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Hey DEK Diehards! đ¤
Now, I'm running a little behind on the show (TWO WHOLE DAYS đ˛)
Anyways, this post is not about manveer *don't hurt me* đłbut about a different type of relationship.đ
Recently I started writing the JNCs, and honestly all of a sudden I feel a lot more for JN. I kind...of get her. I know she's, arrogent, selfish, self-centerd etc...but I get her. I get why she's the way she is.đ¤
At the same time...I just realized something- and I guess we've all heard it said before, as JN says it all the time. UV and JN are the SAME. Yet, most of us constantly empathize with UV...and neglect JN.
Now, I don't think it's because UV is good looking,and we're all girls. I think it's how society has conditioned us.
If a man is self-assured, arrogent, and driven- he is Considered a "Bad boy". True?
Now, if the same traits are given to a woman...she's considered a "B*tch". True?I think we've all sort of lost sight of the fact that yes, J is not a nice person...but neither is UV. Because BOTH were raised a certian way, and grew up with a certian attitude.
Now, getting back to JN's attitude. She's always been the Queen Bee- with her Girlfriends, and with men- that type of attitude takes a while to get over. It take A LOT of expereinces to knock somelike that down...and even if you manage to knock them down...it's not a gaurentee that you'll be humble.
From JN's perspective she's ALWAYS been the Spare. Always. Even with M being missing, there was this perpetual message: We love you JN but the Heiress is missing! Now, I think with any other family where there isn't any kingdom on the line...It would simply be a case of a missing sibling...but in a Royal family, I think it has two deminsions to it. (1) A CHILD IS MISSING...and (2) The Heir is missing. Meaning, for J, it may not have come across as the first, but rather the second, where she might feel that, "Oh, you're so worried about the heir being missing...and I'm the spare...so if I had been taken- would it have mattered?"đ¤ J has what one would call "the middle child syndrome" Even though she isn't the middle child, I think it applies, because Manyata being the Heir has ALOT of tort, so it doesnt matter if JN was the baby in the household...she was sort of lost.
Next point...She's a cow. Yes she is. Totally high-strung, mean and over confident "Mera Jasa Kohi nahi" type of attitude...which everyone dislikes...but give her a break. Hasnt anyone felt an ounce of...sympathy for her? To be honest my heart broke for her in three instances: The first when the Rhoka broke (not because it broke) but because she was CORRECT when she said, "Humare baray meh kisina nahi socha? Humare Mom, Dad neh bhi nahi?" & the second was the instance where Her and Uday made it home after Manyata snuck back from Manjnu's party, and Uday called her out. I really DID feel for her: even though I knew what a dirty trick she was playing...I still felt bad, and the third was at the end of the epi where the Family was huddled around M, and J vowed Revenge. Don't get me wrong, I am a Manveer Lover...but I still think we all misunderstand J...is such a grey charecter- JUST LIKE UDAY. She is. And I think we need to see, that although she brings a lot of trouble upon herself, she has her reasons, and feels things a certian way- and her actions are justified. The only thing I can hope for her charecter is...that she moves on. Because it takes away a lot of energy and eats away at a person to be so bitter.
Was it fair, what happened to her with Uday?
No, it was not fair: It doesn't matter how much we love Manveer, or how much of a cow she can be, the fact that her family pointed her towards Uday, only to leave her standing in a rhoka outfit with guests standing outside...it's not right. BUT...she needs to move on, because she will never find happiness until she move on. It's hard to move on...but it's necessary. Especially in J's case. And MAYBE, just MAYBE...M and J could manage to be friends...because they may not realize it...they have a lot in common.
So the questions that arise...and they are big ones:
What are your thoughts on J?
Do you think J can and will ever move on?
Do you think J deserves some happiness, why or why not?
And How did you like my long shpeel?đ
Please leave your thoughts! đł
-Loads of Love, Reehađ
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