Yin and Yang

Yin and Yang represent duality, or the idea that two opposite characteristics can actually exist in harmony and complement each other.Marriage is a “Yin & Yang”. It doesn’t matter if you are different from your spouse, as long as you work together 😊

Since Ghum is essentially a story based on Sairat and their relationship, I just wanted to analyze and understand how this concept works for them in the current scenario.

As a married woman and living with a man for many years , I kind of figured out how a male brain works, especially a "husband" brain. 😆 In Virat's case, there is an extra layer of "Virat" brain too and he also suffers from Vaada syndrome, he sometimes behaves like a stubborn mule, which creates more complications for him and Sai to sort out their issues.

Some of my observations (some might argue not to generalise- my perspective is from my experience only)

Women can multitask, it comes naturally for us. Men are not so good at it. The same way, I would also like to say that women are "multithinkers"- ( I dont think there is a word like that 😆 ) - while men are not. When handling an issue, a man's brain just focuses on the target and how to solve it, thats it. Its like a horse with blinders. But a woman automatically gets the 360 degree view of things the minute she approaches the issue.

For example - Harini's birthday planning. When Viru proposed the idea to Sai, he was only thinking of bringing both families together. But Sai's immediate reaction was - Hume sochna chahiye, Harini par kya beethegi, Kaku ko kon sambhalega, gharwale kaise react karenge - she immediately thought of the impact on everyone. Viru immediately agreed with her point and left the reigns to her to do the planning because he knew she could and both were on the same page back then.

Fast forward to Sruthi kaand - He gave vada to Sada and went ahead with rescuing Sruthi, admitting her to hospital as Mrs Chavan, gave his name to Sahas- he did everything with horse vision, didnt even try to figure out how this will impact Sai. And we all know how the whole thing snowballed into something which he lost control over and ended up being the biggest disaster both in his personal and professional life.

When husband loses the 360 degree view, its usually the wife who helps him see that. Thats how a marriage works, a couple grow together and you reach a point in life when you are able to read each other's mind automatically. In real life, it takes years to reach that stage. But since this is a show, the span is short and of course, their marriage is also unconventional and complicated.

Now coming to the current scenario.

Sai and Viru are 2 very different people, so much has been written and discussed about that aspect. She is the Yin to his Yang. Yin is the feminine life force of receptivity, while yang is the masculine force of action.

And for Viru, Sai is his entire world- no one else matters to him now. He has already expressed that in one of the monologues recently. When Sruthi kaand happened, there was no one to show him the 360 degree view, he went ahead by himself. Now after everything got over, he is hurt and she is hurt, she still tried to explain to him but the stubborn mule he is, he did not want to listen at all. The other prospective candidates in the pic are:

Sunny - he got through with a couple of lines which ignited a small thought process in Viru's brain

Shivani - has been dropping broad hints

Aayi - might have been a good candidate but Vanku ruined her beyond redemption

So finally ghoom phirke it comes to Sai. Only she can help him see the complete vision , help him see how much he hurt her too.

And of course, Viru is such a pendulum that he goes from To be or Not to be with Sai in a matter of hours !!🤣

Viru does not have a problem owning up to his mistake and apologising to Sai. He has done that before in PD lunch, Ousting, Ajinkya etc.. But now the problem is he does not think he did anything wrong. He is still wearing his blinders. Now only Sai can take that off.

Today's pre cap looks promising. Looks like she got through to him. Hopefully wheels in his brains will be in motion and he will start seeing her perspective too.

But, of course for all this to happen, there has to be a proper communication between these two - either talk or shout or fight or do whatever. For god's sake Just Communicate!Without sorting out their insecurities, there is no point in confession or moving forward. A relationship without a strong foundation will collapse again. It just takes another vaada or an interference from Paki to topple everything once again.

Her Yin and His Yang need to come together and balance it out so that they can have harmony in their relationship. For that to happen, there is no other powerful tool in the universe than clear communication.

OMG what an analysis.

Thank God I am still Single and not ready at all to Mingle.

Originally posted by: Sagi.

OMG what an analysis.

Thank God I am still Single and not ready at all to Mingle.

I would like to add one more thing here - this usually works in an arranged marriage situation mostly - I had one. Its where you hardly know anything about the other person and so the journey usually takes longer to reach that point of mutual understanding. Life is not a fairy tale, it takes real efforts to make a marriage work 😉😉

Arre nothing like that.

If Virat has blundered, Sai has blundered on an equal footing.

I am already taken, have a BF. But not yet ready for getting hitched. His parents have been trying to convince me ever since. I believe that is the side effect of writing for serials. You start believing in them.

Well written!

- opposite personality

- someone to not always agree with you but to tell you where you falter!

That’s marriage!

Wow, as a married woman I can totally understand what you said! It takes years to sync up with your partner. There are fears, insecurities and communication gaps that settle down as we learn each other as the time goes. People do change and adjust together so they 'fit' in.

Sai and Virat are two good people with different cultures all together. They are bound to collide in the ways they interact with the world. But they share a common core, the goodness which is untainted by the upbringing or external forces. Once they know to read that inner core where they share the commonality then they can figure out how to deal with external factors that define their actions. For any couple to know the inner core of each other, needs some trail and error. Thats the beauty of fights and disagreements.

SaiRat have shown that progression. Virat realized Sai's core much faster during DevKit's track because she has very less external layers and less baggage associated with her. Sai knows Virat is a good man but what his heart wants is masked by so many other things like his past and their own circumstances. She has too many forces to face before she sees his heart clearly. It is not even his words basically, she needs to know him without any filters, even his words and affirmations of his love.

It might take years, several heartbreaks, disagreements and fights etc etc. But what makes worth it is that eventually you become old with a person who learnt to play your music and understands your silences.

In short as xfiles said, every couple will eventually become ying and yang.

Wonderful analysis...❤️

That's marriage. And that's how it should work.

I agree to your point of woman being the overall broad thinker while men cannot multitask.

Its the same thing from daily chores to big decisions. Ofcourse there are exceptions but yeah a general tendency is such that.

SaiRat are perfect especially because of this. They compliment each other and the reason they are at such a precarious position right now is because they have never been on the same plane till now.

Totally logical as it's a show (need to have drama) and it's an unconventional marriage. I still maintain that if they get atleast a few days to themselves away from the garbage that is CN and the perpetual door visitor, these two would resolve everything in a matter of days.

Khair... Looks like that day might come soon 🤞🏻🤞🏻

As for Sagi and other unmarried girls... Please do not fear the shaadi ka laddoo... It's not that bad 😂.

My personal approach to this was (arranged marriage)... That there are some things that I can never compromise on.. and some i can let go... And for the right reasons and right person ofcourse. And i should be ready to change myself for my partner too if needed. It's a give and take.

If you find that, please do jump in.

And every marriage or infact everything in life needs some adjustment at some point.

To quote my husband,

"Marriage is like a train ride with destinations in between. The real test is when the train changes tracks. If the connection is smooth, you would not even feel it. That is what we should aspire to be"

Gyaan over ☺️

Originally posted by: sadiltl

Wow, as a married woman I can totally understand what you said! It takes years to sync up with your partner. There are fears, insecurities and communication gaps that settle down as we learn each other as the time goes. People do change and adjust together so they 'fit' in.

Sai and Virat are two good people with different cultures all together. They are bound to collide in the ways they interact with the world. But they share a common core, the goodness which is untainted by the upbringing or external forces. Once they know to read that inner core where they share the commonality then they can figure out how to deal with external factors that define their actions. For any couple to know the inner core of each other, needs some trail and error. Thats the beauty of fights and disagreements.

SaiRat have shown that progression. Virat realized Sai's core much faster during DevKit's track because she has very less external layers and less baggage associated with her. Sai knows Virat is a good man but what his heart wants is masked by so many other things like his past and their own circumstances. She has too many forces to face before she sees his heart clearly. It is not even his words basically, she needs to know him without any filters, even his words and affirmations of his love.

It might take years, small breakups, loss of mental peace etc etc. But what makes worth it is that eventually you become old with a person who learnt to play your music and understands your silences.

In short as xfiles said, every couple will eventually become ying and yang.

Sherry, I read your comments on Sai understanding Virat in another thread. I echo similar thoughts and my thoughts are here about Sai knowing Virat. I agree with what you said in this paragraph

"Sai on the other hand, was never went out really to understand V. It happened in due course of time as they started to live together naturally. It wasn't conscious like her love (unlike P). Sai started to read his moods and expressions, but she failed to understand his feelings for her. She clearly saw V was distressed in hospital (during Shruti track). She could feel his pain and hurt. But she failed to see it was for her and not for SH. It is only now that she has consciously started to watch and observe him and try to know him better. And that is attributed for her love for him."

Originally posted by: Moor278

Wonderful analysis...❤️

That's marriage. And that's how it should work.

I agree to your point of woman being the overall broad thinker while men cannot multitask.

Its the same thing from daily chores to big decisions. Ofcourse there are exceptions but yeah a general tendency is such that.

SaiRat are perfect especially because of this. They compliment each other and the reason they are at such a precarious position right now is because they have never been on the same plane till now.

Totally logical as it's a show (need to have drama) and it's an unconventional marriage. I still maintain that if they get atleast a few days to themselves away from the garbage that is CN and the perpetual door visitor, these two would resolve everything in a matter of days.

Khair... Looks like that day might come soon 🤞🏻🤞🏻

As for Sagi and other unmarried girls... Please do not fear the shaadi ka laddoo... It's not that bad 😂.

My personal approach to this was (arranged marriage)... That there are some things that I can never compromise on.. and some i can let go... And for the right reasons and right person ofcourse. And i should be ready to change myself for my partner too if needed. It's a give and take.

If you find that, please do jump in.

And every marriage or infact everything in life needs some adjustment at some point.

To quote my husband,

"Marriage is like a train ride with destinations in between. The real test is when the train changes tracks. If the connection is smooth, you would not even feel it. That is what we should aspire to be"

Gyaan over ☺️

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