Manhandling & sorry - Page 2

Originally posted by: Fruitcustard_9

If sai had not shown adamancy & told d reason then there was no point of hand holding , forget virat even d lady was not ready to tell Ashwani also d reason.

I said woman behaviour r ignored like nothing happened but they r not so innocent.

Women don't need permission but if u living in a family & then u r answerable to d people of d family kyunki jungle raaz nhi chalta family ki jab chaho muh utha ke chal do bina bataye, ye koi azaadi nhi hai. No one is ur servant sitting in family who will keep searching u in whole city when d person don't know where r u & what PD stand for ?

We can agree to disagree.

Mauli from silsila serial was shown as working woman , I really love that lady.

I think she clearly stated she is going to the professor 's house for lunch.

She was adamant as she didnt want to reveal much for sake of Devi Tai and people were questioning her character .

Mauli was really a beautiful character.💛

Originally posted by: Dvanshi123

I think she clearly stated she is going to the professor 's house for lunch.

She was adamant as she didnt want to reveal much for sake of Devi Tai and people were questioning her character .

Mauli was really a beautiful character.💛

What stand for PD ? Where should virat search sai ? He don't know what stand for PD , he don't know what is d person's location ? Sai was still new to this city , if something goes wrong with her who will be held responsible ?

Did he asked sai to go to pulkit house ? Did virat called on sai's character ? Did Ashwani questioned Sai's character ?

Virat asked all right questions which any parent or real family will ask ? But it was sai who was not ready to answer , sai carries nhi bataungi attitude.

Sorry to tell u nhi bataungi attitude don't work with family. Every person is answerable to his or her family.

Mauli was very good character coz she was not samaj sevak nor mahan character jiske sabke matter mein interfer karna ho , she was very relatable character.

Originally posted by: Rosekutty12

Hey

Manhandling and emotional/ physical abuse is unacceptable in real life. This is a show and we will take it if Virat is offered a redemption but there’s no justification for abuse and manipulation irl, I wish girls growing noticing the red flags and walk away. I would never accept and has never accepted such behaviour irl.

Since your question is specific a husband has absolutely no right to deprive a wife of shelter or food. Its a relation of equals and not of subordinates. He’s no one to offer a punishment, god that concept is so messed yuck. Its relation of equals and trust and love should be the basis, not one of a master and subordinate.

I hope we stop romanticising toxicity. Its a show and they will show it but IRL the behaviour were you throw out your wife at midnight onto the streets, deny her basic rights is clear abuse and should not be accepted. There’s no going back. And wrt to PD fiasco- no a wife doesn’t need husband’s permission to go out, that’s such a patriarchal concept. And his later actions to avenge that insult by denying food is exactly how a typical MCP behaves.

Some of the answers specially in this forum makes me worried seeing how normalised the toxic behaviour is. I just want to emphasise how patriarchal, chauvinistic and toxic it is. And its sad that women are often told to forget the abuse and go back to abuser. No they don’t have to. Abuse be it emotional or physical is not okay, it’s unacceptable.

As an independent working women I have never accepted abusive behaviour from anyone/ will never. What you said is right ITV glorifies toxic behaviour. I will take it here because its show but IRL its NOT ACCEPTABLE

P.S- My ans is specific to the post creator. If you have a diff opinion pls don’t tag me and argue. You are entitled to your opinion as much as I am to mine

💯 I am a adult and I do not think I need permission to go out of the house. How can anyone deny food again inhuman behaviour

If you have problem with wife decision discuss and decide to seperate so be it. But u cannot ask unr legally wedded wife to leave the house at midnight. As per law she has the right to stay until they are legally seperated

I am 40 and have seen quite a few hard knocks. I survived since I had education, self respect and courage.

I believe that every gender deserves respect care and honour

Originally posted by: Fruitcustard_9

What stand for PD ? Where should virat search sai ? He don't know what stand for PD , he don't know what is d person's location ? Sai was still new to this city , if something goes wrong with her who will be held responsible ?

Did he asked sai to go to pulkit house ? Did virat called on sai's character ? Did Ashwani questioned Sai's character ?

Virat asked all right questions which any parent or real family will ask ? But it was sai who was not ready to answer , sai carries nhi bataungi attitude.

Sorry to tell u nhi bataungi attitude don't work with family. Every person is answerable to his or her family.

Mauli was very good character coz she was not samaj sevak nor mahan character jiske sabke matter mein interfer karna ho , she was very relatable character.

So u deny her food ? Manhandle her ?

Absolutely nothing juatifies manhandling. Even parents are not entitled to manhandle their kids.He is her husband. Wife husbaand is a relationship of equals.

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

💯 I am a adult and I do not think I need permission to go out of the house. How can anyone deny food again inhuman behaviour

If you have problem with wife decision discuss and decide to seperate so be it. But u cannot ask unr legally wedded wife to leave the house at midnight. As per law she has the right to stay until they are legally seperated

I am 40 and have seen quite a few hard knocks. I survived since I had education, self respect and courage.

I believe that every gender deserves respect care and honour

Kudos to you !

My question is why are we women suppose to survive this at the first place.?

Education & self respect are basic rights. We still have to fight for this??

Whyyyyyyyy !

Originally posted by: Dvanshi123

So u deny her food ? Manhandle her ?

Absolutely nothing juatifies manhandling. Even parents are not entitled to manhandle their kids.He is her husband. Wife husbaand is a relationship of equals.

No where I said virat behaviour is right , if u saw point out d line.

My point got proved just to hide Sai's fault u r pointing virat's fault .

Jab dono hi galat hai kissi ek ko fault point .

Virat point karne ke baad why u forgotting other 3 fingers r pointing towards sai itself.

It's ITV rule they hide FL mistakes by making ML commit bigger mistake.

ITV ki FL carry nonsense attitude which is termed as azaadi , jabki azaadi vo hoti hi nhi jo nonsense FL tv serial mein karti hain.

Mauli ka example mein isiliye diya even she used inform her MIL before leaving d house when her MIL never asked her still she used to tell her.

Originally posted by: Fruitcustard_9

Aapko lagta hai sai Joshi ke attitude ko koi real life mein tolerate karega ? Do u really think people in real Life r this free that they will tolerate some one nonsense behaviour

Kissi ko dhokha do , jhoot bolo , dhoka deke ke kisse ki behen ki shaadi karwa do , people will take it silently & no do anything? Do u think people will garland a dhokebaaz ?

Let me break d bubble , people will make sure to make d person life hell & d person will land in jail.

Why woman get away easily with her nasty behaviour & never called out for it? Even d woman is blind towards her own faults .

As it is a serial so ITV FL r never shown wrong nor their nonsense behaviour is ever questioned, FL mistakes r ignored or hided behind mahanta crap , they never apologize nor change their behaviour , ML mistakes r being ranted for months .

Agreed. Sai wS wrong and virat was also wrong .

Forgiveness however , it can't change the past but it can change the future.

So I wouldn't mind if sai comes back to virat. There are many reasons for it.. She realizes that virat was being misguided by his family , otherwise she wouldn't bother to expose the truth to him. She knows virat is not the monster that he becomes when he is angry , he was literally brain washed . At the same time , sai knew that if virat knows the truth he will support devi tai and pulkit and aisa hi hua. The main reason that she wants to stay away is , she thinks when virat doesn't love her there is nothing for her , no point in acting out like husband wife also . She thinks he loves pakhi but that's not true.

@ topic maker.i know it's a tough decision to make . Compromising on the self respect ..but that's not the only issue here. Sai also made mistakes which led to virat flare up like this. If husband wife are not honest to each other , mu will crop up. On itv ,In order to dramatize the story they go to such extremes (like virst throwing her out and calling her insane ) , n later they cover it all up in the name of love , it shouldn't be this way I agree...but in real.life also ppl.do compromise to keep the relationship alive.

Originally posted by: Dvanshi123

So u deny her food ? Manhandle her ?

Absolutely nothing juatifies manhandling. Even parents are not entitled to manhandle their kids.He is her husband. Wife husbaand is a relationship of equals.

Here i would like to remind that in most (almost 90%) indian homes (with both girl and boy but more with girls) but the scenario is-

Child- mummy i am going, will come back in one hour

Mom- but where are you going

Child- bas aise hi...aa jaungi abhi

Mom- chale jana maine kaha mana kiya lekin bata ke to jao

Child- nahi batana

Mom- tell me clearly

Child- nahi batana....i am going, i will see how you will stop me

Mom- (slaps on face, pinch the ear and drag back to the room) jyada hosiyari chadhi hai....aane de papa ko na teri shikayat ki to dekh lena aur tab tak khana bhi nahi milega tujhe.

🤣🤣🤣

Har ghar ke hisaab se thoda bahut treatment mein kam jyada ho sakta hai lekin no one can deny it and no one can say that indian way of parenting is wrong because we all grew up like this...taking punishments from parents.🤣

So coming to virat and sai now, already it was established that virat took sai's jimmedari and he is elder to her like some 7-8 years. He considers her as bachhi and forum people have said it time and again that virat act more like a guardian to sai then husband....to is logic se to virat acted just like any other concerned indian guardian🤣

P.S. Ok the comparison was just for fun. Husband wife are equals. No one beneath or above anyone and both should respect that. Manhandling and food denial by husband in no way can be justified. In the same way denial to share information about her whereabouts with a concerned husband, insulting him in front of everyone, bringing his past and labeling him as 'toy' of her ex gf, also can never be justified.

So in conclusion- what i said in my previous post that chauvinism and feminism are both extreme thought processes. Neither of them is right. None of them can be yhe answer to other.

World always require balanced approach.

Originally posted by: Fruitcustard_9

No where I said virat behaviour is right , if u saw point out d line.

My point got proved just to hide Sai's fault u r pointing virat's fault .

Jab dono hi galat hai kissi ek ko fault point .

Virat point karne ke baad why u forgotting other 3 fingers r pointing towards sai itself.

It's ITV rule they hide FL mistakes by making ML commit bigger mistake.

ITV ki FL carry nonsense attitude which is termed as azaadi , jabki azaadi vo hoti hi nhi jo nonsense FL tv serial mein karti hain.

Mauli ka example mein isiliye diya even she used inform her MIL before leaving d house when her MIL never asked her still she used to tell her.

Coz if the FL isnt bechari & damsel in distress nobody is gonna watch. Toh tokra kisi pe toh phutega hai.Its most of the times ML jo bakra banta hai.

And they romanticize & label toxicity as love.

If she was adamant he could have had some patience. He could have taken her to the room & spoken to her .

I loved Mauli.She had a heart.

Originally posted by: Dvanshi123

Coz if the FL isnt bechari & damsel in distress nobody is gonna watch. Toh tokra kisi pe toh phutega hai.Its most of the times ML jo bakra banta hai.

And they romanticize & label toxicity as love.

If she was adamant he could have had some patience. He could have taken her to the room & spoken to her .

I loved Mauli.She had a heart.

👏👏

Sai virat ki insult sabke samne kare aur virat usse kamre mein le jake baat kare. Kyu ?

Kya baat hai👏👏.

Wahi baat hai na

Sai ka kutta tommy.

Virat ka kutta kutta.

Toxicity bhi kai tarah ki hoti