SS 54 Mother & Mothering - Page 89

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

Its very easy for me to spin a hero into M's life and wipe out all fears in II's mind, I can have Ritu get into a car wreck, I can destroy chachu's family in a plane crash or make Chachi take sanyaas, I can have Savvy show up from a Buddhist monastery in Hong Kong

And make R&B talkative and social

It completely guts the backbone of the story

We all have to deal with unpleasant things in life, it tells us a lot about who we are as a individual. We dont get the dream job when we want it, it doesnt come with a 30% raise, it does come with zero commute

Yes we marry faithful men and have average kids but we HAVE TO learn to acknowledge, process and deal with unpleasant things
While we will never be asked to marry our rapist, we can get hit with some really painful life events.

We cannot change completely, we do things differently to secretly run away from it

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

Yes Swathi has a great point, very valid
In India such things DO matter, nobody knows what causes a good pregnancy to end in cerebral palsy or what causes autisim or severe mental illness

There is a lot of stigma associated with it

Subbu's Mom was a complete bitch about it.

Putti:We all think we know the ones we love the best, oh heck, we assume just because we have worked with someone for 8 or 10 years "we KNOW them". We find such people doing something ludicrous or unscrupulous or unethical someday and walk home in a daze... wondering HOW COULD I HAVE NOT SEEN IT


Manya thought she knew R&B the best, she was SURE he would never marry and flit from woman to woman
He didnt

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

I just wrote a response to ur worry actually, right before this post

We cannot get rid of unpleasant people, events or actions in life
We HAVE TO SUCK IT UP and learn to deal with it
Akka lives with her in laws 24*7 and cant quit her job, Amma is Periappa's nurse for 40 years now.
We all get handed a certain set of cards from the deck, some have many Aces some have none... but we all have to play

You cant ask "out" u know...
BTW I am part of a work Powerball pool I borrowed $10 from $2 each from 5 people (I HAVE NO CASH😡 only cards) and yet someone from Michigan won😡
Darn it!!!

I will play the next time the pool goes over $50 M😆
I cant be the only one on site that shows up to work "day after" can I😆

Originally posted by: munira053

Well I read that I completely agree with all the your quotes n comments Nisha!! I realize that we cannot just wish for II to be 'best friends' with M. Her insecurity in a way just shows how much it actually effects her to imagine her hubby has for years slept with the woman. Her possessiveness for R&B, trust Me I LOVE THAT.
I wad just pointing out about Manya. I don't understand Why shez so insecure towards II? Probably after seeing her pregnant with Her -baby brothers baby- she must trust II with R&B and Ranjan.

And yeahhh none of us want you to make the above changes that you mentioned, That would be No Fun!! 😛 😆

Ummm btw I don't wish to see M 😆 with boyfriend, husband, or even alone!

Originally posted by: putti77

Such a hypocrite Indian women(Not sure about other country) are, they have already rejected the girl for their son giving reasons but want to see the girl go through those things and if not happened sulk for that... 😡