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Nisha0604

@Nisha0604

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Posted: 8 years ago

#881

There is no novelty left about Depavali sadly. We used to wait for it all year, just for the new clothes

It always rained when we lived in South

Now we wear new clothes every month, kids dont get that excited

Such sad times we live in

None of those simple excitements

The ISKCON temple will be choc a block with people that dont want to spend their own money buying fire crackers from year round stores (or saved some from July 4th). The temple gets city permission and light a bunch on devotee donations (Woh bhi apna paisa nahi lagaate😛)

Its more like a whos who and political tamasha

We never go to it

I go to a UP friend's house and see some friends and return in a couple hours

First Navaratri and now Deepavali, we can relax a bit now

Iske baad only gora festivals

Just drag the tree from the garage and plug it in buy presents for mailman garbage guy teachers and fave coworkers. Thats it.

As you grow older you wonder if kids will ever do such things as piously and as ritualistically as we do

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taramira

@taramira

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

#882

Yeah Nisha, I feel I am losing the enthu to celebrate it but still Do it because I feel I owe it to my children to teach them something at least. As it is what I do is a terribly diluted version of what we do in Delhi, and even there it's not the same anymore. We used to be so excited. I remember our neighbours in Rourkela an Andhra family, uncle used to make anaars at home. He used to buy small,earthen pots and fill them with some chemicals and they were the best Anars ever. Mithais were made by my mom and grandmother and they used to keep watch over it lest we ate them before Pooja. Firecrackers were kept out in the sun so that they became crisp for the evening. We used to fidget and hum and haw waiting for the Pooja to be over so that we could fly outside and light the firecrackers. The anars, chakris, chocolate bombs, mirchi bomb ladis and snake...which created the most aewful smoke and marked the gorund black. Diwali was to die for, sadly not anymore...it's cold and rainy the divas don't light up...

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Nisha0604

@Nisha0604

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

#883

Shru I recall a week before deepavali every evening when we returned from school at 4:30 isn Amma and paatti would be making mithai and namkeen every day, the newspapers spread in the center of living room, old fashioned large Brittania biscuit tins filled with gujia and mixture and sooji laddoo(MY MOST ABS FAVE EVERRR)

The house would smell like heated oil, elaichi and fire crackers

Ladies on the street would stop by with their Geethas Sarathas saree bags in Trichy to show my paatti, every evening before Deepavali

They would all want her blessings, she was almost blind and couldnt walk... yet...

We would be so jittery going to bed the night before waking up to check what the time was multple times on the wall clock (no digital clocks back then)

Appa would light the first fire cracker at 3:30 AM waking up the whole neighborhood.

He always has the most elan and style... sigh!!

It was not about designer clothing or matching ruby necklace or fancy parties with liqor and misbehavior

It was all about grand parents... my maternal ones lived 10 kms away they would show up mid afternoon on the bus, carrying heavy cloth bags (Tamil Nadu saree and jewelry stores are famous for handing out yellow colored cloth bags with giant lettering on it) filled with namkeen and mithai

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Nisha0604

@Nisha0604

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

#884

Shru do u wonder what our kids will be doing on Deepavali day 20 or 30 years from now?

Will it be just another lame "party" day?

Even now in my town 90% of Desi women dont make anything or follow any traditions.

Most desis are elated about Thanksgiving more than our festivals😭

I love the weather, I love the money I love the corruption free middle class life here. But I yearn for simpler times, small towns, quaint traditions and closeness with family

Its been a good 10 years I think since I saw any of my maternal cousins. Over 20 for paternal...😭

Kya zindagi hai

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Nisha0604

@Nisha0604

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

#885

Vidya Noof, Manishwari... and everyone else I have missed

Cherish every moment of the holiday season, They are short lived and rare

Happy Deepavali to you and yours

Love

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Srividya

@moonwearer

Rocker

+ 3

Posted: 8 years ago

#886

Nisha festivals and festivitites have been hijacked by consumerism in small towns and cities of India as well. what worries us is the traffic snarls. I travelled two nights in a row and can tell you that while there is a rush of folks trying to reach their home towns the fervor of the festivals is lost.

We have several family occasions to meet up these days in the form of elaborate Event Managed weddings but the warmth and camaraderie seems to vary depending on the ties we have forged.

I guess we get to meet cousins at weddings and such events only...If i give it a miss for some reason i guess i would also be saying I met my cousins decades ago...though virtual world keeps us updated of life's happenings.

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Ashu25

@Ashu25

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#887

Happy deepawli folk!

Nisha... Thank you for lightening most of our lives with your witty crackfire stories. I smile almost each time you write and interact here.

Am happy to have been connected here with all of you guys.

Love you all!

Be safe this diwali :)

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taramira

@taramira

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

#888

Originally posted by: Nisha0604
Shru do u wonder what our kids will be doing on Deepavali day 20 or 30 years from now?
Will it be just another lame "party" day?

Even now in my town 90% of Desi women dont make anything or follow any traditions.

Most desis are elated about Thanksgiving more than our festivals😭

I love the weather, I love the money I love the corruption free middle class life here. But I yearn for simpler times, small towns, quaint traditions and closeness with family

Its been a good 10 years I think since I saw any of my maternal cousins. Over 20 for paternal...😭

Kya zindagi hai

Yes I do sometimes think of it, more so now that they are growing up and I am getting on in age. For me these traditions are important not so much for religious reasons as for keeping them rooted. Identity I believe is one of the most important things to keep and here especially where god alone knows where we are headed, everything is so hodge podge.

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Sonal Gupta

@sonalgupta2004

Dazzler

+ 3

Posted: 8 years ago

#889

Good morning and evening everyone
Happy Dhanteras to all...
Well there's nothing for Diwali this year due to my FIL demice
Anyway I don't think kids will do anything for any festival then
See this way how much we r doing of the things our great grand parents did on festivals
Changes r bound to happen