Nirmala Ahuja Ram and Sumo Adi Shrav - Page 2

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@serial I am only asking to treat Nirmala a human not a Goddess or anything. Just because she left the child she cannot be bad mother. Even that is keeping standards of what a good mother should be. Grey means not bad, grey means being human. Whether that person have it in them to accept their mistakes.

I know enough selfish woman in personal life and as far as I can see Nirmala doesn't belong to that category.

And independent ziddi woman the definition I guess only a person who has travelled the path of being independent in the society will be able to tell.

What would you tell about a girl who had to abort her healthy fetus because she was fed up suffering her husband's and MILs both physical and emotional abuse. She was my reportee. I had seen the girl trying to save her marriage for 3 years suffering mental abuse to the extend I had to send her many times to counseling centre in my office.

Finally for questioning why he didn't accompany her to the doctor, she was asked to stand outside the house in a wintery evening in Bangalore. She was not supposed to question. That was the law in his place. That was the last straw. Girl terminated the pregnancy and got divorce.

So bad mother. I still remember her calling me and crying hysterically I killed my baby, but I had no option. I cant take it any more and I don't want any connection with him.

I will place Nirmala there. Shravan meant connection with Ramnath. She didn't want any connection with Ramnath.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@sp many people are taking this lying quite seriously. It depends on how you deal with people. Make them feel worthy.

I have a relative. I did something for that uncle and it became a success. They are not very well off people. Still I asked uncle for helping you I need bonda or vada.

Actually he was happy. I can dine in the finest of restaurents, I can eat Indian, Chinese, Mexican anything. I can even take them and go out. My financial status allows.

But then if I tell them what they can afford they will feel worthy. They will feel happy. That uncle got me that immediately also.

And if I have to lie to make someone feel worthy I will do that also. I have done. I take sarees and all without showing bill amount to my relatives during festival times. If they ask me what is the cost, I will tell the budget they expect, but on many occasions I would have spend more. It keeps me happy, it keeps them too happy in 2 way.

If I tell the cost, they will expect more extravagant gifts, which can be misused. Or they will feel they cannot repay me back with equally good gifts. Why the mess.

Some things are done quietly, without telling. It doesn't mean it is wrong. You do it always in managing relations.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@serial I am only asking to treat Nirmala a human not a Goddess or anything. Just because she left the child she cannot be bad mother. Even that is keeping standards of what a good mother should be. Grey means not bad, grey means being human. Whether that person have it in them to accept their mistakes.

I know enough selfish woman in personal life and as far as I can see Nirmala doesn't belong to that category.

And independent ziddi woman the definition I guess only a person who has travelled the path of being independent in the society will be able to tell.

What would you tell about a girl who had to abort her healthy fetus because she was fed up suffering her husband's and MILs both physical and emotional abuse. She was my reportee. I had seen the girl trying to save her marriage for 3 years suffering mental abuse to the extend I had to send her many times to counseling centre in my office.

Finally for questioning why he didn't accompany her to the doctor, she was asked to stand outside the house in a wintery evening in Bangalore. She was not supposed to question. That was the law in his place. That was the last straw. Girl terminated the pregnancy and got divorce.

So bad mother. I still remember her calling me and crying hysterically I killed my baby, but I had no option. I cant take it any more and I don't want any connection with him.

I will place Nirmala there. Shravan meant connection with Ramnath. She didn't want any connection with Ramnath.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@kavum to be frank I am not finding anything wrong with Adi. If he is positive as he is shown and I expect him to be, if an arranged marriage come for a girl, for a guy like that the parents will proceed. Over the period of time a woman like Sumo if she accepts marriage based on what her nanu and elders have planned, will remain loyal to it and work it out also.

If you see Adi, what he accepts most about Suman is her independence. He prefers to keep her independent. He respects her self respect.