Finally got around to watching the episode ! And whoa, that pep talk from the girlfriends did come after all, and how! One reason I got all disappointed yesterday was because they showed nothing of the girls' all nighter, and I didn't bet too much hope on their exclusive conversation again - but woot!
My favorite line - from all those brilliant dialogs, each one very explicit, precise and nothing to run on, which is where and why I always give these CVs a 10/10... they know how to make a point, without putting us through weeks of glaring at the obvious! They just put the nail over the hole and drive it in with one swift hammer blow! - anyway, my favorite, absolute favorite has to be kisi behet kimti cheez ko isliye nahin thukrana chaiye kyuki wo tuje iti asaani se mili hai... Honestly, for me, it summed up every other thing said and done.
Gulaal has never taken anything for granted, but she has always had a tendency of erroneous priorities. It's like her order of priority is inversely proportional to her order of preference. As a given. It's not just about Kesar. It's about this Talsagra home, that she was ready to walk out of because she couldn't stay and deal with Kesar's sudden love confessions. It's MB and his genuine displeasure with her, 10 years ago and now over her hasty decisions - honestly, for all her respect of that man, I thought she always put down his reprimand to just a difference of opinion where he would come around to see her thought, because it never happens the other way round. Sometimes, it almost frustrates me that she will pay greater heed and be even more hurt by Sudha's change of temperament with her, as opposed to MB. Not because she places Sudha over and above MB, but because her prioritizing is so utterly flawed. She truly doesn't see her mistake, where MB points it out, but can see her mistake where Sudha does. When PB reprimands her to have fixed Kesar's rishta years ago without even bothering to ask her - objectively speaking, Gulaal has taken her consent for granted too. Just like she took every elders consent for granted when she singularly made up her mind to perform the deeyarvattu with Kesar. I'm not going to accuse her of a second's lapse on her intention, or even on not thinking the best she can to her ability - but it's just so wrong, the way she takes those who matter the most, in the stride. Most recently, she has done it with Talli. While one side of her is deeply guilty and feels self chastised about not keeping her promise with Talli, the other side doesn't comprehend the gravity of pushing Talli in Kesar's way time and again. One of the greatest instances of her flawed priority/taken for granted attitudes was the showdown between Kesar and her when he finally confronted her over the Dushyant matter. Her absolute denial to explain herself - while partially justified because she truly has done only what's best in her eyes and given her all to it - was also very selfish.
I think what she takes most for granted, with people who matter most - is this innate believe that they will understand how her twisted mind works - no matter what - and further support her decisions, however out of line they may be. More often than not, she dismisses the significance of 'conversation' and 'explanation' which leads to at least half the crisis if not more. The way she expects those who 'love and know her most' to just take her word or action for whatever it is, because it is hers, is just, plain wrong. And that is where she manages to offend, distance, and sometimes irrevocably hurt the closest people in her life. It's like everything about her life is supposed to remain a secret between herself, and her Vasant portrait - and everyone else should just abide by it, because she knows its right, and they should accept it so.
Although her friend only refers to Kesar when she advises Gulaal against letting go of something priceless only because she's gotten it so easily - really, it's he habit she needs to mend. She needs to appreciate and understand, that people who care for her, are not going to be simply the happiest because she can stand at the altar of sacrifice and give her all to any cause she deems best for them - without asking them, if it really is so! Because she doesn't expect someone like Sudha to understand or forgive her like ... say MB, she will feel more obliged to remorse. Someone like her mother, who for all her nagging ways, is actually talking only sense for her welfare is told to mind her own business and stay out of Talsagra affairs... How ironic is that? it's like the most important people, come last. And because Kesar does matter the most, he gets to be taken most for granted. Interestingly, despite all the opposition in her way, and all the major hurdles of her life, Gulaal has always had some exceptionally generous amounts of support from people who care for her. Most of them will go more than out of their way just to give her her way with things, because she's given so much to the house, and done everything that she wasn't obligated to. Kesar, MB, PB...even Reva, Talli... are just people in that category. I suppose a part of her psyche works such that she assumes that if she's done so much for them, they obviously understand she only means well, and should know all her actions and decisions are in that accord, and should hence be accepted without question. And because everyone sooner or later complies - everyone but Kesar - she obviously finds herself time and again in a tussle with him in such situations.
Btw - Thumbs up to Bulbul saying that Kesar has volunteered to break off the deeyarvattu because Gulaal wants it and that is his love for her. Because to me this was the first blunt crack in the happy facade she made for herself in the face of Kesar's apology right after the Panchayat. Conveniently, when he asked for forgiveness for all he had done to hurt her, she made herself believe his 'so called love' was part of the regret. And it was his consequent realization that led him to break the deeyarvattu. Although Kesar nearly did repeat his love claim the other day - the way he stopped himself anc they continued the Talli conversation, and the way he's totally banned himself from making so much as a mention of it - Gulaal has found all her make shift ground to believe that he understands his love was frivolous. Which is what she tries to argue with today as well - thankfully (for her too) her friends can neither be duped, nor be quietened, and truly are her friends - who will bear the brunt of her ruffled feathers than not tell her blunt facts.
I do expect the GK showdown here after to not be a happy thank you and welcome affair - but I honestly hope Kesar will not be intimidated to silence only to not upset Gulaal because he's striving for the contrary these days. It was pretty obvious that he felt disappointed with her missing smile when he asked them to pose for a picture. Can you blame him? After he travels to the end of time to make her happy, she still ends up looking sour. Of course he'll be deflated. But still, I hope when the occasion arrives, he will have answers to give her, answers she is bound to not like. Hopefully he understands the distinction between giving her temporary happiness in following her cue, and long term happiness, in taking his chance to nock reason into her - not by employing his old means, but!
Phew! I'm half droopy writing this post - but I had to get it out of my system before crashing... excuse the incoherence/typos...!
xx
JZee
ps: While Kunal and talli are a match made in heaven - I'd stil like to root for Hell's combination of Dulli!
Arjun
