Originally posted by: Mrs_Ojha
Deepika wrote:
I agree that fasting should be personal belief/tradition, but disagree that it signifies inferiority or discrimination. IMO it only signifies love.
Does this mean that husbands don't love their wives, because they never fast? And why is it always a woman who must PROVE her love for her husband? Of course this is discrimination.
It struck me that pregnant Emily was shown fasting. Why is DABH promoting something like that? Totally wrong...
Hi Mrs_Ojha,
Of course It does not mean husbands don't love their wives. Happily married women would tell how their husbands show their love in many ways. Fasting need not be the only way of showing love. In DABH, Suraj is shown communicating his love to Sandhya in many ways without fasting and Sandhya also showed her love without fasting. If there were vrats where there is a practice of husbands fasting for the well being of wives, perhaps they would do it also.
Women always need not prove their love. In fact, nobody needs to PROVE their love. A wife who loves her husband and believes in the vrat, fasts willingly with all her heart, not to PROVE her love. I interpreted from DABH that Sandhya wanted to do such fast with such love and that's why she felt let down at herself. That's what I meant when I wrote "IMO it signifies love".
Of course there are always exceptions like a girl doesnot believe in vrat itself but fasts out of compulsion. In DABH Chavi is shown complaining to Bhabho about her hunger as she was fasting more out of compulsion than love. I would rather follow Sandhya's path than Chavi's.
Gender bias and discrimination are sensitive subjects and I knew not many will see eye to eye on this, that's why I refrained from elaborating in my earlier post. But perhaps I shoudn't have even have made the point at all. I will be more careful next time...
Many traditions are easy to misunderstood by their very nature and practice and also because one needs to have aquaintence with the subject. Otherwise people may get offended and that's why I sought unconditional forgiveness of all in my post. Once again, please forgive me if I offended anybody.
@ ALL:
By the way I found a bias we could ponder on:
One of the neighbours comes to Rathi home and thanks Emily for making-up her daughter because her marriage got fixed due to her appearance.
I am personally offended by this objectization of a woman. Should a girl be made up and her appearance the main reason for being considered fit for marriage?
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