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kalavathi5

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Posted: 9 years ago

#231

Wow Nisha. ...I have tears in my eyes! 😭

Suvi is just so honest and upfront about herself and her story. She is not even feeling sorry for herself-just stating the facts. That is really something else. 👏

Bhuvan, I think, will see her honesty and her character and value it for what it is.

I also love that her affection and love for Nihar came out naturally and unforced.

Just lovely writing Nisha. Thank you!

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Srividya

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Posted: 9 years ago

#232

Responding to Pritee's question on kids...

Coping with grief is something that brings a greater sensitivity to a child who is very discerning of the pain of others. I am basing it on my observation of children who have lost their parents tragically. Children losing a parent due to divorce also require coping time though approach required is different.

The support of the surviving parent, the caregiver and age of child become critical factors. Also the socio cultural background becomes very critical.

1. Two boys aged 8 and 15 lost their mother in an accident. the teen noticed father searching for a new bride from the 13th day of his mom's death . He did not heal and instead bottled his grief and later erupted. It took a great deal of time and effort and sustained sessions of interaction with the child to help him cope.(we took the step of pointing out what was making this lovely child to rebel. It shocked him and marriage talks seem to have dropped. The boy is in final year of Engineering) The younger child turned silent. Went about smiling. Paati(amma's Amma) would attend every project presentation and when parental interaction was required. He was the most caring kid in the class. His eyes would store the pain and he never opened up. He s moving to a city on father's transfer and would stoically bear it.

2. A 15 year old who had lost his Mom and father had taken an extremely gorgeous wife. I learnt from the way the mom referred of the facts. The boy would share everything with the older sis and new mom. He was well mannered with his dad. Eyes would show a pain at moments.

3. A 11 year old very gentle held father responsible for his Amma's unnatural death. The class became the support net that would organise birthday parties for him cheer him up and in special moments he would share information of important milestones atleast through a call . The family both his mom and dad's supported the boy and fed him ideas of revenge on the father. He is the most caring young man to all around him all set to marry. He shows no warmth to his dad, his step mom and half sister.

4. A three year old who lost her dad and sister when they were returning with a birthday cake of the older child's birthday is now a mature young 16 year old very responsible, confident and sensible in her responses. She to me embodies empathy beyound what i see in a 75 year old grand mom in reaching out to others.

5. A 6 year old lost mother as an infant aunt who was bringing her up died last year. Now maternal relatives care for her. She is extremely happy playful and runs up to hug and chat about everything in her life and question me about everything in mine...my saree... bindi... ride home... my work that day...almost everything.

6. A colleague lost her husband due to medical negligence. The entire family of my colleague rallied to smother her and her 10 year old with sympathy. The girl was prone to tantrums and willful hurting of others. she had to be shaken up and shown the reality of life...Mother and daughter had resigned to self pity mode till a multi pronged effort was launched by school... today she is a lovely 24 year old.

Pritee from observation i feel the way the parent deals with the kid, the way a child has been showered affection before and after the loss, the way people treat the child helps in the transition or coping with grief. They look for a stabilising figure in their lives it can be an older sister aunt grand mother a teacher a mom's friend(remember R& Bs Gayathree aunty). Invariably how they are treated.

Remember Neel being unable to hide his hurt to Nihar. They hate to see adults in pain especially tears. Aadya notices when Tai and Suvi have altercations.

Nihar has found solace in Suvi...Neel has the support of the grand parents and neighbours. Aadya has only her mom thus far. Children are very adaptive and resilience is very high. Very little self pity and playing victim card...all that they learn from the way the adults respond or treat them.

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Errantnomad

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Posted: 9 years ago

#233

Using remains to form a whole ...
Very interesting title ...
Sometimes I feel what one perceived as whole was never that in the first place...
in the sense that whole forms itself as one building on its own plot points which in other words is Destiny, I don't know...
Very interesting surely

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Errantnomad

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Posted: 9 years ago

#234

"She looked up at him
If he were as astute he believed he was, then he could have seen her sparkling eyes, the warm glow on her cheeks, a softer, kinder, vulnerable look
The transformation was at supersonic speed
She had gone from a worrying mother/generous host to a young girl in love"

This is so hard. I feel for her.
If one looks at love as a game of chance, averages and timing, then Suv has had a raw deal when she forced herself to look for love .But this time love has indeed snuck up on her when she was least expecting it to or even looking for it.
And unfortunately her earlier errors in judgement is holding bk from acting on it

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PriteeMisra

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Posted: 9 years ago

#235

suvi is very honest and upright.
Admiting her blunders so candidly is something shows one thing for sure come what may she won't be dishonest nor put up with a dishonest person.
I love suvi. She is a remarkable character.
In SoSy r&b with his flaws was my favourite and in this its suvi.

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Srividya

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Posted: 9 years ago

#236

We move around assuming we are complete till something happens and the myth gets busted and the entire image we have constructed of/ for ourselves comes tumbling down. We believe we are well formed when in reality we are fragmented and try so hard to conceal the inadequacies we harbor.

Suvi on the other hand considers herself worthless from the way Ritwik, Varsha, Tai, Payal and their likes have treated her. Though not intentional to mask or suppress information she feels none might evince interest in the happenings in her life. The fact that somebody is caring and thoughtful enough to ask her of her likes and dislikes. Somebody would hold Aadya's hands out of love the way Preeth and Ragini do is all so new to her.

The way Aadya is so clingy to Nihar and Neel, The way he pinned her at the door completing the image of a family...the way he requests she make his chai...the way he wants her to enquire about his meal and day...the food he orders sensing she was exhausted to cook...the entire urge to send her flowers...to buy the flowers and not having the courage to hand it to her and Suvi's response to the 4 dozen rose buds all speak of the to do or not to do dilemma in their mind...stemming from a sense of tentativeness that precedes acceptance of yes i need you to complete me.

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Nisha0604

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Posted: 9 years ago

#237

To love & to Lie😳

Ragini and Neel were spotted downstairs playing with Nihar's soccer ball from Neel's trunk

The boys didnt give the 5 year old a turn, she tried to kick as hard as she could, she was not offended, just proud to be part of a "cool kids" group

The society kids paused their game of cricket to watch who the new kids were, Aadhya didnt have any friends, she was suddenly "one of them"

Neel kicked the bal effortlessly Suvi noticed, snaking his way dribbling, passing with his toes deftly, taking it to the imaginary goal

Aadhya was the goalie and she didnt know about it...

Ofcourse not... when the ball came at high speed she fled

Suvi laughed heartily and shouted to her daughter to protect "the wall"

Aadhya didnt get it

Neel looked up at her attempt to coach her daughter, and smiled slyly

Bhuvan noticed that glance😳

Nihar and Maneet were tough adversaries to Neel

She kept screaming "Shakkara... aADHYA... AADHYAAA... from up the lil girl just didnt get it

Suvi gave up aftera while, her hands on her head

"Isko soccer nahi dilaane ka hai" she whispered chucking... to Bhuvan

"Ya, aise sochen... inko to soccer zaroor sikhayengi... tabhi jeetengi" he said

The simple difference in ideology startled her

they came up in an hour

Ragini was on the phone with her youngest

Bhuvan went down too, and started to walk with Ragini

she cleaned up quietly, packed all the leftovers for the Pandit/Misras

And went down to rescue her daughter

"Beti ki chinta sataane lagi aapko?" he asked panting, as he dodged to kick another goal

"Nai to... isko soccer ka khabar nai" she explained

He laughed at her attempt to defend her daughter, she never made excuses

It was amusing to watch her guard her cub

"Chaliye hum sikha dete hai"

Daddd watch out" screamed Nihar

Neel ducked,first and then connected it with his head sending the ball over the society fence

The boys moaned, Nihar tossed his keys to Maneet so Maneet could walk to the guest parking spot and open Neel's trunk again

and get something else out, tennis balls or basketball or something

Neel walked out he turned to pause... to see if she would join

She did

"Dad kya keh rahe the?" he asked

"Mere ko poocha ki mai aapko pasand karti hai" she said rather softly

"Aapne kaha hoga hitler hai" he said pushing his sweaty hair away from his face

She laughed

"Ulta bola... good boss bola" she said disarmingly

"Maine unko bola u love... umm.." she couldnt bring herself for some strange reason to tell him, on his face,... that he loved Nupur

She struggled to tell him what she had so pompously told his FIL an hour ago upstairs

He paused and turned towards her waiting... to know what he so apparently "loved"

A car entered the society gate, with its lights flashing

They parted and let it pass, and walked out and he retrieved the ball from the chaos of rickshaw walas, cucumber hawkers, ice cream vendors and pedestrians lining the chipped and broken at places sidewalk

A bunch of kids tossed it to each other, he waited patiently until they were done, one boy handed it to him politely

He exhaled, as he struggled to leave the ball with them, quickly fighting an internal battle

Weighing disappointing his son vs. making a bunch of urchins deliriously happy

And then tossed the ball back to the kids and turned around

She stared speechlessly

"Nihar ko kya bolne ka?" she asked😳

"Hum dono" ne bahut dhoonda, hamey mili nahi" he said😳

And so they would speak their first "joint lie"👏

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PriteeMisra

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Posted: 9 years ago

#238

Nisha, I love it. Absolutely love it.
Thank you.

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PriteeMisra

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Posted: 9 years ago

#239

To love and to lie.
I love such lie.

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Srividya

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Posted: 9 years ago

#240

The last line is indicative that the duo will try to suppress facts for a while atleast. To me it marks a new phase in their relationship. Especially just after her fervent effort to defend her man.

The fact that Neel would be thoughtful of the happiness a ball can bring to a bunch of urchins to me is indicative of what he would do to ensure the happiness and well being of lil Aadya he adores.

It is nuances such as these that make you an awesome writer Nisha...loved my double dose of Morning Raga.