Love and the Power to hurt

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An episode of super significance juxtaposed in a restaurant setting...What did it dish out? Food that was hard to digest...nay some raconteur's tale...If a story can unsettle what if it were indeed true? Are some truths hitting home too close for comfort? Some unpalatable truths that are hidden in the depths of the years gone by...

"You never stop loving someone

You either never did or you always will"

That is the truth of true love...

"Those have the most power to hurt us, that we love".

A contemplative Shravan sits at the restaurant having witnessed a facet of Sumo, hitherto unknown. Has Sumo really changed so much? Her maturity in dealing with his last brush with pain, is perhaps just fresh in his mind. The child woman issues a challenge, telling him he still does not know her as he claims. Could she be right? She asked him to reveal something that she does not know about him. A pensive Shravan hesitates for just a moment before accepting the deal. Then SUMO EXPRESS hits him full force!! It came unannounced, perhaps like always...u know it will come but you can't ever be prepared for it!!

His first expression when she hides...confusion then exasperation...Sumo's antics which is he is so used to!! Then when she sushes him pointing to some man, his anxiety had begun to make its first appearance even though he was keeping it in check by asking her to come out with it. He listens with growing concern as Sumo talks about her fascination for a man...this was not the madcap Sumo, describing some nondescript Jeevan. This was a Sumo looking like never before. His full-blown anxiety causing him to be curt with her while she fumbled with the chopsticks. Then the expression of absolute devastation that Sumo was professing love for a man in his presence. Gathering courage, since he is a glutton for punishment, asks her softly, are you not over him yet? The look of pure misery when she, the woman who life's passion is food, tells him she can forget a recipe but not Jairaj. How much more worse could it get? Then Sumo spins a tale, something she is so well known for...tells him this was a taste of her story telling skills. That knowledge gives him no relief, on the contrary it gives him more cause for anger. Suffice to say, he had lost his appetite. He is no mood for any pleasantries, the date has come to an end as far as he is concerned, the joke if she thought it was one had already gone too far and he is not ready for any more humour. With his curt tone, he tells her, he was done for the day and that he was not indulging her sweet tooth.

Having sufficiently recovered at the parking lot, he was able to throw a cultivated air of indifference when she told him "I know why was your mood off!"as if to say nothing significant had happened. Sumo then makes that telling remark " I know you did not like the story i just related" Ah the penny dropped. Shravan is struck by the blandness of that statement. ..how dare she know things even his own heart refuses to tell him? Is it true that he did not like the story she related or did he not like it that she knows that he did not like the story she told? Why did she stand there with her towering presence while he stood razed to the ground? What is this power this woman has that makes him transfixed as she looks at him pleased with the knowledge she has?

His homeward journey I would have liked to see but then we get a glimpse of Shravan replaying the miserable parts of the evening in his overwrought mind. Shrugging off, he walks into the sofa...How can it be placed here, he asks? Of course, how indeed? The writer makes a very interesting point through this scene. Shravan's loss of bearings when his loved ones are in conflict with him.

Then comes from a tete-a-tete with his brother. His brother sets off expressing his feelings of hurt after a date gone awry. Did u say a date gone awry? Well, Shravan was not even on a date...but the eve had gone awry for him too...How so? His brother holds forth he had a meal with a friend so how could it have gone wrong? Anyways, what was wrong for his bro...Shravan empathises but Pushkar is in no mood to be placated, Shravan has yet not seen any similarities in their day yet Pushkar mentions the one thing that gets his complete undivided attention. When you love someone, their being with other friends can also cause hurt... a verbalisation of Shravan's feelings through Pushkar's mouth but are they on the same page yet? Not yet...I leave this convo a bit open-ended...several meanings...

To my mind, it was not jealousy that is the byword in the episode. Jealousy is a very poor emotion to describe what he felt today. It was the POWER TO HURT...a realisation that this woman can spin a tale and move his world off its axis; she still has the power to hurt him with mere words...action has not even been considered. He did not have time to put the famous mask when she told him of her supposed love tale, when she told him it was a tale...it brought no relief...becos it was not the relief that he wished for...her tale had pierced the part he had buried the most. Did ever stop loving the person he claimed to have moved on from?

For Shravan, today Sumo was the girl who told him a flippant tale when Shravan asked him about the note in the library. However, there are some noteworthy differences and similarities in the situation. The years had been pushed back but newer nuances had been added to those rolled back memories...Would Shravan have noted the newer nuances?

Super episode...was wondering at the precap y'day if this will be a "jealousy" moment, wondering how it will fit into the scheme of things for Shravan was a man who has his mask on at all times. Have to thank Red for her wonderful explanation of emotional distance, obliteration, mask to help me understand how in a rare and sudden moment, the mask came off...for just that little while...writers have to be applauded for making that emotion so real. To make me realise the depths of Shravan's feeling as he stood forlorn...taking in the power of hurt as his friend beamed her 1000 watt smile...Years rolled back...back where he was..NAMIK U WERE SUPER BRILLIANT IN EVERY FRAME...👏👏👏

Friends, hope to get some perspectives..there is always a diff way of looking a scene...several interpretations...love to hear them too...

Rekha

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Lost in the beauty of your writing. Will take some time.
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Your way of writing is beyond perfection 👏
You have written deep regarding shravan emotions 👍🏼
Hats off to your post 😃
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Really, really excellent post.. 👏
U summarized yesterday's episode so beautifully..
maybe if u could draw parallels in the story which Sumo narrated..?
somewhere she was not talking about Jairaj but Shravan and when she talked about how love can never be forgotten indirectly it was a hint to him.
Shravan portrayed so many emotions in a span of few minutes.Great acting by Namik..
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Brilliant one rekha 👏 ...missed ur posts.
@boldYou never stop loving someone
You either never did or you always will"
That is the truth of true love...
"Those have the most power to hurt us, that we love".

Very true, we get hurt by whom we love the most.. 😊
Ur post left me speechless, so i have nothing to say
P.s.- waiting for red , indrani and rekha trio ( for me u 3 are charlies angels)to enlighten us more 😉
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Your post is amazing ... That line is really true "Those have the most power to hurt us ,whom we love "
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Wow ur writing is deep very deep
You have done a brilliant job and I wish u write more often

Love how u identified that it was HURT that struck him the most - that this pagal ladkie has the power to still hurt him even though he has " moved on "
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Will respond individually to responses...have just been in a hurry so please bear with me for the delay in acknowledging responses..your views, similar and divergent are most welcome...Thank u
Keep the discussions going...😊
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Your post is so deep and insightful that I simply rereading it and will comment then
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Very well written Rekha ... Thank u & love u ... i got up in the morning to a firm nudge shove & wink from u know who ... wanting me to make a Wine shot .. but do i really need to make one after this lovely post of urs i wonder ... ???

WINE SHOTS - I CAN FEEL PAIN

"One word
Frees us of all the weight and pain of life:
That word is love."
Sophocles



These r the 2 words which for me encapsulate the episode completely ...
OBLITERATION
HURT ( my interpretation of hurt is slightly different from yours)

If i had to write today .. i would like to dedicate this post to Shravan .. since u have already recreated the episode in detail will just write about my understanding of him here ...

At 16 or 18 ( timelines are blurry in my mind) ... this guy was in love ... he got a rude awakening from his own love .. which he had not confessed to .. but in his mind he was sure to get thwarted on .. even before the school rag incident he dint really expect his love to 'take' ... hence the words .. ' if its a NO .. dont break the friendship"

Whats more in front of his eyes .. he sees LOVE is not enuf either .. love does not guarantee a life long commitment ... love apparently does not last the test of time ... ( this is due to his parents break up) ...

THE NEXT 10 YEARS ... this fellow as he boarded a plane to fly away from the familiar & from every one of his LOVED ONE ... he obliterated the word love from his mind ...because love had the power to HURT ...( pls note mind not heart) & buried the love so deep down in the corner of his heart that the same would need some major SHOVING TO COME PEEPING OUT...(cudnt resist Indrani )

This fellow is so scared of getting hurt its not funny ... now pause for a moment .. go to the Ramnath supposed accident incident .. .the moment he is told his father is presumed dead .. this guy goes in a trance .. he is in complete lock down mode .. unable to walk even ... thats his way of dealing with hurt ... SHUT DOWN THE SYSTEM & RESTART ...

According to him .. by forgetting the word love he was able to inure himself from HURT ... he could casually tell his father i am going away for good & will visit only from now on ... he could not get the hurt he was causing .. simply because to acknowledge HURT would be to acknowledge the fact that HE TO CAN GET HURT ...

Thats the other word ..along with Love that he had obliterated from his system ...


HIS RETURN FROM LONDON ... on his return from the foreign land he professed to have forgotten everything even friendship ... but it did not take him but a moment to reconstruct the friendship ... he was back in the place where he was most comfortable ... a place where he knew he could not be thwarted from .. a place where he reigned supreme ... just like he had said in his letter ... DO NOT BREAK THIS FRIENDSHIP ... coz even when all was well in his world ... he knew he needed to hold on to her ... in some form or the other ... coz she was his ANCHOR ...

Now pause here ... in Indrani's thread .. i made a wine shot called PEDESTAL ... in that i said i will not write about the last segment ( the umbrella segment) coz its relevance had not played out till then ... today lemme explain the relevance of " thodi chaon mujhe bhi de do" ( gimme some of the shade" ... she is his anchor .. when all falls in his world she is the one to hold him together ... thats the reason he runs to her to tell her about his parents debacle .. he needed her to stand by him ... the moment he over hears chachi making demands on Pushkar .. he runs to Sumo .. he needed to unload himself to her .. event he first time when he plans to return to London .. he tells her first ..

When he told her u cannot be measured with any other woman coz ur special ... he simply meant .. ur the yardstick by which i measure ... ur my anchor ...

His mention of 'shade' was his way of saying become my anchor once again ... hence he brings her back to the friend place ..he asks her to recreate the food .. his way of saying rewrite our friendship .. one which is as special as you ... bring back the old .. but bring back the old anchor ... hence sev ki bhajji ... & the last mention is the mango from Preeti bhoj ... ( a place where he had offered her the most important place in his life) ... a FRIEND ...

He desperately wanted to go back to the place where they were 10 years back ... obliterate the last 10 years ... so that they now could not be PARTED ... there in between them the only thing that would remain would be ... FRIENDSHIP ... NO HURT ...

CUT TO LAST NITE ...

It was a casual dinner amongst friends ... but the fact that she was panning to bail on him .. could not be stomached by him ... she could not cancel .. coz it would mean .. he was not IMPORTANT ENUF TO HER .. SOMEONE ELSE WAS MORE IMP ... but it was ok for him to cancel ... coz he needed to maintain the distance .. he needed to always have an OUT ...

Then came the dinner ... the first hiccup ... she is referred to as his wife by his friend .. he is embarrassed ... wife = marriage = love ... he wants to deny .. not for himself .. but for SUMO ... the girl who could simply bash down someone who said something she did not agree with .. sumo the rag ... ( his friend of the last 10 years) ... but shockingly .. she does not REACT AT ALL ... thats the first glimpse of the changed girl he saw ..

Then the whole helping the young girls family thingy came up ... & he saw a girl who was SENSITIVE TO THE NEEDS OF THE WEAK ... lets pause here for a moment .. wasn't she the same even before .. she befriended a guy .. who was shunned by most in school ... she stood for him ... so he knows she favors the downtrodden .. but what he did not know was she was sensitive to peoples feeling ... The young girl wanted to treat her parents at that restaurant on her first pay -- coz she had committed to her parents ... she saw the pride .. she RECOGNIZED LOVE .. she stood by love ... thats the first glimpse he gets of a girl who can stand up for LOVE .. who understands LOVE .. who understands COMMITMENT ... thats the reason all he does is stare with a half smile ...

But then a bomb shell explodes on his head ... she talks about another guy ... not as a nameless faceless person whom she could marry ... but someone she was in LOVE WITH ... that gives him pause ... & its the first time he realizes ... he could not run away from HURT ... last time around during his dad's news .. he shut down the system ... & saved himself from HURT .,. this time around .. he could do nothing ... his first reaction ... RUN .. RUN LIKE HELL FROM HURT ...


But he forgot this was SUMO ... she stands there & makes him realize ... u can run but u can't escape ... she does not ask .. she tells him .. UR HURT COZ U COULD NOT FACE THE TRUTH ... the truth ... time & tide do not wait for anyone ...



AM gonna end this one here .. let this be part 1 of this saga ... will continue at a later date 'explaining more coz as off now .. we have not seen this play out ...

As i end .. heres some food for thot ... If the last time around love broke down due to another love story breaking down ... what do u think will aid the journey this time .. a parallel love story ... or 2?

These are just my impressions of Shravan .. coz i seriously can't better what Rekha has written about the episode .. it was simply sublime .. hence took a different route here ... 😳





Edited by redwine1 - 9 years ago

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