In a kind-of common ground with Akshan [ my Pov]

Baat kal raat ki ek personal experience se suru karte hai,

Last night yet again my papa tried to tell me about another proposal that came & I just told him not to start again & left the scene & locked my room. Then during sehri time my mom tried to talk to me again saying after a certain age good proposals will stop coming to which I gave my usual response, "I don't intent to marry as I love my life now & its perfect" . This stand is giving BP to my parents.

But the truth is till when will I keep saying so ? yes I am very happy now & perfect as I say but till when ? A universal truth is, nothing stays constant which I myself accept. Today I am all happy & satisfied but that may not be the case tomorrow by which I mean in next 5 years, 10 years. At that time my state of mind may not be as it is today. What is perfect today may be perfect tomorrow.

& I know it & I accept it but still at this moment my response will be, "I don't intent to marry as I love my life now & its perfect" cause at this moment I am not thinking about the future & I don't want to. This is a futile attempt from my side to stop my parents from thinking about it & talking about it. But I do intent to accept the future as it comes along with the changes it brings in my thinking.

Also somewhere I know deep down if not today, tomorrow I will end up getting married but ye bohat andar ki baat hai as for now, I am very strong in my stand i.e. kabhi nahi karni ! [I hope my sister is not reading this & if you are reading this, you better shut up ! & not come to talk to me about this .Or else next time I lock my door, I won't open it even for you]

Same when today the baby topic was shoved in AJ's face, he very straightforwardly said, there is nothing such, & there won't be anything such ever just like his epic 7 vachans he took during his B'day. This was pretty much how I answered to my mom last night.

At the moment, he didn't wanted to think about it, & just somehow wanted to put a full stop to anyone in the house from thinking or talking about it.

But his reaction in yesterday's episode to Guddu's bunty bubbly dosti se pyaar says, he even knows andar andar, Aaj nahi toh kal ho jayega for which he will be prepared but abhi nahi sochna, jab aayega tab sochenge.

About Guddu, well she feels for him but doesn't know what & hence hearing those words from him pricked her but she doesn't know "why ?"

Yes like him, she too knows aaj nahi toh kal a change will come. Deep down she knows what she wants but hasn't realized & accepted that yet. But with time she will.

Both are equal in this. Both andar andar se know what they want & andar andar se somewhere they also know about each other's andar wali soch. They know somewhere deep down that sirf "dosti" mein atke nahi rahenge, they will move forward & its just about time.

But abhi ke liye, both are happy with their so-called "dosti".

Baki, mental state & feeling development ki baat hai. "Time" toh do baba !

Main bhi shaadi ke liye taiyaar ho jaungi !

I Know & I always say that none of us can be compared with friction characters but baat yaha kuch common human nature ki hai, among which today I found something common between myself & Akshan.

It happens at times, we seem too strong in certain stands to the level that we refuse to believe anything will change & accept to do otherwise. But at the same time, somewhere deep down, we also know everything doesn't remain same & we too will accept otherwise.

POV tha mera so Lena hai to lo warna kut lo !

Apna POV de sakte ho, par gale padoge to gardan dabochna hume bhi aata hai !

A spoiler cause I saw some are upset with Guddu crying & not fighting, after the cupboard scene, Guddu does sunaoes Bua.

p.s. Lakh di lanat tere mu tay Durga Jindal !

Very true

Totally agree with ur pov

Yes both knows deep down that this dost phase is just an escape route for now.how long?I felt for guddan yesterday. She was wounded deeply by aj's words more than bua's words.anyway I am happy that cvs gave a hint of beti in future😆.lets hope for the best for akshan.

Originally posted by: shena07

Yes both knows deep down that this dost phase is just an escape route for now.how long?I felt for guddan yesterday. She was wounded deeply by aj's words more than bua's words.anyway I am happy that cvs gave a hint of beti in future😆.lets hope for the best for akshan.

shena0709/05/2019 22:49:47

@bold till their growing feelings & jumping hormones tells them on their face that, "ye sirf dosti nahi hai re !"

They will cross it dheere dheere smoothly like they came this far crossing the others like, the "saand-saandni" phase then the "Pyaar nahi hai" phase 😊

About Guddu being hurt, though she was, she didn't know why she was hurt just like AJ didn't know why he was getting jealous of Guddu accepting rose from Angu. But sometimes these pinches & pricking to the heart is required to make one realize something is changing. These are heart's way of telling one that, "Abe ae gadhelo, idhaar nahi udhaar !....udhaaar jaa !"

I agree with every word you wrote. They are yet to realize, but unconsciously both know that situation will move forward slowly. And someday, they will cross the dosti phase. I never really had a doubt about that. They are clearly attracted to each other, they just won't accept it yet.

What made me angry was that AJ exposed Guddan to a bunch of who will tear her apart. Especially when he knew that their concept of 'friendship' won't be accepted by Bua or Daadi, which is why they had decided to keep it between them selves.

Originally posted by: Akshata2010

I agree with every word you wrote. They are yet to realize, but unconsciously both know that situation will move forward slowly. And someday, they will cross the dosti phase. I never really had a doubt about that. They are clearly attracted to each other, they just won't accept it yet.

What made me angry was that AJ exposed Guddan to a bunch of who will tear her apart. Especially when he knew that their concept of 'friendship' won't be accepted by Bua or Daadi, which is why they had decided to keep it between them selves.

I feel at that moment, AJ just wanted to shut everyone up on that particular subject anyhow & put a full stop to everyone's thought on that. Had he said anything else, an expectation from them would have remained, there would have something left that both of them would have to face everyday & he didn't want a reminder of that now. He didn't wanted to hear anything about it now & bear any indication of it. In the process he didn't realize, it will go to this extent that it went.

Yes he knows bua won't accept the dosti concept & dadi will be hurt but he didn't think deeper on that, as at that moment he wanted to shut them up on that once & for all.

& Yes had it been only dadi, she would have been hurt abit but she would have shut up (which is what AJ wanted) & prayed to kanha & played tricks to bring them closer.

& While bua might not have accepted "dosti", he also didn't expect her to go this low as to point finger at his wife's character & humiliate her. He himself was shocked at that as what has happened & expressed it later on during his confrontation when he stopped her from doing aarti & said he is talking in that tone cause he has to.

While at that moment, to him his priority was to shut everyone up, at most he might have thought bua would give one or two bhashan on "ye dosti-wosti kuch nahi hota ! aisa nahi chalta hai... bla bla bla..." like she has been doing with the saas-bahu concept. And till now she really didn't humiliate Guddu on that but only taunted her "nayi soch" which again both Akshan could have easily take together laughing & teasing here too. But instead she didn't say a word in his earshot & did this maha kand in his absence behind his back.

He didn't see that coming. Bahus know Bua better than him as a woman cause before having Guddu, he really didn't see or realize this side of her as he was not involved in the kitchen politics. For him she was just a strict traditional respected aunt from whom he learned "rishton ki ahmiyaat".

It was his choice of priority & need of the moment that lead to this blunder & atleast I really can't blame him for that i.e. making this choice while undermining Bua's reaction.

And now after seeing Bua's verbal diarrhea, I am glad AJ didn't say anything otherwise as that could have lead to something more worst as may be Bua calling Guddu barren

I completely agree exactly this is what human nature is sharing my own expreinces the stituation in your hone is exactly same like mine but here in my case little but is different is my mom is hurry like my relative in getting me married but my papa support me he said always take jab karni hai Kar 30 me 40 me kuch fadak nahi padta ...you should be fully mentally prepare about it . It's all about how you take it's your life and you have to decide when and how much you want to move as far Akshan is concerned come on .Give them time they need it and we have to think they are not normal couple o mean a huge age Gap is there age is just the number but then to huna is complex being ..AJ said they will never have any conjugal relationship but fact deep down they both know they will move forward it's natural they have to ..but when and how let the time decide something aren't in humans control but it will happen for sure but at the right time

Just like marraige jab hona hota hai ho ke hi rehta hai ..an invisible force helps you to move so in Akshan case Inka bhi time ayegaaaa...❤️

Such a Well Analysed post jisko idher zarurat thi ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ Jhappis and Dil le lo Genie for this well written clear post🤗❤️ Thank u so much

Can relate to ur personal feelings with mine❤️Quoting ur line "Jo tera haal hai woh mera bhi haal hai iss haal se haal milaaa Oh Genie....."🤣Ek din hum maan jaayenge mereko bhi patha hai but rt now mereko nahi sochna aisa kuch

If u watch the epi the way Akshat exposed their relationship was just to stop the blabberings of bua ji atm where she was just going on and on with what they will do once he confirm this good news👍🏼So inorder to shut her mouth & to escape from further thoughts in this line he just outburstedI am not saying the words he used was right here and he himself also feels sorry for being that indirect reason for his wife's humiliation done by buaji👍🏼His tears of hurt, intensity of rage while confronting bua ji was THE PROOF for what I said

I completely agree Guddan was shocked with his sudden revelation abt their ristha but she was not able to fig out why she felt so👍🏼Along with her He also feels that they both will one day reach that stage where in all sense they will become Pati Patni but for now he dont want to think abt that👍🏼Their rishta just got started, time chahiye hoga ek dusare ko samjhne mein & IT'S PURELY UPTO THEM that when they will be ready for the next stageEk na ek din woh sahi samay aayega

Originally posted by: captainplus

I feel at that moment, AJ just wanted to shut everyone up on that particular subject anyhow & put a full stop to everyone's thought on that. Had he said anything else, an expectation from them would have remained, there would have something left that both of them would have to face everyday & he didn't want a reminder of that now. He didn't wanted to hear anything about it now & bear any indication of it. In the process he didn't realize, it will go to this extent that it went.

Yes he knows bua won't accept the dosti concept & dadi will be hurt but he didn't think deeper on that, as at that moment he wanted to shut them up on that once & for all.

& Yes had it been only dadi, she would have been hurt abit but she would have shut up (which is what AJ wanted) & prayed to kanha & played tricks to bring them closer.

& While bua might not have accepted "dosti", he also didn't expect her to go this low as to point finger at his wife's character & humiliate her. He himself was shocked at that as what has happened & expressed it later on during his confrontation when he stopped her from doing aarti & said he is talking in that tone cause he has to.

While at that moment, to him his priority was to shut everyone up, at most he might have thought bua would give one or two bhashan on "ye dosti-wosti kuch nahi hota ! aisa nahi chalta hai... bla bla bla..." like she has been doing with the saas-bahu concept. And till now she really didn't humiliate Guddu on that but only taunted her "nayi soch" which again both Akshan could have easily take together laughing & teasing here too. But instead she didn't say a word in his earshot & did this maha kand in his absence behind his back.

He didn't see that coming. Bahus know Bua better than him as a woman cause before having Guddu, he really didn't see or realize this side of her as he was not involved in the kitchen politics. For him she was just a strict traditional respected aunt from whom he learned "rishton ki ahmiyaat".

It was his choice of priority & need of the moment that lead to this blunder & atleast I really can't blame him for that i.e. making this choice while undermining Bua's reaction.

And now after seeing Bua's verbal diarrhea, I am glad AJ didn't say anything otherwise as that could have lead to something more worst as may be Bua calling Guddu barren

Completely Agreee👍🏼

Originally posted by: SaruSenan

Such a Well Analysed post jisko idher zarurat thi Jhappis and Dil le lo Genie for this well written clear post Thank u so much

Can relate to ur personal feelings with mineQuoting ur line "Jo tera haal hai woh mera bhi haal hai iss haal se haal milaaa Oh Genie....."Ek din hum maan jaayenge mereko bhi patha hai but rt now mereko nahi sochna aisa kuch

If u watch the epi the way Akshat exposed their relationship was just to stop the blabberings of bua ji atm where she was just going on and on with what they will do once he confirm this good newsSo inorder to shut her mouth & to escape from further thoughts in this line he just outburstedI am not saying the words he used was right here and he himself also feels sorry for being that indirect reason for his wife's humiliation done by buajiHis tears of hurt, intensity of rage while confronting bua ji was THE PROOF for what I said

I completely agree Guddan was shocked with his sudden revelation abt their ristha but she was not able to fig out why she felt soAlong with her He also feels that they both will one day reach that stage where in all sense they will become Pati Patni but for now he dont want to think abt thatTheir rishta just got started, time chahiye hoga ek dusare ko samjhne mein & IT'S PURELY UPTO THEM that when they will be ready for the next stageEk na ek din woh sahi samay aayega

Sab le liya 🤗

Taal se taal mila....😆

Both know they will go forward to that stage but abhi itna pehle se soch soch ke kahe tension lena ? abhi abhi toh rishte ki shuruwat hui hai, Abhi ke liye ye so-called "dosti" enjoy karo ! 😃