Love, Self respect & Ego

Not like those lovey lovey types and all 2hi i love the most in this.

Shravan would'd faced a lot he is doing so. But he knows in the process that he gonna hurt Himself more than Sumo.

And Suman had faced the actual situation where she have somewhere in mind that its going to be okay!

Waiting to see what happened in the past before I pass judgements on eithers role in it.

I knew this discussion would come up one day!

I enjoyed the episode even though we did not get to see the leads in one frame..some very interesting insights into their characters and a different shade of Shravan we got to see.

I wont say that love and self-respect are two notions pitched together..i dont know really everyone has different definitions of what love is & encompasses..for some people love is respect while for some love is just love, a feeling. What this show is dealing with isnt really love vs self-respect but rather that just because you love someone does not mean you'll be a doormat and let the person treat you as they want. You must stand up for your self-respect as an individual because that is what we all deserve and should command as a human being.

But I definitely know the difference between self-respect & ego. Sometimes Suman is being egoistic & sometimes Shravan..Self-respect is when you stand up for yourself when you've done no wrong. Ego on the other hand is believing that you cannot be wrong and are always right. I also think that sometimes these are dependent on situations. WORD (learnt this word from you😆) on these 2 constantly oscillating between ego and self-respect..as they say every reaction has a reaction and thats exactly what these 2 are all about. They say they moved on but still wait to see each other and they when they come face to face they fume😆 I think this show is also trying to show that difference between self-respect and ego, and how self-respect is worth fighting for but ego is what destroys relationships and causes distances..

that line from the ost 'ja ke zara use bol de chahata jise tu raha,..kahin teri khamoshiyan jeet na jaaye pyaar se..'

I think my thoughts are all over the place..try to make some sense out of it! Going to sleep now..good night!

Would like to see more thought provoking posts from you😃

As far as you questions go Sami I think:

Self- respect is when you respect yourself enough to stand up for yourself. It doesn't have to be standing up for yourself just to prove a point but to understand you have self worth.

Ego for me is being boastful, and undermining the worth of other people, while putting yourself up on a pedestal, and exuding superiority it terms of self esteem over the self esteem of others.

In the context of the show: Sharavn is respecting himself, he is respecting his feelings, his emotions by creating distance between himself and Sumo. His actions stem from both his self respect, and his ego. The problem is when you start respecting yourself too much, and giving weight to only your problems, your pain, self respect can turn into ego. This is exactly what happens to them both.

Shravan is drowning in his own pain. He hasn't been able to let go of it. So naturally specially with regards to Suman, he is reminded of the time when she had insulted him. And when he remembers all that, he is reminded of how worthless he had felt or rather how worthless he was made to feel. Because of this, he always tries to show her he doesn't care, he doesn't give a shit about her. So in the process of allowing himself to protect his self respect, in his efforts to not look weak, he turns egotistical. In simpler words it's a defence mechanism for him.

Suman is drowning in guilt and remorse. She did something she shouldn't have done. And those 10 years and separation from Shravu made her realize her mistake. But now that he is back and he is showing her attitude, her sense of self respect has also gone up. She knows what she did, and she apologized for it. But he still acted nonchalantly.

They don't want to present themselves as weak in front of another, and by doing so they end up acting in a way that seems too selfish and too egotistical

I am sorry if this doesn't make sense at all. I swear it made sense in my head.

He still loves her and cannot forget her. But, he tries to run away from this fact. He uses his ego to shield and protect himself from his true emotions.

Suman tries to talk to him and resolve their misunderstanding. But she is hitting against a wall that Shravan has build around himself over these years. This guy is not the Shravan that Suman knew, he is a stranger to her. She is frustrated and shouts at him like the old Sumo. The way I see it is that Suman is unhappy with the chasm that has been created between them. Shravan thinks Suman has no feelings for him and that he should take revenge. Infact the past has affected him so much that he is not willing to forgive or forget her. He does not think rationally about what would be going on in her mind. Infact Shravan seems to have become a misogynist, a guy who no more respects women.

Yes he charms the ladies... But does he even mean a word that he uttered? Guess we need to wait and watch.

One thing is clear. Suman is starting to find her spunk around Shravan. She is not going to take his insults lying down, not for self respect. But to clear the wrong notions or set things right between them..

Shravan's every action has Sumo at the center. His plan of revenge is going to surprise him and Sumo. The more close he gets to her the more he will fight to get free 😆

With great love come an even greater heartbreak!

In the show both are fighting for their self respect shravan for the one he lost years back and suman for the one she is thinking that she will lossing today, but in this process they look egoistic... Love the show because it exactly shows how people usually behave unintentionally.