Why always only bride's dreams are counted on marriage? ? - Page 2

Originally posted by: vibg

But shravan never said what he wanted.. he said my papaji wants this. And suman knows the real face of his papaji 😆

If he doesn't want a marriage in the way, Ramnath suggested, why will he spent his time to talk with Suman about it?
He talked with her about it, tried to make her understand why he want it, that itself implies hr too want such a wedding..
He need not specify that he too want the same..

Originally posted by: coolmove

Cause wedding day is very important for a bride side family then groom side cause she is leaving her mayka forever she is leaving her loved once she is leaving her house and she is already sad , happy, confused and and she has to make someone's house her own... And even most of the groom side does realize this too and brides family welcome the grooms family on wedding day just so they can take their ladli forever And even ladke wale knows how difficult this time is for ladki walon ke liye So ladki walk ka Itna toh haq banta hain .. Sorry but if you are inviting the guest then you will decide how you wants to welcome them not the guests going to decide! grooms side does not interfere on wedding day and they do respect her choice and her familys choice that's why she is allowed to do the way she wants her wedding to be as long as Saat Phere Is completed that's althe matters ...by doing this by giving her the freedom on her wedding day to decide how she wants to get married is completely up to her and her family cause this is the only last time she will be able to do what she wants freely after that uski ek nahi chalnewali lol ... And I also believe that if ladke wale respects your choice that means you will be happy forever and if they do interfere on you wedding day and tells you how they want this wedding to be toh samjlena ki they will create problems in your life ...

I agree with your views on marriage, and this is what an ideal marriage should be.
But from my experience, I saw the other side of the coin
Most of the time, groom people do express their minimum expectations from the marriage, or expresses that they are ready to share marriage expense or they will conduct one or more events in marriage.
I even saw them demanding illogically, like one of m friend had to choose a marriage Hall 125 kms away from home.
Even people who believes in ideology, agrees, as it may result in a grudge for their daughter's future.
Even if groom part won't say anything, they will start their blame game from the next day..
To satisfy them is a Himalayan task, still we need to prepare to hear their blame.
This is a dreadful face of reality.
People do such compromises, as it is for a good future of our dear ones..

And both bride & groom have their own excitement& difficulties regarding a marriage.
If bride has to move away from her own home,
Groom have to prepare himself to share his life & space with her
Both are going to lose their independence in life (a sad reality)
He is also going to undertake a new responsibilities, he needs to safeguard the interest of her & his family's equally.
He have to keepa balance in two relations..
He have to prepare his bride compatible with his family atmosphere.
I think both have their own share of headaches regarding marriage...

Agreed on all counts!

Originally posted by: Shreeswathy

If he doesn't want a marriage in the way, Ramnath suggested, why will he spent his time to talk with Suman about it?
He talked with her about it, tried to make her understand why he want it, that itself implies hr too want such a wedding..
He need not specify that he too want the same..

ideally a wedding is happy union of bride and groom idea of what they want ..