Originally posted by: ka7eela
@ red this is how a true gentleman should behave, whether its love or arrange marriage! it doesnt matter!
i believe a man forcing himself even on his rightful wife is not a man at all!, its like he has legally raped her!🤢 he is just a big EWWWW!🤢
about you cousin its really sad and it breaks my heart that even after all theses years she didn't get over it! and can you blame her! i mean most of us girls dream of this special day and comes a jerk who behaves like an animal and ruin it all, its just heartbreaking and is very horrible!
your cousin at least coped with the situation better then a lady who is a relative of mine, she got married 20 years ago and his husband although being very well educated and all, literary raped her like a true villain shutting of her mouth and all!, after few months she got divorced of him by a law order as he wasn't willing to divorce her! and till day she didn't get married again!
@bold thats really sad!..what kind of mentality is that?😕 seriously ! hell they do!, what about the woman doesn't she has feelings! or maybe they consider her insignificant!
@blue maybe in the initials days!, but then he didn't make any sense!, he was like too much! i mean even after so many months! and even after she gave him green light he kept distant! it wasn't realistic at all! no man can keep this long off his wife that toloo when he loves her and she is into him! it was rt\the cvs blunder to get her back to her ex lover🤢 they totally ruined Sid's character and made him a weakling who cant seduce his own wife through all these months!
@ i am in love with Abhay too😳 but which Abhay do you mean , my FF one or the shows?!😆
i am sure there are plenty guys like him, who are so caring and loving hopfully we get our hands on them soon too 😉😆
@purple, you got it perfectly, yes she already accepted him and she is confused and hurt now of why he is rejecting her !
well you have to wait and read to find out how it will work out
thank you so much for your wonderful reply, they always manage to work like brain teasers, and open doors for some one on one discussions 🤗
@Purple: I agree, just becuz, he is her husband doesn't mean he can do whatever he wants, I mean they have a whole lifetime together to share with, he could've at least given her sometime to develop feelings for him and when they become more closer.
And I completely, agree with you that for many girls, they have big dreams for this special night and they want to be with someone they love. I think there's no passion in it if there's no genuine love.
@Orange: I felt disgusted about what happened to your relative. God! That is just horrifying. Even if its a husband forcing his wife, I still consider that rape becuz, I don't care if they are lawfully wedded, forcing is still rape. I don't blame her for divorcing the him becuz, you lose that sense of respect for your husband becuz, you can't ever develop any feeling for him. The guy practically destroyed her life with that bitter experience which is probably why she didn't or couldn't marry again. I don't know if my cuzin's decision to stay in her marriage was wise decision or not, but,
my personal opinion, I think its very hard to continue your relationship with someone you have no respect or love for.
@You got that right! I know many societies have this mentality. This is probably one reason why I hate going to my family functions becuz, I have all these aunties and some random ladies grabbing me and exclaiming, "OMG, you are so pretty.......you were this little when I saw you and now look at you all grown up" and blah blah blah.......the usual cliched lines. When this conversation starts, I know where the heck they are getting at........and BOOM! There it goes that famous line to my mom which goes, "Have you started searching a boy for her, you should get her married. AHHHHHHHHHHHHhh
I mean the fact if a girl is unmarried and grown, the only thing that goes on in their mind is MARRIAGE, and they treat a girl like she is a property meant to be with a guy which you are just dying to sell as fast as you can and if they don't then the market value might go down! LOL
I mean what if she isn't ready, what is she has career plans, what if she wants to find one herself..........oops, that might just give them a heart attack!
@Green: I liked Sid in the initial days.......before Armaan's entry, how he didn't force himself on her, in his wedding night, But, after a while I do agree his character got to nonsense and dumb. Even though, his wife was standing there in front of him in a lingerie waiting for him to seduce her, the dumb idiot goes, "its okay you still need time!" LOL I mean I remember her saying to him that she did it out of her own will, it wasn't like he was forcing her and he still always thought that she needed time even after 7 whole months and marrying the same woman twice out of her own will again! And then when she got with her ex in the end, he give her thumbs up sign! 🤣
And ofcourse, I meant the Abhay in your one-shots 😉 He is more romantic and friendlier than the one in the serial.
@Red: Yeah, I know there must be guys like them and I definitely do hope that we both get our dream guys. 😉 Its just the guys I have seen are just so weird! Like for instance if I go to any parties and there are indian guys there. They stand there are and just stare at you.........(No not the "affectionate or dreamy" stare heroes do in shows/movies) these guys will stare at you hungrily like they have never seen a girl as if they have an x-ray vision. It gives you this urge to just want to smack them like hell! Becuz, you know they are perverts inside!
Edited by lighteningbuzz - 14 years ago
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