DEVIL'S DEN :Baby's Day out - Page 46

We often see discussions about equality in their relationship. Most people are not happy that even now they do not come across as equal in their relationship. I actually do not mind it. (Don't throw jootas, please read on). Two people are never the same and hence achieving equality in any relationship is elusive. What you can try to achieve and what this pair has perfectly achieved is complementarity. They may not be equal, in fact they are not equal. but they complete each other and that's why they are made for each other. They can only love each other.

They are not not like a weighing scale, where they have to be on the two sides and make sure that the scale is balanced. They are like two parts of the same sphere, which are unequal in size. But only when they come together can they make a complete sphere.

Maan is influential and rich, intelligent and smart and has clear sense of justice and injustice. We talk about Geet's inner strength, but the fact is that the strength developed only after Maan came to her life. In the weird ways of destiny, even when he tried to hurt her with his words, he ended up encouraging her to fight back. She herself acknowledged this in the "Office confrontation with Dev-NT" episode.

She did have a basic goodness of heart from the very beginning. But that goodness was not going to help her survive. With that goodness of heart, she was dead sure that her Brij Veerji might believe in putting the girls down, but he can not kill anyone (in the episode where Rajji wonders if Brij did really kill Channi). With that goodness of heart, she accepted Daarji's horrible and inhumane punishments without protesting or even complaining (anybody remembers that hot coal on the hands episode? 😡 I had given up on the serial at that point of time). With that goodness of heart she expected Dev to come back, even when the signs of abandonment were so clear and typical. With that goodness of heart, she expected her spineless Papaji to save her from Daarji and Brij.

That goodness of heart was her weakness, because she neither had the exposure nor that level mental development where you can separate right from the wrong without getting hindered by your emotions and affections. The goodness of heart was her weakness, because even if she could have separated right from the wrong, she did not have the strength to fight for the right cause. Like it or not, these things developed in her only after Maan came to her life. Starting from the time when he left her stranded on the road telling her that it did not matter if she reached home in time or not. Because nothing will change in her life, until she stopped living in this constant fear and starting believe in herself.

Since then, apart from every thing else that Maan has been to her, he has also been a teacher to her. Someone who channeled her innate goodness in the right direction by helping her develop the sense of right and wrong as well as giving her the strength to fight for what was right. She has undoubtedly been a good student, sometimes surprising and even surpassing her teacher. But there is an inequality in this relationship. A student will respect her teacher life long, even if she ultimately surpasses him. And a teacher will always be lovingly patronizing towards his student.

But a good teacher, like a good parent, is one who recognizes when the student is growing and gives her the space for groW*H. He is ready to hold her hand, if she falters, but does not spoon-feed her when she can take on the challenges herself. That is the stage in which Maan and Geet's relationship is right now. She respects her teacher to no end and he adores his student to no end. There is inequality, but that does not mean friction or dissatisfaction between them. Both of them are happy in their roles.

But even as she learnt from her teacher the things that she did not know, she did not lose that one good quality she had. Innate goodness of heart and a basic trust in humanity that comes from the same goodness of heart. This is the part for which Maan has been her student.

So, should not that bring equality between them? He taught her some things and she taught him some things? It need not. Here is how.

If there are n number things that will make someone complete, then Maan brings n-1 of them to their relationship and Geet brings 1. So, they are not equal. But then Maan needed precisely that one thing Geet brings and which he did not find in anyone else around him. Geet needed all the remaining things to be complete. So, they come together and fit in each other's lives like gloves on hands.

There are two things that could bring friction in their relationship. If there had been an overlap in the things they bring to the relationship, it might have created clashes. If husband and wife both think that they can choose the right color for the curtains and they end up choosing separate ones - you know the mess it creates. 😆 Probably its a bad analogy, but I hope it gets the point across. That does not happen to them. (Nok-jhonk apart, on serious things, one of them believes in the judgement of the other).

Second thing that can bring friction is when the partners do not acknowledge the importance of what the other brings to the relationship. In their relationship they whole heartedly acknowledge the other person's contributions. He saves and protects her like God and she worships him like God. She brightens up his heart like a fairy, and he adores her like a fairy. And so on.

Hence, there is perfect harmony in their relationship. I do not identify with either of their characters, and I would never have wanted a Maan Singh Khurana in my life, but I would always long for this perfect complementarity and harmony in any relationship. 😊

Of course, they can have the perfect harmony only because they are fictional. But let's hope that each of us achieve it to the extent possible in our real lives too 😛