Good morning sisterhood!
Who watched the saanp seedi today? 🐍 Please keep playing the "Been bajane wali Naagin, Naagin, Naagin" song in your head 🤣🤣 Nahi to majja Nahi aayega
Moment of the day: "koi mujhse kaise bhi baat Nahi Kar Sakta... Aapne kaise baat ki mujhse sabke saamne...Main patni hoon aapki... Koi mujrim Nahi..."
The spashth reply: Pati hoon main tumhara.
First things first: Proof is here- who makes jalebis and who talks straight 😅. In his outburst that has lasted over 24 hours (of Chavan niwas time), all he needed to say is this -"Main Pati hoon tumhara mujhe pasand Nahi Aaya. You have hurt me". But no, our Shaant dimaag wala police wala had to go stomping his feet all over the room, destroy rubber bands, breach decibel levels to wake up always-ready-to-intrude chakrams to investigate source of glass breaking sound and end up serving more syrupy jalebis to the already sugar-poisoned, empty-stomach biwi.
Finally said, "Main Pati hoon tumhara" after taking cue from the Patni, but it was too late for any damage control or to even realise how passionately they acknowledged their relationship for the first time, in their hurt, pain and pangs for belonging. There was no time for living that moment or holding each other's gaze -- the dinner that would never be eaten had arrived. 🙄 The moment was lost, the river flown ahead.😔
When her turn came to express her anguish, she did the straight talk, "Main patni hoon aapki, you can't talk to me like that. No one can talk to me like that." Point conveyed. Matter over. 😐 I love these straight submissions and end of arguments. It saves precious time while fighting matters 😉😛
Chavan saheb, first please enroll for "How to speak Spashth shabdon mein", you will automatically understand yourself and thereafter your biwi. And finally, Thank you-dhanyavaad-shukriya-aabhar Chavan saheb for finally ending your gol gol rant that wasn't scoring the goal (please restart your football practice 😛). Was it only me or did he finally take that 'letting it go' breath because 'i wanted to hear this'? 😅
Sai, Sai, my love 🤗... Take this 💝 this poor girl has no idea what happened to this guy who made that mushy video call and asked her to wait for him at dinner 🥺... Just what kind of madness has swept over this man? 😟😢... There was anguish in her voice -- a very vocal, first time assertion of her right on his face: I am your wife and I deserve that respect -- that's all I want or expect from you and I will be grateful forever because gratitude is more powerful than love. And respecting me and protecting my honour is part of that freaking 'farz' you harp about.
Does he even know how much 'sehna' she has to do to maneuver her day through in that household before going ballistic because he's not able to handle his feelings? He thanked her for the 'sehna' without even wanting to learn about the entire picture in many cases. How will his "Dil Ke acche" Ghar ke bade respect her if he drops her like a hot potato in front of them suddenly? She wants the answers and rightfully so. She didn't understand his anxiety, yes, but he also did not understand her silence. She has to speak - and clearly. Now, that is what is expected of him too!
Virat is overwhelmed, exasperated and exhausted with the inner turmoil he's been facing suddenly -- he wasn't prepared for this mentally. He never expected it to happen in such a way knowing how much his 'pakki zaban' means to him. But, well, the passion is seeping in between them slowly because love seeks no clearance before finding its way through the heart to the soul and heart-- it cannot be bound by promises to keep it locked... Itni si baat hai, Chavan saheb, pudhe valan aahe gadi savkaash chalva 😂😅 (road bends ahead, drive slow)
Saathi Ka Hona -- Sai needs one and so do you. But for her to want to walk out of the world she's known all these years into the world outside, where you wish to see her, YOU will have to hold her hand in ways that you have right now asked her to "umeed mat rakhna". Otherwise, she will discover her own world gradually, at her pace, with somebody else if not you 💔
I still understand the reason for his hurt-anger but throwing Sai and his mother to the vultures for a sufficient part of the day-- is unforgiveable, if left without an explanation. It is as unforgiveable as Sai's acerbic comment about his worth compared to Aaba. Two wrongs cannot make a right and I would like to see them apologise to each other when they make up for this. How many times did he say sorry to his 'true love' and today😑 😑🤬
For once, I am willing to concede to his point about Sai holding her tongue and using her tact with the elders -- I understand that when they hurt her, they hurt him but she doesn't know what he feels, yet. But why should she remember her "hadh" with that noxious creature, that serpent Despokhi, who will slither in between them time and again to hiss and sting, without respecting any hadhs. Just why?
I LOVED how she just walked out of that room leaving the 'true love' and imaginary husband together and won both the arguments in just that walk out! She needs to do more of this to others too-- exactly what Virat wants 😅
Honestly, he is expecting a bit too much from an 18-year-old to understand why he's going in circles about her tameez, bartaav and lack of 'parvaah' for the 'pareshaani' she has brought in his life. That would hurt even a 'love wali wife' and get you lots of free belan hits, Chavan saheb!
Before that: is it not too much to expect of the 18-year-old to just keep on being a "happy (deal) wife" all the time? Why shouldn't she have her outbursts at people who deserve them when they really do? Yes, I agree with his logic that it drains both their energies to engage with people who are not at the same wavelength and so, some petty conflicts should be let go for winning bigger battles. I also agree that she need not do "sab kuch akele" because he is her "saathi", whom she will need in this world to win conflicts needing the Savoir faire. But, is just being there to catch her enough reason for her to always be a "chirpy wife" around him? Why should she be the wife? 😢
His diabolical family (which was not part of the deal to begin with) has unreasonable expectations from her of bearing humiliation in Silence. And now, he already wants to burden her with the expectation of playing the perfect 'wife', who must feel and express how "happy" she feels with this man, who has another woman in his heart? Yes, he makes her happy in his ways but why is it such a bitter truth that may be, in her moment of humour, she actually spoke the truth about her 'zarooratein'? Why should she be happy only with that for the rest of her life? Why shouldn't she desire all of this man to be hers, when he enjoys the attention she gives him and basks in the glory of being her saviour and wants to be part of her caravan? Is it not unfair to expect her to hide away that part of her desire for love behind the facade of that childlike excitement at his actions? Why shouldn't she want to blush and tell him that she desires him (or anyone else) too and wants to know why he thinks she is not worthy of being more than his labelled 'farz'? That she wants to know whether he will ever decide if she's his 'parivaar'? And if he says she is, why should she remember her hadh when she has to defend her self-respect from a woman, who stakes claims to his heart? Why should she struggle and suffer in her attempt to win over his ungrateful family, when she does not intend to stay forever? Why should she stay forever when he tells her she cannot have his heart? Even if she does fall in love -- because, yes, to her, he is irresistible -- why should she let him know until he has lifted up the barriers that he laid down in the first place? And why, if he hurts her in his moment of frustration arising out of his own misplaced feelings, should she not scream back and show him the mirror? Why should she sing eulogies to him everyday-- did he tell her unequivocally that what he is doing is for her and not for his own superior sense of fulfillment of his "zimmedari"?
Yes, it is true that he felt a 'connection' with her long before the possibility of them ending up together, but she, too, has actually had a been charmed by him even before she saw him, thanks to Aaba's constant references to him. But why has it been easy for Virat to feel a kind of 'intimacy' with Sai than Sai has felt for Virat so far? Because he delights in knowing that he can make her 'happy' like no other man has ever done or been close to doing (apart from her father, of course). Sai, on the other hand, is holding on to his words and assumptions made because of the lack of clarity. Why did that flirting make him bleed so bad that he's spilling all over? Possessiveness, yes --not as much of physical as the "emotional possessiveness" that he feels --her entire conversation about "being deprived of happiness and love" has driven him nuts, feeling betrayed. He wants a reassurance that she still recognises that his way of "pyaar" is to make her "happy" -- like no other man can, not even in a joke. A reminder to her that their's not meant to be a hostile relationship as she described it to a stranger but a "loving companionship" without physical intimacy -- better than living alone in a world of big bad wolves. But now sixth sense tells me that as Chavan saheb senses more competition around, his possessiveness will cross over to the physical realm as well. Of course! Please don't turn into a full fledged chauvinist, Chavan saheb, heech ek prarthana 🙏
So, we knew Despokhi, now the licensed waitress and chowkidaar of Chavan niwas, is arriving (it helped in mentally preparing 🤣) to butt into the navra-baiko conversation. Was he pleased? No. It was was so symbolic and foreboding -- Sai and Virat turned their backs to each other and walked away, allowing Patthar-lekha to actually slide in between -- throughout the fight they were going towards each other.
Unknown to Despokhi, her entry brought back the much-needed reminder of the 'deal marriage' and also the incurable Vaada bug to bite Virat, who is so cracked out after suddenly sniffing the 'love drug'. It really had Sai snapping at him the way he needs it -- back to reality. He badly needs a reality check before going out of control at Sai again (I don't think any amount of burn will justify another outburst 😠) and using all kinds of cloaks to express his misery, except that which he should be actually mouthing.
The control and confidence with which Sai walked out of that room and left 'true love' alone with her imaginary husband, who had himself creeped at her sight just a short while before he reminded his 'wife' about her hadh. Chavan saheb, I was prepared for this disappointment but it turned out to be dispiriting nonetheless👎👎👎 -- your silence for this desperate woman vying for your attention, trying to destroy your wife's honour is questionable and you directed your gyaan at Sai. Again?
Now, was it really your headache or the zeher-laced water that did it's trick and made you say sorry at least four times to Despokhi 'true love', who has turned the serpent and trying to slide into your mind by hissing sweet poison in your ears. Are you that dazed?
"Sai ko toh uncha khaandan, social security, financial security, sab Kuch Mila... Tumhe kya Mila", the serpent hissed.
I thought you did not like the question but your eyes simply got fixed at the treasure you have got, that no one knows -- the kohinoor -- and you could only blurt out an incoherent 'mujhe mila...'
I guess your migraine tied your tongue back but in the middle of that serpent hissing, I am consoled to see your subconscious instantly recognising the answer. It must have been your migraine that incapacitated you yet again from seeing a trailer of what your "patni" goes through when zeher-laced insults are heaped at her in the concern shown for your sadness in sweet tones 'tumhara chehra utar Gaya hai' (Patthar Didi, pyaar Ka attack aisa hi hota hai 😑 dil, dimaag aur chehre par... You won't see because serpents are blind😏).
You silently let someone else disrespect your wife again taking the full advantage of her 'goodness' at that moment. "Maine tumse aisi ummeed kab ki" that you should suffer insults silently? Well, sorry Chavan saheb, but in the context of you 'true love', you often have made it amply clear without saying so...
Just like the way she stopped Despokhi from leaving and her walk out, I am glad she also witnessed the 'khana khilana' moment of this extended version and the first sign of the original content we are going to get 😣😖😵
It took just one moment for this serpent to undo days of the labour that Virat had put in to finding his inner child with Sai because no one else will know what he has gained. The words have pierced the dewdrop all over again.😣🥺 It will need the same intensity for the 'biwi ko manana'...
Virat's distrust for his make-believe 'true love' has been genuine. He actually wants to tell the 'prettiest' Sai that the beauty she holds -- inside out-- cannot be diminished by the hissing of a serpent but well, unfortunately, the message that those intense eyes want to convey is not well read by the serpent that does not repent. I would like to trust that the gradual take down on Despokhi has begun with Virat's own hands -- he will not publicly humiliate her for whatever she must have once meant to him and what she continues to 'be' for his missing 'Jeeva'.
The silence is questionable but I would like to believe that he doesn't want to have Sai to suffer the blame for yet another walk out staged by Despokhi after witnessing the oozing BA-MA pass "love" among the Makad Sena. He wanted to avoid a confrontation but Sai will join this silence with the pyaar dosti slip up and she absolutely must remind him of the deal many, many times until he's able to use his tongue to say what matters the most.
But, I have no doubt that Virat has seen through Patthar-lekha's aadarsh bahu mask to recognise the unconscionable woman that she is -- I don't see any turning back for anything because her pretentious sorry for her behaviour will not end the mission she's on. And Virat or Sai don't need to sacrifice their peace to reveal the colours of this chameleon... Her lack of character will undo itself. ✌️ Virat, your splitting headache did not allow you to see through the disgusting act that had been put up on purpose. Beware, because Mephistopheles is seeking you too!
I am looking forward to the patch-up conversation over that dinner that they have been longing for ❤️ please have that dinner and strictly no jalebis allowed 😖
Aaj Ka song for "umeed mat rakhna" wale newly discovered Pati-Patni:
"Kaha bhi na Maine, Nahi jeena Maine
Tu jo na mila, Tujhe bhule se bhi
Bola na main ye bhi, chahun fasla
Bas fasla rahe, ban ke kasak jo kahe
Ho aur chahat yeh aur jawan
Teri meri mit jaani hai dooriyan
Begani hai dooriyan, Hat jani dooriyan
Fanaa ho sabhi dooriyan"💘💓
Dooriyaan toh fanaa ho hi jaani Hain... The souls are on fire -- the fire that will purify their hearts before they hand it over to each other. Bas spashth bolo, khul ke bolo...
Are any one of you brooding today?! Open your hearts and get on with loving and living with a cuppa of coffee ☕ or tea 🍵 and warm hugs 🤗 🤗 free!
Because: "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”❤️💞
Yahan tak aa Gaye ho toh bohat bohat mubarak aur aabhar bhi 🙏🙏
Love you all 🥰
J
