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"Caustic Confrontation"
Yelloooo all my Friends, Devils, CVs, Star, Mr. Mirchandani and Nissar. Welcome to you all for a wonderful week. I hope India is good at the political front after all the verdicts that came last week. Well it's Monday again and for us US people its House day. Though I will miss most of the House epis due to India trip but its good to see how digitv have changed over the years and you can record your show and watch it at your own sweet time. Technology has changed our lives to the fullest. I just saw an article today on Social Networking here which really says that you can make out about a person completely by their status updates. So, all of you those who do random status updates just be careful on what to write on your status updates. Try to make sure that it should not disclose about your personality per se. Research says that "people might not be conscious of it, but at the very moment they have described themselves, you are giving an opportunity to anyone to create a mental picture of them". Also a word of caution for those who are on Facebook just remember not to comment on certain issues about anyone from your work as that may cost you your job too.
Now let us come to the epi. Well CVs I must say that it's a fantastic episode. I don't know about others but I definitely liked it. Drashti was brilliant today. I remember mentioning here some time back that Drashti have to do lots of homework just to do the confrontation scene and she needs ro be brilliant as this confrontation is the platform for her to prove her acting skills. The episode was logical but it had some flaws too which I will definitely address so that the CVs can correct themselves in the future epis. I must say that the Dev-Geet bumping was a brilliant move by the CVs. I wanted Dev to realize that Maan and Geet's relationship is based on "Truth" and that they know their PAST.
But before I start I need to talk about the "Parineeta Metaphor" here as I missed out on Friday because of my excitement for the India trip. Ok. I thank the CVs for completeing out my theory on Friday with the Mangalsutra part at the Gazebo. Thanks Lana for reminding me this. Yeah it exactly happens in Indian Wedding when the bride was being brought to the Mandap by her friends and family to the groom. Here also happened the same thing with Pinky bringing in Geet to the Gazebo when Maan had taken of the fake jewelry and put on the original one and tying the same as a Mangalsutra and putting on the maangtika as symbolic to sindoor. So, this was another eason why the CVs brought up t he fake issue during Maan's bhangra sequence and then closed the loop at the Gazebo with completing our "Parineeta Metaphor" theory. So, I hope all are confirmed though Lana had already mentioned this on Friday's analysis. The Moon and the Stars been wirnessing their holy matrimony was was not only in my "Paineeta Metaphor" theory but also described in the Parineeta Novel by Sarat Chandra Chattopadhyay. There also Sekhar did exchange the garland with Lalita under the open sky with Mother Nature been blessing them. So, I loved the facts that CVs have really gone into details with the "Parineeta Metaphor" theory.
Today's epi started with the same spot. Yes, we already figured out that Dev will intrude their privacy. But then again I was happy to see exactly that Dev came to know that the relationship of Maan and Geet was based on truth and the fact that they both know about Geet's past. I really thank the CVs for doing this. Now this was enough reason for Dev to back off from telling Maan everything. Ok. So I was right about Maan having a past also. Of course there might have some reason why he used to live a lonely life and the best part is Dev comes to know that they both know the past but I think he also is sure that Maan is unaware of his deeds. Dev's self talks here just says that he is happy for Maan and doesn't want to ruin his happiness but don't you think that logically he should be clearing his stance with him??? Now is this Dev's concern for his bro or his coward cry deep within not to face Maan's agony??? I can never believe him after all he is the "Cold Blooded Rapist".
Now, Mr. Mirchandani as I had promised to you that I will talk about Dev's issue and I have already told you about how come you even think of giving Dev a second chance??? Now I will state some of the facts about Rape Cases that I have researched on this weekend to prove my point why do I not want Dev to be given a second before he is convicted and punished. I will talk about all the ground facts slowly in the coming analysis as I cannot cover in one analysis.
Before getting into the facts let me explain you again Mr. Mirchandani why I always insist on Dev being a "Cold Blooded rapist". In my eyes Dev is always a "Cold Blooded Rapist". I cannot call it a mistake it is a proper crime what he did. The marriage was real for Geet but it was fake for Dev. When he knew that the marriage was fake then how come he even thought of making love to Geet??? To me this act of Dev was a "Cold Blooded Rape" and the child out of this is definitely illicit. Even after that horrendous act Dev purposefully left her at the airport and was celebrating after his plan was fulfilled. All I can say his he has to own his crime and I loved the fact that you are thinking of sending him to prison. Yes. He belongs there as I have always said that the cell is booked for him and NT and even Pammi and Dev's Sister.
Here are some statistics that regarding Rape Crimes in India:-
1. 20,737 cases of Rape were reported in 2007 an increase of 7.2% from 2006. It has increased now.
2. 11% of the crimes against women involved rape
3. 18% in the rape of convictions by courts even though 68% of cases the rapists are unmasked.
4. 57.7 % were women targeted in the age group of 18 and 30.
5. In 92.5% of the cases, the offender was known to the victim (like Dev knew Geet)
6. Delhi is the highest in the Rape Sheet about 530 cases reported in a year.
A rape is always inhuman and it is planned with coldblooded precison, where psychological dominance is often preferred to brutal force. Sometimes that persuasion becomes easier when there is already a relationship of trust. A rape is rarely an impulsive act. The rapist takes advantage of the situation, thinking the victim cannot overpower him, either mentally or physically. This was happened actually with Geet as I said above that most rapist knew the victim in and out and the victim trusts him fully and there the assailant takes the advantage of.
Now I hope all of you know this example basically who stays in India what happened to this 17 yr. old girl who was raped by her 21 yr. old cousin in Ghaziabad who firt won her trust and then promised to marry her and then allegedly wooed her for over 7 months. Their making love might be consensual but it was indeed a "Cold Blooded Rape".
Director of Forensic Mental Health Associates has identified 3 kinds of rape:-
1. Anger
2. Power
3. Sadism
What Dev did to Geet was mostly Power which we can term as Husband Power. What we need to be worried here is more than Dev what Geet has gone through after that and if we leave these Rapists loose then what is the message we are giving to the society??? That the rapists can get a second chance without being convicted and punished???
Now let us check what goes through to those women who had gone through this horrendous act. Even Geet also had gone through the below facts. The scond wound. The shame. The flashback. The life of a rape victim can never be the same.
1. The Second Wound:- Most often hiding the crime becomes more important for the family than supporting the victim. Here the family of Geet told her to not only hide the fact about her marriage but also to abort the bay and we all know what she has gone through.
2. The Freeze:- In most cases, the victim freezes out of shock. This is also refered to as "passive resistance"; the absence of "fight or flight" against the perpetrator. Here if Maan would not have been with Geet then we couldn't have seen a stronger Geetw hat she is today. But Mr. Mirchnadani we need to remember that in real life there is no MSK with the victims and they only need to support them all by themselves.
3. The Flashback:- Most victims experience what is termed a "flashback" where they relive the agony of being raped, almost with the same intensity. We know how Geet relives the moment of shock even today whenever her past comes infront of her and we saw even today how shocked she was when Dev came infront of her.
4. Self Blame:- Some times victims blame themselves and they feel responsible for what has happened to them. They suffer from shame and self-blame.
5. Body Image Disorder:- "Body image disturbances" are commonly found in rape victims. They feel their bodies are impure. Some get a creepy feeling of worms crawling beneath their skins. This "dehumanization" is a difficult felling to handle for most of them. This is reason why remember in HP days when Maan used to touch even Geet's hand she used to tell him to stay away until now before she fell for him. This is also the reason why she said that she is impure in the time of declaration and where I said that impurity is not in virginity but it is in heart and soul.
The media too plays a crucial role here. By media I am not only talking about news reporting channels but me talking about daily soaps also where we can educate the women and also the men and also the laws behind these crimes. However, what gets no attention is the devastating psychological aftermath of rape, which can have life long consequences.
Now tell me Mr. Mirchandani after reading all the above facts do you really feel to give Dev a second chance or you want to send a message to all the victims and the people in India that justice can be done to these criminals??? Or you need some more facts to make you understand that what Dev did is actually a crime and he can never be given a second chance. I really need an answer and if I see that you are still thinking of giving Dev a second chance then I must say that you don't even understand the pain of those women who have suffered so much in reality. I will then have no answer for it. If I see that Dev is getting a second chance then I must accept that day to be a curse on my life I started watching this show and started writing an analysis on every episode.
Let us come to the tilte:- "Caustic Confrontation"
Let me come to the epi. quickly. Well that moment has arrived when Geet and Dev were supposed to meet. Now don't get me wrong I loved the slap but you know what??? I hated that Geet had to touch that criminal's face. If I would have been in her place God forbid, I would not even touch him even if that would mean to teach him a lesson. Why would I even touch his skin??? The thought of it only was making me mad. Anyway, there was another symbolism that Dev is the "Daag" on the life of Maan and Geet as I explained the same on Friday. After the slap it was proved that the daag has come in between their the life of Maan and Geet and then the mehndi was wiped off her palm. Now many term this as an "Apshagun". What Apshagun??? I don't think any apshagun thing exists in real life as I believe only in one thing that "Everything in life happens for a reason and happens for the best".
Whatever you say Drashti was brilliant today and Abhinav was equally bad today. I know he already knew that Geet is Maan's finacee so I cannot be a shock for him at all but he did an equally pathetic job on Friday. And now see how fantasctic Dhrashti performed in this scene. She was shocked, flabbergasted after seeing Dev. As if all hell broke lose when she saw him on her big day. The FBs were also too good in the scene.
Now many have raised an issue about Maan's behavior on how come he cannot read Geet's eyes. Only one issue I had is Maan should not have chatted with Adi and co. like that and I felt that it was so unMaan like where as the second time when all were eavesdropping about what Maan and Geet were talking I liked Maan there. He scolded them for eavesdropping but at the same time when they left he gave a sly smile. That was Maan like. So, don't spoil the character of Maan please CVs. Just be careful.
When Geet pulled Maan infront of the colleagues then Maan should have understood that somethings wrong with her or she is upset. Because knowing Geet he should have known that she would never do that atleast not pull him infront of the employees. Hence, if she is doing this act then he should have known that somethings wrong with her. I didn't realize that also might be the case that he is not in a position to understand as he is already in cloud 9.
Now, when Geet told him about Dev many said that why Maan couldn't read her eyes when he claims to do so. But, what I felt that if the name would not have been Dev then Maan would have immediately understood that Geet was talking about the criminal who ruined her life. It's not because Maan is on cloud 9 and that is why he couldn't read Geet's eyes but it's because she saw Dev. Before she even uttered Dev's name Maan gave a very questionable look when she said "I saw him" but the moment she said "Dev" then all the expressions was changed for Maan. Obviously in his wildest nightmares Maan couldn't even imagine that it's Dev who would ruin the life of his lady love.
Now, I have an issue here. When Maan said Dev is his bro then Geet was shocked and flabbergasted and then she took a step backwards and look at her eyes??? Those were as if popped out of the socket. Why the hell then Maan didn't understand??? He started talking about his bro but didn't even notice that Geet had tears in her eyes on this big day of their's???
I loved that Geet was strong when the Dev-Geet meeting happened. I also loved the fact that she gave Dev a piece of her mind but at the same time I don't want her to be the sacrificial being because he is Maan's brother. She needs to understand that there should be faith and trust and right between her and Maan as in any marital relationship. Now they are married in souls and let CVs not forget that. I just don't want her to hide this fact that Dev is the person who ruined her life from Maan and it is Maan's right upon her and their relationship to know everything even though how big the FACT is. Period.
Now, CVs I loved the fact that you actually played the game very nicely by Making Geet tell Maan about Dev so that in futre there cannot be any sort of misunderstanding between them. In future Maan will definitely connect the dots and then will figure out that Geet had already told him about Dev in the first place and he himself couldn't read her mind and can see that he will be so mentally tortured. This time Maan will not forgive Dev and that is what it implied today.
The bottom line is Geet and Maan have to face the problem together and not singlehandedly. Maan and Geet should realize it's not about "My Problem" but rather "Our Problem".
Even in real life it is all about "WE" and not me and you. The CVs need to understand that what ever the problem that Geet had faced before Maan had entered her life was entirely her's. But after Maan had entered her life they are not individuals anymore rather they are ONE. So, after the Parineeta Metaphor theory all the problems should be faced by both of them together till death.
The gazebo scene was good and I love the fact the whenever Geet talks to God she gets the answer somehow. I wish I could have got the answers like this all the time by talking to God. Anyway this is a series and in cinematography everything is possible and not in real life.
Now, hopefully Geet will not forgive Dev and send him to prison and if she does forgive then I will leave writing analysis on this hopeless and hepless series.
Precap:- Maan making Geet ready for the engagement??? Well CVs THANK YOU. I loved the song btw. "Aankhen Teri" was for a purpose as Maan always claims to read her eyes and that in Pee Loon segment also he kisses her eyes just to kiss her heart. Similarly it's always her eyes that are important to Maan. But it also has another reason as today Maan couldn't read her eyes and this was the continuation from the "Confetti Epi" where Geet claimed that how come he couldn't read her eyes and that left Maan completely flabbergasted. Today that was the continuation of the same but don't you worry everything will be fine and the day will come where Maan can read her eyes and that day he will connect the dots on his own and become the old MSK.
Overall a BRILLIANT Episode.
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