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#91

Originally posted by: Invisiblereader
Love aajkal medicore business first get fact than claim. It was blockbuster with 74 croroes. It was biggest blockbuster till 3 idiots take out it in Dec. Out of which love aajkal made record of 25 crores in opening weekend from India. I know everyone will come up with stupid example of KANK which was 4 years back. It failed because it showed infidelity from 2 actors not that it showed divorce.

I don't mind divorce being shown in this case, because there's no use of a marriage if the two beings involved in it are not satisfied. If you view the show, you may already know that Siddhanth hasn't held Riddhima with shackles and he will wholeheartedly accept her decision and will still not stop loving her from distance. She transformed him from a rude and immature brat to a responsible and selfless lovers who now loves and lives only for others. He doesn't necessarily even expect the love to be reciprocated back, but if Riddhima chooses him with her heart to work out the marriage (it makes sense if she wants to because marriages are meant to be worked and if all fails, then any further step is taken), then he will stand by her.

What I won't digest is an extra marital affair or an ex - lover forcing upon his love onto someone else's wife IF she's uncomfortable with it. I am sure many women will be ringing up Shiv Sena and Women Rights Association if that occurs because that shadows them in a negative manner, especially the women who hold commitment and marriages a high value. Be it the 9th century or 21st century, there will NEVER be any justification to a crime as low and despicable as infidelity.

Just wanted to share my two cents as I agreed to disagreed with you at some points.

Edited by zainab25 - 15 years ago

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Posted: 15 years ago

#92

Originally posted by: Dangelz
Nice topic Ramsha. 😊

Well I personally have not heard of these kinds of situations where the girl is married but later goes back to her ex. I guess its a 50/50 thing, somtimes it can happen and somtimes it doesn't. It all really depends on the people involved in the situation, the familes, the culture, the society and etc.

I personally don't support arranged marriages due to the changing and modern times. From what I hear and know, arranged marriages half the time work, and half the time don't. If not love, I feel you atleast need to know and like the person whom you're getting married to very well. Marrying a stranger is totally out of the question for me.

Agreed to the other points Dangelz👏👏👏👏 But in this point, I gotta say something. That in earlier times, it was just Arranged Marriage, and divorces were minimum too.. These days,it's more love-marriages and the count of number of divorces is lost😲

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Posted: 15 years ago

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After a lot of thinking.. I have decided to put forward two situations that happened in my family..

Okay. Love marriage ALWAYS don't work out. I had a cousin who ran away from house at the age of 17. Why and where? She went away to her boyfriend - who was much older. Like early 20s. They were apparently in LOVE with each other. Luckily the guy was smart enough to tell her it's wrong, so they called up my aunt. And later she said she's not scared to leave the house again and defame the family again UNLESS they get her married to him. My cousin and her boyfriend claimed to love each other, and in a few months, at the age of 18 she got married to her boyfriend. She had a baby boy by the age of 19. She had to handle being a mother, being a wife and university. Then things started to go wrong... her husband turned abusive. She ran away... to her mother's this time, and refused to go back to her husband. But she did (because of so-called moral values) - for her child, for her family. Her husband/lover said he loves her - didn't mean to hurt her and ALLLL that, but he turned abusive again.. and she landed up on a divorce. Now she's 26, divorced, and has a 7 year old baby boy. :/

BUT BUT BUT. DMG IS NOTHING LIKE THAT. And I hope Sid NEVER turns abusive. SO NOW FOR A-R-S similar situation story.

My cousin and her boyfriend were practically high school sweethearts. Loved each other; but the family refused to accept him. (at least in DMG Shanky accepted Armaan). My cousin was forced into marrying some other guy. He was actually a nice person, and he had no idea about my cousin's lover. She thought of running away - but she didn't. Again moral values. A few months after marriage, she actually revealed to her husband that she will never be able to "love" him because of the circumstances under which she got married, and how she will probably "always" have a corner in her heart for her lover. You know what.. her husband actually accepted that. And they remained good friends. They never had kids.. and actually after her marriage, her so-called lover left town. :P But things didn't work out... how long can you stay in a marriage with no love, no kids, just pure commitment for society's sake? My cousin and her husband eventually got divorced. According to my cousin, my ex-jeejaji told her they can remain friends after marriage, but she actually has no idea about his whereabouts. 🤔 After the marriage, she didn't run after her ex, and marry him right away. No. She needed to get over her divorce. Plus a divorce wasn't something to celebrate. But.. in the end.. she ended up getting married to her so-called high sweetheart. She's 30 now, married to her high school sweetheart bf, with a 3 year old baby girl. <3

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Posted: 15 years ago

#94

Love Aaj Kal and KANK are totally different films.

Anyways going to sleep now but keep it clean LOLZ!

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Posted: 15 years ago

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Riddhima married on her own choice and was very much happy with Sid so i don't get the point why she will run back to Armaan when she was on the verge of telling Sid her changing feelings and starting a new life

Seeing these stories.. i am starting to like Riddhima so much more! 😳 WOW! Anyways not that i don't know that they exist.

BUT in none of these the ex told them to forgot him/her like Armaan did..

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Posted: 15 years ago

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Riddhima married on her own choice but was forced if society dint say all that she wouldnt have to
Her mom fainted what could she do Ramsha
Honestly it wasnt her own choice
She agreed but because of society pressure

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Posted: 15 years ago

#97

Ramsha dont give me this armaan telling her to forget him thing by the way that happened in one case i just dint add it becasuse i dint know u wanted these minor details also

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Posted: 15 years ago

#98

Originally posted by: ramsha247
Riddhima married on her own choice and was very much happy with Sid so i don't get the point why she will run back to Armaan when she was on the verge of telling Sid her changing feelings and starting a new life

Seeing these stories.. i am starting to like Riddhima so much more! 😳 WOW! Anyways not that i don't know that they exist.

BUT in none of these the ex told them to forgot him/her like Armaan did..

Thing is.. my cousin married on her "own" choice too. For her family.. Like Riddhima tried committing suicide, my cousin wanted to run away. But they both ended up marrying the guy. For their families.

And for years, my cousin tried giving her husband a chance.. it just didn't happen. She probably wanted a new life. Her lover was nowhere around. As I said, my current jeejaji left town then. 😆 And seriously, when her marriage did get fixed... I'm pretty sure her lover told her to they need to break off the rishta, and forget each other.. 😛 or at least my cousin thought that to herself after.. who knows, I dont know the details...

but close enough story!

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Posted: 15 years ago

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I haven't read all the posts...man I am just too lazy but someone mentioned LAK!!

Well FYI, Jai and Meera's relationship was different than that of AR...Jai and Meera were mature and knew how to handle their relationship and it was their love that made them be friends after they broke up! Jai never asked Meera to forget her marriage for him...!!

That was difference...while here...AR can never be friends after their break up...and like i said before, if they can't be friends even after they break up...their relationship was never strong enough for lifetime!

I was just talking to my friend about a book by Cohello...(the guy who wrote Alchemist...one of the best-sellers world-wide...its an universal novel)...named "Zahir"...well we both haven't read it...but she is firm believer in him and well you can say so am I......and it has very similar story to that of DMG...in that there are husband and wife...and husband goes for 7 years w/o telling anyone...every1 thinks he is dead...and when he returns, he finds out that his wife has married again and is pregnant...

You wanna know his reaction?? He was happy for her...happy that atleast in his absence she got love that she deserves!! He never even once questioned "their" love!!

And if that had been shown btwn AR...I would have gladly followed AR like I did before...and this time around, I would have felt them too!!

*touchwood*

Edited by -YaRa-Forever- - 15 years ago

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Posted: 15 years ago

#100

Originally posted by: prerna4rishav

Agreed to the other points Dangelz👏👏👏👏 But in this point, I gotta say something. That in earlier times, it was just Arranged Marriage, and divorces were minimum too.. These days,it's more love-marriages and the count of number of divorces is lost😲

Thank you for agreeing with my other points. 😊 I guess in earlier times when arranged marriages were common and divorces were minimum, there is definitely a huge reason to that. Divorce during earlier times was looked in a negative light and infact the concept of divorce was not well developed back then. So therefore couples back then would just learn to live somehow with their significant other whether they liked to or not. Being divorced back then was not a good thing and was not widely accepted by society as much as it is today. So that is why divorce back then was minimum due to society's norms.

More love-marriages these days neccesarily doesn't mean more divorces. As I said, it all depends what culture, society and family you live in. I guess nowadays when couples have marital problems, divorce is more of an option and is encouraged more than it was during earlier times. Laws have improved in present times so divorce has more back up support. Back then when serious issues like domestic violence or infidelity occured, divorce was the very last option for most couples. So in a way, divorces these days come into help when serious marital issues come up. Otherwise, divorce for minor issues that can be worked out is really stupid in my opinion. So that is why divorce rates are higher now because it is more widely acceptable in society.

Sorry for the long comment. This is what happens when I am majoring in Sociology, I end up talking like a sociologist. 😆