Originally posted by: moonwearer
If we look at customs and traditions...the Ayush homam happens as per the customs of the father's family. The fact that this is a marriage of the couple's choice made the Dude agree to perform all rituals the Iyer way. Why should Sri Vishvanatha Iyer insist it has to be on Malai Mandir when the Bhallas are ready to do all that the Iyers desire in MM. I guess it is just to Placate Bala. Vandhu and Bala will have a problem even if it is in Malai Mandir...i am sure of that.I guess Sri Vishvanatha Iyer having retired has nothing else to do so is raking up a non issue. If the Bhallas had said no to the Havan having it at the temple seems an option but the way he is creating a fuss is just to annoy the Dude .