I agree with Neil fan and Simi👏👏👏, I am sorry, don't know your names.
It was her choice and she has to deal with the outcome as well. She knows there is an issue regarding the marriage for a long time and I don't ever see her explain or putting any boundaries with Kesar regarding their relationship. I feel somewhere deep within she wants Kesar as a whole (only for herself) but she is refusing to see him as her husband and even worse she almost thinks she is unworthy of any happiness. A person who can't love herself, what can she give to others? An empty jar doesn't have anything to give.
One word of hers during the dervattu really bothers me now: before the marriage she asked Kesar whether he trusts her? He said yes. I see her betraying his trust now. If not accepting the marriage she should have at least explained her side. Give him some light to their relationship. She is keeping him in dark in too many issues: the marriage, Thalli, Vasanth murder. It would have been different if she gave some hints to him about Thalli.
I hear many people describing Kesar as immature, but isn't he matured enough not to let loose of his haunting secret out at least until he knows the truth. He is seen as spoiled one in the eyes of his family still he has the capacity to keep everything with in him. Ironically the Gulaal whose only mission is to keep the family together is ignoring too much of signs and Kesar who is unintentionally doing the job. I do feel empathy for this woman but that doesn't justify her actions. Especially the way she is ignoring Kesar, I really don't get what is she achieving by that. I didn't see her coming to terms with her shock while at her mayaka, she was too busy shopping and the sarpanch issue. I don't see her joining the dots, Kesar's overnight changed behaviour with D and her (even the teacher got note of it), him refusing to ever meet her at the hostel, despite all the hatred him caring for her, giving importance to her happiness (his first question is always been r u happy), the way he behaves with D, his tears, out of nowhere him supporting Raman and respect him and other as well.
Regarding her treatment with D-I am not connecting with her either.
I think forgiving is a way of saying I am not going to spend my energy hating you. And in this case she chose to forgive him for Vasanth's dream. To me it is more of a guilt and blaming herself game, after all It is because of the lust for her that D killed Vasanth and in that accident she was present too so why not her but Vasanth sort of guilt.
The Birthday incident was originally to please JK who was complaining about whom give importance to her family but in the end Gulaal would get all the credits for remembering which she didn't. But if u remembers the scene where Kesar throw the vase at D, she immediately went to D and not Kesar even if it is to scold. That was a bit too much; she took care of D in motabaa's present. She is too civil with D in other scenes as well.
Today I do sympathize for Gulaal about the rumours but again she is responsible for it. After all she should have seen it coming, she once accused him in front of the villagers, then being too civil with D, going out, going against Kesar, would trigger things so why the play victim game? I wonder what would happen when the whole truth comes out. How is she going to justify? For god's sake she knows the secret is not a secret since more than one person knows it. There is one more thing any woman would fear or be aware of while being civil with D, what if his feeling rise again? What if her actions provoke those feelings again? What if he misinterprets them?
Kesar is the most important thing in Vasanth's life; he was "the dream". I don't see her working out to shape him as she declares. She is the only one who had a peek on his darker sides, still not dwelling too much as to why, how, what?
I see Kesar as a punch bag for Gulaal, stuffing all her desires, dreams, pressure, anger, obsession and what not. No human in this world could be normal at the same time bottle up things. Sorry but human psychology doesn't works that way however strong one is, there is always different phase to go through while grieving. To me Gulaal is not through her grieving phases. Ironically I see Kesar once he gets to know the truth getting her out of all the knots she made for herself. I see them as great companions in future, and I don't in any way see her upper hand I see her more of a strong but at the moment a messed up woman. Once they start to become each other's support system and evolve, I see them very compatible. (it's just Gulaal needs to learn that she is not right all the time and every time and love her flaws too, better chance for character development and a better way for her look Kesar as a man, her shield, her mirror).
In total I see it in a positive side for Gulsar character development.
Having said all these Indian serials do have all the high dramas so I don't know how cvs will surprise me?😡😡😡 Sorry for the long post Iam not so good writer as you all are.