How do you do this?

I’ve been pretty on and off on IF ever since I left the IB forum after the extreme toxicity there. Even though I watched Yeh Rishta 2 and BALH 3, I was never consistent, just dropped in occasionally without much involvement.

Forget the one SwarmB attack I got just for casually thinking out loud 😂

Season 4 itself has been a mess. After some initial potential, it went downhill fast.

But what really surprises me is the forum itself. The level of name calling and negativity here is insane. I don’t even understand half the nicknames people use (probably because I wasn’t around for the older seasons’ drama), but just scrolling through sometimes is enough to make me want to log off.

And yet some of you are here every single day, fully engaged with all this chaos. I genuinely wonder, doesn’t it get exhausting? Doesn’t that constant toxicity affect your mental health? Or do you somehow get used to it?

Originally posted by: JustAnEngineer

I’ve been pretty on and off on IF ever since I left the IB forum after the extreme toxicity there. Even though I watched Yeh Rishta 2 and BALH 3, I was never consistent, just dropped in occasionally without much involvement.

Forget the one SwarmB attack I got just for casually thinking out loud 😂

Season 4 itself has been a mess. After some initial potential, it went downhill fast.

But what really surprises me is the forum itself. The level of name calling and negativity here is insane. I don’t even understand half the nicknames people use (probably because I wasn’t around for the older seasons’ drama), but just scrolling through sometimes is enough to make me want to log off.

And yet some of you are here every single day, fully engaged with all this chaos. I genuinely wonder, doesn’t it get exhausting? Doesn’t that constant toxicity affect your mental health? Or do you somehow get used to it?

Originally posted by: Fortnight

it does for some people. that's why most people who started watching this gen specifically for entertainment and not for hate watching or waiting for Karma for some fictional ckt don't come here anymore

Like I come here because I'm between jobs, moved countries and in kind of in a rut. Whenever I come I feel like I'll get actual anxiety and depression 😅

Originally posted by: JustAnEngineer

Like I come here because I'm between jobs, moved countries and in kind of in a rut. Whenever I come I feel like I'll get actual anxiety and depression 😅

Originally posted by: JustAnEngineer

Like I come here because I'm between jobs, moved countries and in kind of in a rut. Whenever I come I feel like I'll get actual anxiety and depression 😅

The kind of language used is too disturbing to read on day to day basis, Even if it's about a fictional charcter, the hatred that reflects is too much. So many of us prefer to steer clear of this place.

Originally posted by: Fortnight

this level of hate for anything even if you don't like or care for it is a little concerning and mentally exhausting to read plus the language. there was one thread some of us used to keep a little lighter and fun with some positivity even when the show was sh!tty but now we don't even do that coz the toxicity is just off the charts.

I used to have some meaningful, non-judgmental fun conversations occasionally on IF. But now it feels like walking on eggshells. You could say something casually, without any preconceived notion. And suddenly people gang up on you. Direct shaming, threats, like it's some political argument: "You are trying to whitewash" (why though?), "Go cry, your fav is worse" (whose fav? Lol).

And god forbid you're slightly off remembering some old detail-they'll blow it into a full-blown saazish episode. Criminal Justice: India, but for forums.

Originally posted by: AnashqU

The kind of language used is too disturbing to read even i on day to day basis, Even if it's about a fictional charcter, the hatred that reflects is too much. So many of us prefer to steer clear of this place.

I feel sane to know there are others who feel put off, I was wondering whether I was being too much of a softie.

Originally posted by: JustAnEngineer

I used to have some meaningful, non-judgmental fun conversations occasionally on IF. But now it feels like walking on eggshells. You could say something casually, without any preconceived notion. And suddenly people gang up on you. Direct shaming, threats, like it's some political argument: "You are trying to whitewash" (why though?), "Go cry, your fav is worse" (whose fav? Lol).

And god forbid you're slightly off remembering some old detail-they'll blow it into a full-blown saazish episode. Criminal Justice: India, but for forums.

People here do not understand the difference between real and reel , sometimes they get too much involved and personal , and the kind of language they use is really disturbing . They forget that it’s just a fictional show and actors play their role as per script but fandom takes things very seriously and then things go out of hand and one thing lead to another . That’s stupidity

Personally I don’t involve myself in fan wars and ignore things which I find abusive. Similarily You also need to learn what to ignore and when to speak .

Grouping / fan war happens in every forum since ages let them fight , no need to read each and every content , argue with non existing people and for actors / characters and do not takes sides.

Rest is upto your own mind , Sab faltu ki cheez hai , time pass karo and jyada Load ni lena kisne kya kaha , Kab or kyu kaha we don’t know here anybody personally . Jisko ladna hai lade and who loves peace will find a way

Originally posted by: JustAnEngineer

I used to have some meaningful, non-judgmental fun conversations occasionally on IF. But now it feels like walking on eggshells. You could say something casually, without any preconceived notion. And suddenly people gang up on you. Direct shaming, threats, like it's some political argument: "You are trying to whitewash" (why though?), "Go cry, your fav is worse" (whose fav? Lol).

And god forbid you're slightly off remembering some old detail-they'll blow it into a full-blown saazish episode. Criminal Justice: India, but for forums.

I cannot imagine doing any of this for anything I like beyond a point. There are some who do this in a regular basis for something they hate and detest. Their logic - it's their time and their choice

I will agree, just pray they touch some grass cos this mish hate and frustration , even virtually, is never good for anyone.