Geet moved - unmoved. - Page 8

Originally posted by: nanditasingh

Been discussing same at FB trust me its just only us 'few'.

Yeah as a wife not fan I expect her to be moved emotionally by seeing him humble himself so much for her sake alone but all I got to see is her first thinking of him being fooling around & then again blinded by her 'self' pity/respect she overlooks his plight.

Worst is she was hyperventilating by his closeness but not emotionally - mentally affected by his love. Strange indeed.

Originally posted by: -Rati-

I found it disheartening rather strange to see Geet moved by Maan's proximity but unmoved emotionally by his love & his plight.

Why did the so endearing moment seemed more about hormonal not emotional.

Is it me alone who felt so?

Originally posted by: temorocks

Geet is surely moved by his love, but she is still hurt at what he said, remember even her family did pointed out at her position in socitey, the same Maan did, so it really hurts, coz it came from the person which she loves, it would look illogically if she gets moved so fastly, as it says such deep hurt gets time to be healed, even in real life, it would be much interesting to see how Maan wins his Geet back 😉☺️

She is hurt, coz it came from someone she loves so much, she would hardly care if someone not really matter for her....

To be psycially attracted is not abnormal, it's so normal in such situations, but I don't agree with you that the moment is hormonal and not emotional, it's extremely emotional, even Maan could read her eyes clearly and he said it verbal.......

Originally posted by: sksg

Very acute observation. I am totally with you on this.

Even I am very confused the way CVs are depicting Geet's character.

On one hand, she is shown to feel his presence in her heart even when she is unaware of him to be actually present there. Only when someone feels very deeply will they be able to perceive other's plight / presence through the heart that way.

On the other hand, she is depicted as heartless. A woman who is not moved by the plight of her husband. A woman who doesn't want to acknowledge even an iota of what she once felt for him, who is not moved at all by what he is reduced to do in order to get her back.

I am astounded by how the same person can be both moved and unmoved; loving and unfeeling; easy going and stubborn, all at the same time. The most bewildering thing of all is what did Dev do that earned him so much forgiveness and what did Maan not do that denies him the same forgiveness.

What I loved most today is the trust that Maan showed in Geet's love for him. I have never seen anyone do that before, especially when the person in question is denying that love.

While I was going through the discussions in this thread, someone said that Geet needs space and time to realize on her own. That got me thinking. What if this is real life. What if I am in her shoes. There is never enough space or time available in real life to sort out such issues. I was reminded of the song - "Its too late when you die to admit you didn't meet eye to eye...." That song was in the context of a father-son relationship where the son realizes how late it is to reconcile when his father passes away. Real life is like that. Sometimes by the time we get to realize the importance of some things in life, it will be too late and we will never get second chances. This is a fictional story and we know that CVs will get them together ultimately. So, it seems good to give her space and time because we know they will not part in the end. What if the CVs decide to create an accident and kill Maan, will then it be acceptable that she gets the space and time to realize her love for him and he is no longer there for her to express it by the time she realizes it. My point is not to want such a sequence, but to make an argument to show how what we feel and think seems justified when we know what the end result is going to be. Unfortunately, in real life, we never know the end result until it comes to pass. Perhaps, there in lies the difference. So, in real life, if I am in Geet's position and stubbornly spurn the love offered to me the way Maan did, then perhaps life may not grant me a second chance to get it back.

Geet, so far you showed me the strength of a woman in facing adverse situations and now you have taught me what not to do with the Ma(a)n in my life. Thank you for that !

Originally posted by: -Rati-

Firstly I never asked anyone to agree to me I was sharing my views given what I saw in today's episode.

I dint find her feel awful for the state this man is put into and that has me astounded and to be physically attracted in not at all abnormal rather its the most normal thing in opposite genders but here they are not just that but binded to each other as man and wife too. To me the visual presented just showed her being stirred more by proximity than by his plight alone.

Indeed it is interesting to see him win her back and same it could be more endearing to see her owe up her mistakes and apologize to him as he has been doing.

I don't expect Geet to move 'fastly' but as woman I expect her to reflect and regret. As to someone she loves, well I for one believe if the words and actions of a person we love hurts us so do ours to them as we can feel our grief its necessary or rather normal to feel and understand their anger, pain too and this is what Geet failed at and is still failing to see.

Originally posted by: Murlal

Thank you, Rati. And once again you're spot on in your analysis of G's contradictions. I've always felt G has a rather warped sense of feminism and an inflated sense of self and ego- it's all very mixed-up. And I think it is reftective of the views of the original writer of the show. It's an interesting how this feminism has a strong strand of a sense of entitlement and self importance, which is why she is unable, as you've so rightly said, to see beyond her hurt and pain. Yet she is quite comfortable with being rescued at every stage of her journey. This does not in any way take away from her the admiration she deserves for having stood up to her wretched family and for trying to become independent.
Add to this wonky feminism, her experience of victimhood , though to give her due credit, G has never allowed her victimhood to define her, nevertheless, I feel, plays a role in her sense of self worth. So as in the L' Oreal ad, she is 'worth it'.
Somehow it is a warped view of her self and her importance that does not allow her from seeing her role in this partnership in which it is possible and in fact, essential, to give up the ego without giving up the self.
It is a pity that despite all her experiences, especially the really positive ones she's had with Maan have not given her this insight, This could be because of her early experiences with the family and society where women have no value whatsoever. Having survived all those experiences, she probably has not realised that she does not need to be fighting for her identity all the time, especailly in her relationship with a person like Maan. He's already given her all the respect and love she rightly deserves and is entitled to, but she's unable to see it. Maan has realised this which is why he decided he will fight for their love rather than be offended by her behaviour, which he rightly sees as being a lie. Which is why he is at peace with himself and the circumstances he finds himself in.
Here's a quote from a reply I made to post that was made after an episode during the IP days, when she meets him after he decides to sell IP and let her go as a result of her slap for misbehaving with her - it is amazing how little G has grown since those days- Maan in contrast, by allowing love to touch him, has found himself: Geet is still lost in her wilderness, which is why she is so troubled. Here is the quote:

"having read all the comments and analyses, I feel Geet is still functioning on a half baked sense of herself and individuality. Her response yesterday did not come from a deeper relfection of all that has happened.

Right now, I get the sense that she is responding only to the slap incident and has enough gut instinct to realise subconsciously that she has rocked the boat and pushed things a bit far. And to be fair she does love him to bits in her own scatty brained style. Hence her managing to say the 'right' things yesterday, all that came for her deep love for him and an understanding of his for her, albeit a partial one. So I do not question her feelings. I question her inability to see beyond the immediate. And right now the immediate in her life is the slap, which has brought her to her senses, though once again partially.

But I love her too immensely. So please don't get me wrong, I'm not having a go at her, when I say that I wonder why she never reflects on how she acted on the black Friday. While I understand WHY she did what she did and in her continuing to believe the fact that her actions were justfied, I wonder why she never thinks about HOW she reacted that day and the hurt she has caused.She is so sure that she not only did the right thing and that things are the way she concluded they are, but also the WAY she did it?! Does she never ask herself maybe she should have spoken to him in private and asked him instead of sl*gging him off in the media?

When, oh,when will you join the dots and see the whole picture, Geet?

Maan is wilting under the weight of the hurt you've caused and the weight of his love for you, You've shaken his whole sense of being and sense of who he is and yet, you can see only a bit of it and like yesterday, respond to the bit you see and not the whole!

Geet, dear, sit down and have a good think about your feelings for Maan, the contrast between your pledges and promises and your ways of responsing to situations, however convinced you are about the rightness of your actions. You will be a more wonderful person than you are now for having done it.
Please do this, for your own sake"

Reading this post, all I can say, things have not changed much, have they? Geet really needs to look at her feelings for Maan and decide which mean more to her-, these feelings or the few words uttered in anger. Geet still hasn't learned to join the dots, has she?