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Curling and Knotted up: Her inside like the dry mango pieces !

Absolutely brilliant - Love Harit's intentions ! He is looking beyond kiss or sex. He wants to
establish a trusting relationship before anything else ! He wants to start texting/ communicating/ conversing which is missing in the marriage 👏

Loved the details of the backyard! I want to go to my pattis house 😳

Fully agree Jas, especially in India when women have to spend 3 hours on public transport getting home

Originally posted by: SWAN123

Sweet..
I'm not a mom yet so don't know if I'm going to be a decent one. But yes I do believe in every relationship empathy and being unselfish is crucial!
I have also learnt the hard way that even if you do your bit relationships don't always reward you!! So it's important to be kind to the ones that love you back with out judging.

In relationship that u want to last, go all out ! You have nothing to lose by giving ! Tides turn !

Swa - you will be a wonderful mom ! U learn on the job 🤗 ! I am still learning too !

Originally posted by: jaschick

In relationship that u want to last, go all out ! You have nothing to lose by giving ! Tides turn !

Swa - you will be a wonderful mom ! U learn on the job 🤗 ! I am still learning too !

❤️ thanks for the faith Jas! But you honestly have no idea how bad a cook and home maker I can be!! But I have Chef @ home willingly chained in matrimony who hates gadgets and loves Netflix more than a tidy home so we are good as of now 😆

Tides have turned and I have been blessed with a great navigator for many years now - Asma- who has taught so much and looks out for me like she would look after her dumbo Sister. I miss her here in the thread. Hope she can get here soon.

Have dinner ready Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him, and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
Prepare yourself Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with alot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
Clear away the clutter Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.
Prepare the children Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces if they are small, comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
Minimize the noise At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.
Some Don'ts Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day.
Make him comfortable Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.
Listen to him You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
Make the evening his Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.
The goal Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax.


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A little late to join and I haven't even fully caught up on the posts. But this was something I got fwded a few days back in our family group. The chats that followed were rib tickling with both the husbands and wives of the group having a field day on the relevance of this alleged publication in context with the role of men and women of today. I wanted to post it then here but did not bother with the trouble of pasting a jpg file here. It's said to be an excerpt from the 1950's hand economics book but there is also a big issue contentious on the authenticity of article if it was truly published.

Posting this Just for reading... that's all there's to it. Nothing more than an interesting share
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she spent the morning being obedient, listening in an a pooja, did her laundry and Chandu's not knowing where Harit's was and not expressing any interest to know

Which did not go unnoticed

"hamey keh rahe they Harit ki hum weekend mein unko sikha sakte hain, aur hum aur who turns le sakte hain Suman muttered to Alka as Alka pulled her family's clothes from the line in the central courtyard, it had mango trees and guava trees and a crooked vegetable patch"

These are the sensitive routines that becomes unavoidable in set ups where there's an ancestral home as the umbrella. One thing for sure it involves a great amount of maturity to chart your own course one way or the other.

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

No Ashu I disagree unfortunately, not every piece of advise is wasteful. Making yourself look attractive to the most important person in your life is not a waste of time

Your in laws want you to have a healthy relationship I bet

If they wanted you to divorce and walk away from it all they would treat you completely differently, trust me...

What you see as selfishness toward their son is actually their attempt to see their son HAPPY.

Just my opinion...

Originally posted by: Errantnomad

A little late to join and I haven't even fully caught up on the posts. But this was something I got fwded a few days back in our family group. The chats that followed were rib tickling with both the husbands and wives of the group having a field day on the relevance of this alleged publication in context with the role of men and women of today. I wanted to post it then here but did not bother with the trouble of pasting a jpg file here. It's said to be an excerpt from the 1950's hand economics book but there is also a big issue contentious on the authenticity of article if it was truly published.

Posting this Just for reading... that's all there's to it. Nothing more than an interesting share
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😆 Oh my gaaawwwddd (this deserves a Janice omg (Friends- Chandlers annoying GF) !
Same here ... Total fun dissecting this post !

Originally posted by: Ashu25

Unfortunately for me Nisha...my in laws arent good- good.

They are commercial enough to extract all sorts of wealth from my side. I have had a tough time dealing with them. I have no qualms in prettyung up for my husband. But I tend to see my mil's interference in each and every minute detail which I believe is uncalled for. We are all growing and learning, I guess I should be given my space to learn on my own and not be taught or coached as to what to say or how to say or what to do or how to do things towards my husband.

I do not know of the others but concerning my marital life, I bet it has never been happy. I am an uncompromising girl...yet I adjusted a LOT to this family. When I say a Lot people around me told me they never expected me to become this naive and mellow down so much so that i sacrifice my self respect.

I have no negativity towards the institution of marriage . But yes, I will say negative and toxic people like my MIL need to be eliminated from lives to have a happy marriage.

Married life is a little rocky for the first few years. Hopefully things would settle down soon Ashu ! 🤗