Pakhi & EMA

Please no blind bashing of Pakhi & no discussion of offscreen....

Did Pakhi ever want an EMA with Virat? If not, what were her intentions?

Genuinely trying to gauge people's takes!

tagging some others who might be interested...

Her intentions were always EMA. When virat stupidly promised her he would lead a life of celibacy and long-life love and loyalty only to her if she agrees to marry samrat, she took that as even though she will be samrat's wife, virat will keep himself available for her and she will have right on virat whilst being his bhabhi 🤢

Very interesting question! Will share my opinion free hokar!

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I sort of always got the vibes of her wanting him to be as addicted and obsessed with her as she was with him.

She probably did not start with the thought of EMA, she was desperate to latch on to any name he gave to their relationship to be around him. The initial episodes for me were more like an attempt from her side to first ensure emotional addiction from him, which she kinda did and took liberty with thinking that his silence at some points for Sai alongwith the kinda backing up he did at some other points for her would lead them onto a more involved relationship.

Her obsession comes out to be more mentally, emotionally connected than physical. But yes, all 3 of these are unhealthy if not corrected and lead on to emotional cheating on a partner which in my eyes and experience is equally disturbing and attributes with a kinda EMA that is non physical but quite harmful.

At this current point though she does not make any sense to me, the going back to Career/Aai Baba stuff seems pretty fake and her solo mission right now seems to be to somehow create enough trouble in Sairat's life via differences between them or between them and the family to seperate them. Right now though, the moment she senses the crack in Sairat she will go back to her initial behaviour I feel of trying to somehow bring back feelings of love for her in Virat and simultaneously try and oust Sai out of the family one way or other.

If she can't have him, no one else can and he dare not love another woman. That much has always been constant from her side from the start to now.

Hope I made some sense.

Arre pooja...this is a beaten question dear. Wars happened on this topic.

:P Just search the forum no?

Originally posted by: sadiltl

Arre pooja...this is a beaten question dear. Wars happened on this topic.

:P Just search the forum no?

My interest has been reawakened.... I found that most of the older topics were from way before... trying to gauge updated perspectives 🤣

One of my favourite episodes of ghum is Virat and pp confrontation after Sai ousting. I’ve probably watched it 10+ times.

Pp says ‘jo jagah tumhare dil mein mere liye hai aur koi na lele bas’ along the same line. I think directly related to the vaada.

I think she wanted him to be consumed by her and do pp jap.. she possibly became more hopeful after samrat mia but her dreams were shattered by Sai..

She possibly just wanted to keep on nurturing their love and name it as an eternal love.. unsure about physical intimacy though, that might have happened inadvertently!

When she agreed to marry Samrat her intention was not EMA at-least not a full blown one . I believe she was happy just to be close to Virat as a friend . She knew if she breaks the marriage she will never get Virat at least here she will be there as a friend and moreover as per his Vaada he will be single so she doesn’t ever have to worry about seeing him with anyone . he would be forever grateful to her for marrying his brother and he would keep her on high pedestal . I don’t think she had time to think through and plan everything .She agreed to marry Samrat in her emotional state just like Virat gave away the Vaada . She could have backed out after her dad spoke to her but it was too early and she was still nursing a broken heart . I think if the wedding was a month away or so she would time to think through what she wants We can say it’s kind of emotional infidelity but I don’t think she realized it then . I still hold her responsible for her actions . If someone needs to be blamed for her marriage with Samrat , it’s her

Things changed when Virat got married . She felt betrayed and her jealousy took over . Now she had to fight for his attention as he was too involved with Sai and her life . If we think about it Virat always thought about Sai and stood by her from the time he met her . What she thought about spending time as a friend never happened . I am saying this again , he refused any kind of conversation or meeting if it didn’t involve her husband or his wife . Pakhi became insecure and her venomous attitude came out .

It might be an unpopular opinion but she was never intelligent enough to plan and plot . If she was she would have never sided with Kaku and gang against Virat or at least would never do that infront of Virat . Her own words and action made Virat lose respect for her and she lost a friend . If she was an intelligent negative character, she would have behaved differently. The only time I saw her planning and plotting was during letter kand and Ajinkya time and I must say she was terrible at it . She was caught for the latter in no time and for the former lot of things happened so the focus got shifted .

She told her friend that the reason she married Samrat was so that at least Virat will be in front of her eyes. It is possible she was too emotional and wasn't thinking much .... And just went with the flow of her emotions. Or may be she was banking on Virat's vaada.

Even after Samrat left, I don't think she wanted a physical EMA. But what she wanted will constitute emotional EMA. She wanted Virat to always be attached to her and probably be emotionally available for her. If you see, she becomes unreasonable and crazy only after Virat marries Sai. She probably imagines some great love story between them - where they will always be in each other's heats, no matter what. May be like Paro and Devdas.

An interview from the PL and ML long back said that Pakhi's state of mind is - she doesn't want anybody with Virat....even if she can't have him. This suggests that she wanted Virat to always have her in her heart. I tend to believe this interview - because I zthink this is what they have been told. And additionally, I don't think ITV will take the risk of bhabhi lusting after devar. Yes, the execution of the scenes is so bad that anyone will mistake it as Pakhi wanting full-fledged affair. That is their extra-creative brain at work.