Originally posted by: moonwearer
Kalpana i have seen my Aunt in law decide that she does not want her daughter's life be prolonged with the help of a machine. It must have been a very tough call for Periamma but she did as the daughter had fallen into depression and would get hysterical. She asked me to visit her in the hospital. She shared...i gave her a name beginnin with a double aa as i did not want her to be second in anything...she was a gifted singer, dancer and a math genius...Periamma and periappa reconciled to let her go in peace when they were alive and it provided an opportunity for a deeply insightful conversation. A few years later at the ripe age of 80 periamma was diagnosed with stomach cancer. She would have been unable to withstand chemo...her son DIL my husband and i had a conversation. I shared what periamma had shared with me saying you are the oldest of the next generation so it is your duty to offer wise counsel to the youngsters in the family. Every Vijayadasami she would give me Banni leaves and tell me you are my teaching varisu...We decided to take her home give her the care. She survived a few months and went in peace.
A few months after that i pledged my cadaver for medical research and this may i got my will made . i have clearly stated i do not want to be hooked to devices. My son asked me not to discuss morbid things but i guess we are in a time where we can state preferences.
I am not suggesting Amma and Appa stop medical treatment. I was responding to the please some of us were making to Nisha dont let him go . The decision will be Nisha's but it offers us an opportunity to reflect on our life. How we hope to live.
Sri, I know of another person who has given it in writing to the extent you mentioned .
Yes times are changing and it helps the next line make such kind of decisions in a way.
As far as this story goes, on the posts that are requests to let him live , mine is one too.
May be cos of the special bond that II and periappa share and II asked Appa when he came to meet her
For the first time after the pregnancy announcement, she asked him" does periappa know".
To which Appa teared up and said he seemed to understand and acknowledge when I told him kanna".
So I was thinking , one last time, this time , hope he gets to live the moment when II takes her newborn and shows him to her periappa. It would be a circle complete, I thought Sri.
The word release in your poem had me thinking on the post I made Sri and my apologies, I took it off in a different tangent. I so understand the predicament that your son had, when you got that will made.
You are remarkably clear and people around you have a lot to learn and benefit from your experiences.
Kabhi Neem Neem Kabhi Shahad Shahad
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