like in western culture is having so many sexparteners.it is morally incorrect to me.in indian tv shows its the biggest thing.i m in favour of bcoming modern in many ways but not in this way.well i m aware of this fact now a days in india too it is bcoming normal but i dont like this fact.u should share urself physically n spiritually only wid a single person.dont giv opportunity to any guy to use u for his desires.

Originally posted by: kavyasam

ditto!!, when the girl says what is the big deal, she had no idea how big a deal it is going to be on the future

Originally posted by: Krani

Honestly speaking, if I met a guy who had made an mms of a girl he was with and distributed it to the world, or played part in the distribution, I would not be able to associate with him, because I'd be so disgusted with what he did.

I think the reason why he changed his identity was solely because he wanted to burn his past. Wanted to start on a fresh slate. However that meant that he missed out on the opportunities that he had before the mms scandal. ---- that is very valid point 👍🏼, yeah it did make him miss out on good opportunities.

I think the girl's situation was pretty realistically described. What's the one thing every parent wants for their daughter? A good house for her to get married into. Of course career and success are a huge part in their dream for their children, but usually they want to see their children settle down with good families and spouses. ---- ditto

Now coming to the Indian society, I think what Anjali's parents feared was that she would not find a good rishta since lot of mothers would not have let Anjali marry their son if they knew that an MMS of her having sex was distributed across the whole world. So they took her away from the place, and got her married off early just to put everything behind them. I am not saying she was forced into the marriage, but maybe Anjali felt so vulnerable after the incident that she thought that marriage was the next step in her life. --- yep anjali's future was not that bad, she got married had kids, instead of sulking she went ahead. and that is the best her parents could do for her. and being married and having a family is not a punishment. while what arpit got was punishment, like losing his own identity

obviously, being the smart, genius student she was, she certainly did not envision herself to be married and a mother of 2 by 25. But after the scandal, that's how she ended up.

One thing I disagreed .with in your post was that you insinuated that Anjali was at fault. I think she was more a victim than at fault. She trust Arpit, she was disgusted with how he showed his friends her video, and she was shocked and hurt at how it was distributed. She did not press the send button. She just loved a guy she thought loved her back. --- I still say she was wrong. She let himm have his way, if they were just having sex letting him make a video of it , she is equally to be blamed. She is not the only victim or culprit. If arpit distributed the video he did it out of ego and that put him a little above her in the whole thing, as in the scandal, but she is not innocent either. If she was mature enough to have a make out session in the school, she should have known she should not let herself get taped. his reason to record was so that he can watch it later when he remembers her, that should have been a warning bell for her.

Arpit may be a small victim in this as well - and i probably may have sympathised with him, if he hadn't firstly, had sex with the girl just to prove to his friends, and then sent the video to his friends out of spite.

Anyway, I am just happy that the two individuals were strong enough to continue on with their life and not end it after such an incident. ---- ditto again 😃

Originally posted by: kavyasam

ditto!!, when the girl says what is the big deal, she had no idea how big a deal it is going to be on the future

Originally posted by: mayandrah

sorry for reviving an old topic... but i just watched this episode...
first of all, i believe there are certain facts altered in the show...
this scandal was from 2004... I remember the girl's name was Antara... and she was 16 back then... which makes her 24 now... and not 25...
Secondly, I remember very well... both the girl and the boy moved abroad... and not to a small city, as stated in the show