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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: ishruhi

Bala loves his family sincerely.he loves his wife,he shows his care when he can
he is a good father.gives gud value for his son.always thinks about shravu's future...works hard to handle all his money woes,but as usual to a middle class family,many gets unattended...
he respects his in laws,cares for II,worries about her n rnb as her brother...understands vandu's problems but never tries to sort it out...
actually every (better than every,'those who love his wife' suits)common middle class man aproaches wife's woes in this manner na?"I know she is suffering bcoz of my family or money pblm or job pblm.but me too is suffering alle?she needs to understand that this is the life with me!where am I enjoying so that i should clear all her chaos?me too is suffering.where i will complain?she should co operate."
bala is like this alle?more than taking vandu as granted,he wants vandu to share his problems.he cant confront ambala anna.so vandu should help him.he want vandu not to b anywhere near II's MM status as he cant dream about that.he is adamant about vandu to stick on with him even in his sapnas about future.
we can c many balas around us..(but no rnb in reality 😭 )

Absolutely correct Noufiya
I never saw it in this way
Thats why I love here
Reading about others opinion and seeing a situation from every angle, it always makes you more wise and mature at the end of the day
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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: Nisha0604


Nouf! Fantastic, our thoughts hugged each other while they passed in the digital freeway
I SAID EXACTLY THAT. OMG!!😳


ta dang!!!
i read this when i was waiting for results n uppa was settled comfortably.
but couldnt reply then.
bala II reln will never b normal as what it was before her marriage...paavam both...he too cant help it.more than anything,pride rides us more...haan anyway it was a win n lose game for II which happened in march 8.got many nd lost many...
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Posted: 10 years ago
I am not supporting II here...she always refuses R&B for anything as it hurts her pride... Now she is willingly giving charity to bala...is she not hurting him...?????
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Posted: 10 years ago
gud nite everyone...
miss u asma n shilpa...
vidyaa,u too...
swathi was here alle?gud to c u swathi...
missing diva n vani...
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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: ishruhi

Bala loves his family sincerely.he loves his wife,he shows his care when he can
he is a good father.gives gud value for his son.always thinks about shravu's future...works hard to handle all his money woes,but as usual to a middle class family,many gets unattended...
he respects his in laws,cares for II,worries about her n rnb as her brother...understands vandu's problems but never tries to sort it out...
actually every (better than every,'those who love his wife' suits)common middle class man aproaches wife's woes in this manner na?"I know she is suffering bcoz of my family or money pblm or job pblm.but me too is suffering alle?she needs to understand that this is the life with me!where am I enjoying so that i should clear all her chaos?me too is suffering.where i will complain?she should co operate."
bala is like this alle?more than taking vandu as granted,he wants vandu to share his problems.he cant confront ambala anna.so vandu should help him.he want vandu not to b anywhere near II's MM status as he cant dream about that.he is adamant about vandu to stick on with him even in his sapnas about future.
we can c many balas around us..(but no rnb in reality 😭 )



Kidilam note Noufi. I relate to most of it except that Bala doesn't want Vandu to be anywhere around II . Selfishly he doesn't want his wife to load her problems with Bhallas. He couldn't ask his wife to take a break off work when he was supposed to. Dude stepped in. He is feeling stuffed with guilt and the generosity of the bhallas. All the help that he recd from them during the delivery time, he doesn't know if he can repay them. It's beginning to ask uncomfortable questions of him and he is struggling to step up. .
Yes we see more men like Bala around us.

On a different note, I am glad that your uppa is better now. It must hv been a scare . These days, I find myself wanting to pass my day with no scare. You hv had a long day. Rest well. GN,Dr. Nouf
Edited by Errantnomad - 10 years ago
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Posted: 10 years ago
Am glad Namz u finally took stand for urself openly!
Be good but dont waste your time proving it!

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

Even with Bala a dichotomy exists, he is willing accept dude's influence at DU to extend Akka's time off. He is willing to use Dude's attorney to get his paperwork done.

But II's generosity rankles him

If he was so honest and fair about everything in life, he must tell his Ambala Anna "I can care for the parents for 6 months, its your turn afterwards"

Or tell his wife "Yes u take care of my parents 24*7 365 days a year, how about I spend the entire three months post delivery at D II?"

NOBODY knows about the prenup or the financial arrangement between the leads.

Nothing is as simple as it seems... I thought it would make a good story...

Thanks for debating it as if it were real life



Nisha Bala has no qualms about using II earnings to refurbish his house and provide comforts for his parents, host Kamakshi Athai as he and she please and borrow II's car as he can't have his repaired ...when it suits him he treats her like the sister he never had and ask her to stay off at other times...I understand each one has to resolve the issues in their own way...Bala wanted Akka to go to Ambala because he could get back early as he didn't have the guts to do so on his own...I grew up with grand mom and great grandmom and live in a joint family which then had my parents in law , grandfather in law, one cousin or the other of my husband staying with us...and weekly visits by pukkathu athais and Chitappas all like Appas relatives and Bala's not even one Janaki Athai types...My mother in law's sister or my mother would come from chennai to look after Tatha but not his 2 other sons who lived in the same city or his daughter who could have but didn't from Coimbatorewhen we moved from a bigger to smaller house the kind of compromises we had to make...I have been in the shoes of Akka though temperamentally i am like II
I have watched the way men handle the situation and it rankles me to see folks like Bala...My Appa is a lot like him and so many Iyer men i see...
The Bhallas and Batras never seem to mind the difference and whole heartedly treat them as their own...Bala is making things tough at DII along with Maapillai new born Vandhu...Amma has to feed Bala's parents Athai or II has to go even to shift furniture...i agree with limited finances you have only certain things you can provide...you want your wife and 8 year old to understand but can't have a talk with your parents and Anna...Tatha paati dont want to give pension or chennai house related stuff...If bala took the same stance with all its fine...it is what suits him at that time that he is willing to accept...Appa prides such a son in law as he is a typical Maapilai with his occasional Maapillai Murukku...None of us is perfect...his double standards is what irks...definitely a II earning lakhs and indulging on Shravu was OK ...now you accept her when it is convenient and tell her stay off when you are not in mood is not...Akka drives II to Munirka to do her errands pertaining to Shravu so what is he actually doing staying at DII other than eating Tiffen?.
Edited by moonwearer - 10 years ago
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Posted: 10 years ago
Mocking Bird,
Please have a good time with everyone here. I understand you may disagree, or may be even dislike the story, if you do then please quit reading. This is FREE entertainment (the story and the other discussions we happen to have) and I dont care much for "honest" negative/harsh/ridiculing criticism of the story, the author or the readers.

No overt or covert potshots please. I only allow that for Bollywood and TV industry
Pay us,... then you can slander us all you want, no I am not kidding...


Kalpana,

Yes they like her for who she is, she doesnt help Bala's parents so "he will keep Akka happy" "Or Bala's parents should think she is the best 28 year old" etc. She is by nature very caring. She has her ego too but mostly shes OK. Great Review BTW


Shru: GREAT review, Yes Bala feels everything you mention in your review, its extremely hard for him to "see II" like she was in Feb 2015
His judgement is being clouded by who she married and the wealth within.
It was inevitable no? We all want to pretend we live in a Sooraj Barjatya type family, I have not met one family where I have not noticed under currents of dissent and envy. Its how we deal with such inadequacy is what makes our life.

Vidya: I have seen many many families like yours, its not hard you know... we are all alike😃 Some let themselves be used, when they realize it they lash out in their own way😭

Edited by Nisha0604 - 10 years ago
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Posted: 10 years ago

A tamil poem sorry no time for translation now


VENDUM VENDUM

Kuzhandhai manadhudan kuzhandhaiyai odi villayadi

Seendi vilayadi, Settai seydhu, pidivadham pidithu Potti poda Shrravu

Azhagai rasithu konji seeratta poramai pada oru lasya

Avan gavanam avan vilayatu kuzhandhaigalai kaiyalum pakkuvam

Edilum oru nerthi ...avaladho oru anbai perum muyarchi

Aval pondra pala vaal vendum endru kadhal vaya patta avan kanavu

Enadhu endra ondru avan indri thavikum podhu avan ninaivai endra aval nilay

Thaalattuval miga arumaiyai, vilayaduval mannil vizhundhu avan geli seyum pozhudhum

Veetil kondaduvar anaivarum avalai thanga thattil veithu

Aval manadhil indrum avan patriya oru nadukam

Kai viduvaan endra aiyam idhu poki avanmel muzhu nambikaiyudan

Avanudhaiyadhai thannil aval sumakum podhu

suriyanum chandiranum natchathiramum

Mannil thondrum

Thendral sumakum narumanamai veesum layippu iruvaridamum

Aval therivaal thani Azhagu aval milirvaal oru thani polivudan

Avan tharipan dhinam oru pudhu avatharam aval pidivadham thani kai aala

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

Mocking Bird,
Please have a good time with everyone here. I understand you may disagree, or may be even dislike the story, if you do then please quit reading. This is FREE entertainment (the story and the other discussions we happen to have) and I dont care much for "honest" negative/harsh/ridiculing criticism of the story, the author or the readers.

No overt or covert potshots please. I only allow that for Bollywood and TV industry
Pay us,... then you can slander us all you want, no I am not kidding...


Kalpana,

Yes they like her for who she is, she doesnt help Bala's parents so "he will keep Akka happy" "Or Bala's parents should think she is the best 28 year old" etc. She is by nature very caring. She has her ego too but mostly shes OK. Great Review BTW


Shru: GREAT review, Yes Bala feels everything you mention in your review, its extremely hard for him to "see II" like she was in Feb 2015
His judgement is being clouded by who she married and the wealth within.
It was inevitable no? We all want to pretend we live in a Sooraj Barjatya type family, I have not met one family where I have not noticed under currents of dissent and envy. Its how we deal with such inadequacy is what makes our life.

Vidya: I have seen many many families like yours, its not hard you know... we are all alike😃 Some let themselves be used, when they realize it they lash out in their own way😭


That's why Nisha they say friends are happier than family. In family everyone wants to jatao Hak because they feel they are entitled to do so. Wedding card mein naam nahi, throw a fit, consult nahi kiya kisi cheez ke liye, Fulao your muh, shaadi mein Ek brother in law ko better suit kyun mila. Bua got to greet the guests, Mausi didn't...hey Bhagwan.

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