FF- Love Will Find A Way- 13th UPDATE page 74 - Page 12

Originally posted by: heena_mehta

k.......first i would like to say sry 4 late reply.........actually my xams r gng on😭😭..............bt no worries finally i m here for giving my comments...................thankuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu sooooooooo much for d mindblowing part..............it was fantastic.............awesomeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee....................loved it............drooling................seems like a perfect story is going on wid each n every move, written in a perfect way................ur os seems like a drug to me😉

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plssssssssssss update soon

Originally posted by: ka7eela

Heena🤗awwwwwwwww thanks a ton hun you are too sweet😳..umwaaaaaaah❤️

wish you the best in your exams , may you pass with flying colors😃 thankuuuuuuuuuuu choooooo much😊😊😊😊

Originally posted by: ka7eela

@bold, 100% agree!, he is her husband not owner! why cant he wait! ok if he is so into it and cant wait! then he should seduce her gently and not force hims self like an animal, wait even animals seduce their partners before mating!

@pink true! there is no passion when there is no genuine love, at least from a girls BOV ! as i heard that most boys can do it with anyone 🤢

@orange, it is juts plain disgusting, and you wont believe this but in my family and most of the families where i come from there is a period of time before getting married like engagement, even if it was an arranged marriage! so the boy and girl have a chance get to know each other well before tying the knot, and this woman had that chance too!, but hell! no one knows how a man behaves after marriage!

@purple , again agree! but some girls are too week they care about what their families and society will say in case they leave their husbands so they end up living their whole lives in loveless marriage with a monstrous selfish man

@navy blue.. i can understand your situation perfectly!, its every pretty girls dilemma, especailly if she is from well known family, here a tip, the next time you go put a veil😉..jk😆

btw its same here, ,but in our society its the other way around as a girls family cant propose! only boys families and the boys have the right to do that, so basically when i am in a party or wedding or even out i get proposes form either the moms who talk to my mom, or boys themselves who approach me some times or follow around too! its scary ! some look genuine and some like they just want to play but i just ignore!

i feel i have the right to fall in love, and it still didn't happen so!, i know when i find the right guy someone i will, as love just happens beside i am still studying so whats the rush!!

families who dont respect their own daughters wishes and treat them as properties,end up destroying their lives ! and thats really sad!

@green, totally agree! Sid was good in initial days then they gradually destroyed his character along with Rids, both were unrealistic, and become pathetic and totally lame in the end🤢..about the lingerie incident and the thumps up in the end😆 all i can say that there is a special name for men who behave in this manner! but i am not going to say it😉😆

aww you love Abhay of my story😳, and you will love him even more in the upcoming update!😉

God! although he is a fictional character but i want a guy like him ..he doesn't have to be a vampire or have his super powers though😆

@red i hope so sweetheart i hope so😆

x ray visions 🤣 sometimes they literally drool too 😆dont let me start on the staring prevert creeps😆they just give me the chill! seriously!

Originally posted by: lighteningbuzz

@Green: Agree, thats why good guys who are not like that, stand out like shining diamonds in all that dirt in the world. 😉

@Maroon: It's the same way over here too. I remember many of my cuzins and indian friends who got married got a chance to talk with each other, hang out at cafes to get to know each other before saying yes. I still think there are chances of either girl or guy acting nice before marriage trying to sound appealing and then after marriage they might turn into something else in to their "real" self. I have seen this backfire on many but, at the same time I've seen it work for others.

@Lime Green: That is very good idea. I won't mind wearing a veil,😉

I think it helps a lot in many situations such as when you want to avoid pervert guys staring at you.

@Red: That's how its supposed to work. The guy or the guy's family proposes to the girl's family until I saw my girl cuzin's family going to guy's family house for the proposal.......then I was like "I guess there aren't any rules nowadays." LOL, but it just sounds weird having a girl's family propose to a guy......it just doesn't sound conventional. It's always been the guy making the first move.

@Black bold: Yes, I totally agree with you!!!! I also, feel that I have the right to find the right guy for myself at the right time and fall in love with him and marry him. That's why I get annoyed when my relatives talk about my marriage or bring proposals to me becuz, I feel like they are treating me like I am some type of property . Thank God, my own family is not like that at all. My mom have this sense of trust in me and she knows that if I find someone, he would be the right guy becuz, she knows what type of traits I admire in a guy, which she approves of too. My brother and dad on the other hand are more protective but, then brothers/dads are like that.

My own family is more modernized they are not against the idea of love marriage and are more open-minded as long as you know your limits like keeping your chastity before marriage and not letting anyone take advantage of you. But, its just some of my relatives are way too old-fashioned. And when I mean old-fashioned, I mean it in a way like for instance, a friend of mine had a love marriage, and I remember my aunt, exclaiming, "Oh! I thought she was a good girl!" And this friend of mine did not sleep with her husband before marriage but, the fact that she went out and found a guy by herself, makes her sound like not a good girl in their eyes. But, I don't care, as I believe others aren't going to live my life for me and nor do I have any intention to impress my relatives. As long as my own family supports me and I know I am right then who cares what the world thinks.

@Sky blue: I think I know what it is.....😆

@brown: You spoke my mind. Abhay has exactly all the personality traits I want in a guy. He is a dignified man, he believes in waiting for the right person and being loyal to the one girl he truly loves. He is protective, supportive, loving, passionate, caring, extremely romantic, and a guy with a self-respect. He is someone I would definitely respect and fall for, in my eyes he is just perfect. 😉 In your updates, I think Abhay is more appealing than the one in the serials. Becuz, the CVs can at times play around with Abhay's character in the serial for the sake of TRPs but, in your updates the characters and story remains true to its roots. Moreover, I feel that the Abhay in your one-shots, acts more like a college boy and is more easy to understand.

@Turquoise: Tell me about it! I get very angry when I see a guy staring at me in the wrong manner becuz, sometimes its so obvious you can tell. I once, got extremely mad at this guy who was a classmate and the professor had paired everyone with partners to work on an assignment. And this pervert the guy, the whole time I was talking to him, he would stare at my chest.........And I wasn't even wearing any revealing clothes! I had on a turtle-neck sweater and a jeans. So, you can tell that I wasn't showing any cleavage at all and inspite of this the idiot kept staring either at my chest, neck, or legs as if trying to have an x-ray vision. It was very uncomfortable and disgusting in the manner he was staring at me, like how a rapist stares at his victim.

I kept ignoring it and tried to divert his attention to the assignment but, then I lost my control and yelled at him, "What the hell are you keep staring at me for you idiot! This is it, I can't work with you. You are a pervert that sees only one thing in a woman!" I just blurt it out without thinking twice. He was shocked and embarassed at the same time becuz, he knew just what I was talking about. But, he couldn't say a word becuz, I guess no one had ever talked to him like that and he certainly didn't expect me to say something like that.

To be honest, I didn't expect myself to just blurt it out, but he just made me extremely mad at the time that I couldn't control my anger.

I remember I went up to the professor afterwards and requested that I didn't feel comfortable working with him. And from that day on everytime he would pass by me in the hallway, he would look the other way or down at the floor to avoid looking at me in fear I might burst out on him again.

My friends couldn't believe that I actually blurt it out so openly right across his face...........as the guy must've been so embarassed out of his mind. But, I feel I did the right thing becuz, he should know his manners and how to respect women!

Originally posted by: ka7eela

@ green, i loved that! good boys shine like diamond in all that dirt!😊

@maroon, i think arrange marriages are not like they were before say 40 years ago people are now aware that a couple needs to click and know each other a bit before tying the knot

but you are right most people don't reveal their true nature before marriage, people show their true colors after it!

btw some men are like DR. Jekyll and Mr.Hyde! , i heard many stories regarding this, that there are actually men who look so sweet and kind among others, but they are so abusive and monstrous with their wives! its like they have multiple personality disorder!

i feel a marriage will only work when people are true to themselves and try to work hard to make it work!..and of course love, respect, understanding and compromising should be apart of it too

@lime green..hahahaha, i think it might! you dont belive it we have here some woman who put veil and still there are preverts who follow them because maybe they like thier eyes😆

@ red i see!, but in India its ok for a girls family to propose, isnt it? and i thought you were an American Indian 😳 ..correct me if i am wrong😳

of couser the guys should make the first move😆, but nowadays there are many besharam girls who literally run after guys too!, i have seen many give their numbers to guys!..but i was talking about marriage proposals ...

@black you are right as long as you are not doing anything wrong why do you care what others say!, and i am glad you have an understanding family🤗, mine are same, they dont force me to do anything, and they trust me although my mom is a little over protective , like if i am out she would call to check upon me especially at nights when i am out with friends cause i drive alone,

about your cousins i hate relatives who poke their noses in other peoples business! imposing their own outdated ideas!..

they actually said that she wasn't a good girl just because she married out of love😕! WOW! you know i think its the same here but only in the suburbans and villages

but not cities,all of my uncles have married love marriages, and the eldest married like 26 years ago! and many of my aunties married out of love too, and their cousins too

i never heard anyone saying anything bad about them, moreover my grandparents blessed their marriages..btw i have 2 great aunts and many of my grand parents cousins who were married out of love like more then 40-50 years ago too😆 but they faced some trouble!

@ brown, hehehe! Abhay is just perfect😳 hope we get guys like him, btw my Abhay is younger then shows Abhay! he is half the age of the shows Abhay!😆 in the show he is more then 300 years old!🥱

@ Turquoise, OMG!! you actually burst out at him 🤣 you go girl!! you rock, i can so imagine the perverts face😆

he so deserved it!😡 what a freak!, guys like him have no shame!!

i usually try to ignore but i guess if it was me in your place especially if its a colleague then i might have done the same

oh well these are the kind of boys that usually we come across

oh Abhay where art thou Abhay! LOL

Originally posted by: lighteningbuzz

@Navy blue: Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.....I know! It's scary just thinking about it. I agree with you and I know some women are also, stupid enough to marry a Mr. Hyde thinking she will turn him into Dr. Jekyll but, in reality Mr. Hyde is the one that eventually conquers.

@bold: Yeah, I was born in India but, brought up in U.S. but, still my parents have tried to keep us in touch with our cultural values and roots. Maybe in India, it is common now but, I wouldn't know becuz, I have only been to India twice in my life.....the last time I went was in '95.......I know it has changed significantly since. But, I just know from what my parents and grandparents tell me and from what I have seen as a child even in movies, its usually the guy that comes to see the girl.

@orange: Wow, that is amazing to see, becuz, in my family majority had an arrange marriages while some had love marriages.

Many of my relatives in spite of living in the U.S. have clinged to those old-fashioned beliefs instead of advancing with time. Many of my relatives haven't been to India for a long time but, they still think that India is the same as they left behind. This year, one of my cuzin went for her sister's wedding and came back surprised as she told me, "India has changed......it is extremely modernized now."

I know many of my aunts and uncles who have been living here for the past 20-30 years of their life but, still have never accepted the American culture. I mean if you see a guy and girl kissing in public, my aunts would be looking and gasping, "OMG, look what they are doing in public." Probably becuz, they don't go out much. Most of them are either working endless hours at work they don't have time for even their own family and there are some who are stay at home wives who just sit at home and watch saas-bahu serials...........so, with lifestyle like that you don't know what's going on there in the world. But, for me I gone to school here so, I am used to it but, they are not.

Becuz, they don't want to change, they want to hold on to what they were taught as child forever. I know some families are more open-minded and some are not. I am just glad my family isn't one of those extremely, strict, old-fashioned types.

@Yeah, Where art thou Abhay! LOL

Originally posted by: ka7eela

@ navy blue, true in some cases but there are men who actually change after marriage but thats a huge risk a girls take! its her and her luck!.

@ bold i see, but yeah i know its the boys who goes and sees the girl first!, what i meant that a girls family can propose too, like someone from the girls side start talking to the boys family about the rishta and then they can come and see the girl! like Vivaah movie na!😉

@ orange we too have many arrange marriages, my parents was arrange marriage come intense love and how, 😉

you see my dad saw my mom like twice in a mall 20 years ago! and instantly it was love from his side, and then he didn't know who she was so he looked for her but at the time my mom was studying abroad but he kept on searching till he found out and then he discovered they have some common family freind and voilla he proposed to her, my mom wasn't keen as she was still young and studying , but destiny has its own works, somehow she agreed seeing him in the common friends house, after she met him and talked to him they clicked instantly and got engaged and after two years they got married! and touchwood mashaAllah ,even after 20 years they are so much in love

traditions are not that bad sometimes! as they keep your true essence and values! however when they are causing conflicts like in marriages then they should be changed, i too blush when i see couple kissing each other even in movies i look down or away! and by kissing i mean that deep one and not the normal one as i can watch that😆( dont judge me by my bold writings regrading this)😆

Originally posted by: lighteningbuzz

Wow, your parents love story is touching........I am amazed by your dad that he was so determined to find her and he finally did 😉 not like other guys who see a girl and just forget about her afterwards.........like how guys are nowadays. But, they were meant to meet and they did!

Btw, it seems like your parents story is more of a love story at least from your dad's side. 😉 And *touchwood* they remain like this happy and in love always.

My parents marriage was strictly arranged......lol. They did not know each other before marriage but, did get a chance to see and talk to each other before marriage. My parents told me that they were attracted to each other in their initial meeting and they had only a brief conversation before they said yes. Their love story started after their marriage. My mom tells me that it was very exciting becuz, they took their time to get to know each other and even though they were married, it was like teenagers talking with each other and falling in love, going to movies without the fear of their parents becuz, they were married and could chat and be with each other all the time. And I remember they told me that there were times when they couldn't wait to be off from their work so, that they can get home and see each other at home.....plan what they were going to do that day.......lol.

Their marriage is not only a inspiration to me but, to all my relatives, cousins and friends. They have such a deep understanding and love that I can't even describe it. *touchwood* I always pray that if I have a relationship with my husband it should be exactly like my parents. What's even more stranger is that they didn't even know each other prior to their marriage but, they got exactly what they wanted in each other, my mom wanted someone who doesn't drink, smoke, and is very sincere, and honest........and my dad has all the qualities she wanted. My dad wanted someone beautiful, understanding, caring, and intelligent, and he got just that!

I think its all part of one's luck. Becuz, I know one of my uncle who had an arrange marriage done a year later after my parents.' And his wife uses very foul language and is very demanding.......he is like a henpecked husband so, scared of her........lol (I know its mean that I am laughing.......but, its true you should see the way he calls her every minute everywhere he goes) If you ask him anything, he goes, "let me ask her first!" 😆And if tell him, "uncle, look she's right behind you........he'll panick with his face all red.......OMG!" 😆

Though my own parents had arrange marriage...........I always tell them that they are just too lucky and in today's era its hard to get that. Times have changed, and I realize that its more important to know someone prior to marriage becuz, I have seen far too many worse cases of arrange marriages these days through my cuzins and friends becuz, people are getting more westernized and losing faith in the institution of marriage and have more independence and freedom to do whatever they want. Like you I respect values, traditions and I would want someone who share the same values as me.

I know many Indian guys will talk to me with respect knowing that I am a girl too smart for them and they will be all sweet and everything......their parents will shower them with praises exclaiming, "my son is a gem, there's no one like him!" And behind their parents' backs these same boys are drinking, sleeping around with so many women, and even doing drugs.

And about kissing, its okay. I am the same as you. Though, I've gotten more used to the kissing in public by seeing it all the time in high school and college and even here in, UK but, still I don't stare like my aunts do......lol like you I just look away or down becuz, its just uncomfortable for me to see another person's private moment even if they are doing it in public cuz, its like why would I want to see another person make out? It's different when seeing it on tv or movies but, its hella awkward when seeing someone in person make out in front of you.........lol

But, I admit even I do blush when watching it on tv or movies..........I guess its cuz, we understand its value more than people who think its just not a big deal and just some random kiss. 😉

Originally posted by: ka7eela

@ bold you can say that again😆 sometimes my mom tells us about the cute things my dad used to do for her and we burst laughing, i mean he was madly in love, she loved him too but he was like head over heel! love them both

@ brown wow they were super cute!😳 your parent are so adorable, loved how they tried to know each other well

@purple well they are an inspiration for sure, and as you said when people are meant to be they are just meant to meet and be! it doesn't matter if its love marriage or arranged, people do fall in love even after marriage!

and sadly some love marriage fail because it wasn't love what they shared or maybe they were just wrong for each other

@ green its not only luck, i think for a marriage to work the couple has to work hard for it to understand each others need and respect each other, and be be compassionate and passionate! so yeah what your parent share is that and mine too

unfortunately your uncle doesn't have that, as seems his wife is very dominant and she just wants to have her ways! poor man!

@light blue, yeah i know what you mean, but sometimes as you mentioned some boys put an act! so! i think one should be careful and ask about the boy , as you said they can be quite good actors!

@orange😆 some people have no shame, i mean how can they make out in front of people, sometimes even in planes yuck!

@ light green😳😆 so true dont understand how can anyone just kiss anyone!! this is something so special and should be saved for someone very special!😳