Why always only bride's dreams are counted on marriage? ?

I have been reading many posts on the anokhi shraman marriage from past 2-3 days..
Whether it is on the forum, Twitter, IG,
All blames on Shravan for spoiling her marriage dreams
I wonder, why people are thinking only about girl's dreams & feelings always,??
Why a groom can't have dreams about own marriage?
I'm also a girl, but can't accept this partiality when it comes to such subjects..
I agree, Shravan was so rude in his decision on court marriage.
But realize, not only the bride, but the groom will also have a dream about own marriage
Why always people talks only about girl's dreams about marriage?
When we consider both men & women as equal, we should consider their feelings also without partiality
Didn't Shravan talk with her about, why he wants a high profile wedding?
Many said, Shravan cane to talk with her, after arranging everything.
But if she understood his version, he might have cancelled his arrangements & they could get a dream wedding.
Sharing marriage expense is a common thing nowadays.
Many places, in reality I saw groom people demanding the marriage arrangements from bride family
Here sumo was stubborn as, she was going to marry a man whom she knows earlier, who respects Nanu's decision, & won't say anything against it.
Here sumo was not ready to accept any of their wishes..
It was not only her marriage, but his too..
The way she expects him to fulfill her wishes, she too should care to fulfill his wishes.
If she got disappointment from it, he too was not happy with it.
Both were not ready to give up their ego, that is why the marriage ended up like this.
Both deserves to get blame equally.
She didn't consider his & his family's feelings
Same way, he too didn't consider her feelings..
A tit for tat...
That is all...

100% agree...sumo lught to have considered shravan's proposal

Originally posted by: Shreeswathy

I have been reading many posts on the anokhi shraman marriage from past 2-3 days..
Whether it is on the forum, Twitter, IG,
All blames on Shravan for spoiling her marriage dreams
I wonder, why people are thinking only about girl's dreams & feelings always,??
Why a groom can't have dreams about own marriage?
I'm also a girl, but can't accept this partiality when it comes to such subjects..
I agree, Shravan was so rude in his decision on court marriage.
But realize, not only the bride, but the groom will also have a dream about own marriage
Why always people talks only about girl's dreams about marriage?
When we consider both men & women as equal, we should consider their feelings also without partiality
Didn't Shravan talk with her about, why he wants a high profile wedding?
Many said, Shravan cane to talk with her, after arranging everything.
But if she understood his version, he might have cancelled his arrangements & they could get a dream wedding.
Sharing marriage expense is a common thing nowadays.
Many places, in reality I saw groom people demanding the marriage arrangements from bride family
Here sumo was stubborn as, she was going to marry a man whom she knows earlier, who respects Nanu's decision, & won't say anything against it.
Here sumo was not ready to accept any of their wishes..
It was not only her marriage, but his too..
The way she expects him to fulfill her wishes, she too should care to fulfill his wishes.
If she got disappointment from it, he too was not happy with it.
Both were not ready to give up their ego, that is why the marriage ended up like this.
Both deserves to get blame equally.
She didn't consider his & his family's feelings
Same way, he too didn't consider her feelings..
A tit for tat...
That is all...

OK In Some Points You Are Correct But Things r not So Easy For Suman ...One Side Ramu Taunt the Tiwari Family for Contribute full money In the Wedding And The Other side Mani's Taunts can Be A major Reason Behind Sumo's Decision about a Simple Wedding ...Shravan Said that He will Marry Suman Soo It's his Responsibility to Think Nicely that Which State Sumo Belongs in Her life ...Malhotra Family should think About Tiwari's nature ...And Now a days Every Bride Groom have Full Authority to Select which kind of Marriage they want... It's Birds Groom who Can Do Any type Of Marriage In their Comfort Level ...Famous Lawyers Should know About this ...Bcz Of Their Rich And Capability ,they Can't rule Others Life...

Cause wedding day is very important for a bride side family then groom side cause she is leaving her mayka forever she is leaving her loved once she is leaving her house and she is already sad , happy, confused and and she has to make someone's house her own... And even most of the groom side does realize this too and brides family welcome the grooms family on wedding day just so they can take their ladli forever And even ladke wale knows how difficult this time is for ladki walon ke liye So ladki walk ka Itna toh haq banta hain .. Sorry but if you are inviting the guest then you will decide how you wants to welcome them not the guests going to decide! grooms side does not interfere on wedding day and they do respect her choice and her familys choice that's why she is allowed to do the way she wants her wedding to be as long as Saat Phere Is completed that's althe matters ...by doing this by giving her the freedom on her wedding day to decide how she wants to get married is completely up to her and her family cause this is the only last time she will be able to do what she wants freely after that uski ek nahi chalnewali lol ... And I also believe that if ladke wale respects your choice that means you will be happy forever and if they do interfere on you wedding day and tells you how they want this wedding to be toh samjlena ki they will create problems in your life ...

Agree with u.

Shrav didn't even have a bachelor's party.😆
anyway, I'm glad he didn't get married in his polka dot shirt & wore a suit.

I agree here, Sumo needed to be a li'l soft on Shravan's request. Though her not being ready to take any help especially from the great Ramnath Malhotra makes most sense but she could have dodged the situation by playing safe. She could have said if nanu agrees you guys can do one function out of marriage/engagement per your choice. Finding a middle way would have been the best option. And as much as Shravan needs to learn to care about a girl's self-respect, Sumo too needs to learn about caring for other's feelings. Both have a long way to go.

yes...we should consider men's feeling too.. but he didn't mention like his marriage wish.. he started combo with "my dad receiving so many calls since yesterday.. so he wants our marry a grand celebration" blah blah ... so sumo denied and we know that why 😆

Originally posted by: avni01

How can she agree for a lavish wedding when they down scaled her cousins wedding just a few days back. She anyways was against a lavish wedding but I'm sure she would have agreed if shravan came a d told her that it wad his dream to have a wedding like that. If he says that is his father's desire there is no way she will accept and whatever excuse she could make she did. In spite of all this she is termed a gold digger. If shravan users even 1% of his brain he would be in a much better place.

During preekar marriage, she had to consider her self-respect, as ramnath offered her money not with a good intention, it was to separate shraman
But the way she chose the ring, & later bought a lehenga for 60000(her own money) can't be justified.
In a marriage, most of the bride family will try their best to satisfy the groom it will affect their daughter's future
But Suman behaved senseless.
Even in booking the marriage Hall, she was not even ready to listen him.
If they went for a destination wedding as per kamini's wish, she had to spend more than this na?
When the other party bows a little, we should also take care to consider their status in the society..
Of course, preekar marriage did damage to kamini's reputation in her social circle.
In practical life, such things have much importance.
Malhotra has a good status in the society, and the way Suman want her marriage is going to damage their reputation.
As long as Shravan & other family members are unaware of the rift between Ramnath & Suman, how can we blame them for feeling insulted by sumo's behavior?
It's not just a desire of Ramukaka, but a high profile wedding for Shravan & family is much important for their reputation, than her self-respect

But shravan never said what he wanted.. he said my papaji wants this. And suman knows the real face of his papaji 😆