Let men marry at 18? - Page 7

Originally posted by: lighthouse

But that is true in every culture. woman are expected to make more compromises. can't dwell on that .. Education after marriage can be in the direction of being complimentary to what the husband is doing.. there are so many avenues out there to make a career in then just to work in a office or something like that. Like I know someone who is an embroyologist and the wife was in marketing so she helped him do research and setup an IVF center .

u have a point here but it is something i'm not very confortable with....my personal opinion here. i find it very stiffling if both have to spend all their time together...no matter how compatible or how much they r in love with each other. an education or a career, for me, means developing one's individuality rather than molding it (or brainwahsed to mold it) to suit their spouse/in laws's business/profession to add further value. that choice should be left to the girl....keeping ur example above in mind. but that's just me...i need enuff breathing space and i feel the girl shd choose what she wants for herself...and if that happens to be a totally different field than her spouse...it shd not be a problem.

compatibility should not mean ek doosrey key rang mein rang jana. for me, it's more like adding richness to ur life by developing ur own individuality and still nurturing ur spouse and valuing them for what they are. nurturing is what is hard to find in most marriages😊.

Originally posted by: lighthouse

One thing in common between all 3 of us here. By 25 I also was 5 yrs into marriage and at 23 done with having both my sons.

Personally I would prefer a guy who might be well settled in his family business but have something of his own which gives him independence if he wants to be on his own.

Maturity is not only factor in considering 25-30 age for marriage.

Now question to all the members (M & F) who are closer to age 30 why are they not married yet?? Chalo honest answers now.

I will be waiting to hear the answers 😃.

Marriage Age Should Be At 30
Drinking Age Should Be At 24
they both need to be like increased. plus, there is a new law in Texas where anyone can go like i can go with one of my friend and tell everyone that im married to her and when i need proof that im married to her. all i need the the witness. i think thats how it works 😆

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

One thing in common between all 3 of us here. By 25 I also was 5 yrs into marriage and at 23 done with having both my sons.

Personally I would prefer a guy who might be well settled in his family business but have something of his own which gives him independence if he wants to be on his own.

Maturity is not only factor in considering 25-30 age for marriage.

Now question to all the members (M & F) who are closer to age 30 why are they not married yet?? Chalo honest answers now.

I will be waiting to hear the answers 😃.

i dont know about others varsha, gauri and me want to get married ASAP, but we are under 25 i think.

koi ladka hai tho nazar mein, pehle gauri ko batado, please...bechari ka bura haal ho raha hai....

IMHO, hubby age- 25, dulhan piya ki age- 21 ...shubh vivah sampaan 😃

@ gauri post.. lol 😆 😆

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

Now question to all the members (M & F) who are closer to age 30 why are they not married yet?? Chalo honest answers now.

I will be waiting to hear the answers 😃.

🤣🤣 u hit the bull's eye here😆😆😆 i am waiting too😆😆

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

u have a point here but it is something i'm not very confortable with....my personal opinion here. i find it very stiffling if both have to spend all their time together...no matter how compatible or how much they r in love with each other. an education or a career, for me, means developing one's individuality rather than molding it (or brainwahsed to mold it) to suit their spouse/in laws's business/profession to add further value. that choice should be left to the girl....keeping ur example above in mind. but that's just me...i need enuff breathing space and i feel the girl shd choose what she wants for herself...and if that happens to be a totally different field than her spouse...it shd not be a problem.

compatibility should not mean ek doosrey key rang mein rang jana. for me, it's more like adding richness to ur life by developing ur own individuality and still nurturing ur spouse and valuing them for what they are. nurturing is what is hard to find in most marriages😊.

Oh I agree.. not every girl is suited for such arrangement and like everything in life it has its pros and cons.. But at the end of the day I had rather work in the family business and it can be in anything ranging from retail, medical, professional services, hospitality, travel , restaurant, real estate etc.. the list is endless , pretty much offers everything one can of making a career in, hardly brain washing if you ask me. One will only gravitate towards what their interests and talents lie in. And not to mention much more rewarding on financial and personal development level then any average job that boxes your creativity. Oh and that being together 24x7 with spouses, not true in most circumstances infact the opposite might be true in some cases. When spouses work in the same bussiness it is usually not together but in different depts or locations even .. It is all about being open minded and considering one's own family business as a potential employer not to mention the perks that go with the setup. 😛 And if Melinda gates can work at microsoft or Mukesh ambani could work with his dad , why can't a woman work with the family?

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

🤣🤣 u hit the bull's eye here😆😆😆 i am waiting too😆😆

😆 and somebody better be ready to get hit..😉

Originally posted by: rockstallion

i dont know about others varsha, gauri and me want to get married ASAP, but we are under 25 i think.

koi ladka hai tho nazar mein, pehle gauri ko batado, please...bechari ka bura haal ho raha hai....

IMHO, hubby age- 25, dulhan piya ki age- 21 ...shubh vivah sampaan 😃

@ gauri post.. lol 😆 😆

😡😡...ab itnee bhi immature naheen hotee hain meri posts ki tum mujhye under 25 samjho......😆

yaar, main yeh galatee 15 saal pehley 23 saal ki umer mein ker chuki hoon aur ab doh batchon ki maa hoon😆😆. that's why i wanna get even with all those cool gals under 23 out there and enjoying the bliss of being single...unn sab ki watt lagaanee hai...that's why rooting for 20-21 for gals😉😛

i think i do agree with RTH that we shd just stay single...sc**w marriage...who needs marriage....guys r really not worth all that hassle😆

okie....back to topic...16/18 too low...20-21 for both if they r comfortable with it😛

Originally posted by: lighthouse

......... And if Melinda gates can work at microsoft or Mukesh ambani could work with his dad , why can't a woman work with the family?

because if things do not work out and she has to walk out of that marriage...she virtually has no standing of her own there. world always looks at people working in family business as someone who got that position b/c as a privilege rather than earning it based on merit...no matter how impeccable ur degrees r😊

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

because if things do not work out and she has to walk out of that marriage...she virtually has no standing of her own there. world always looks at people working in family business as someone who got that position b/c as a privilege rather than earning it based on merit...no matter how impeccable ur degrees r😊

On the contrary the world knows more about your professional ability and your contribution in nourishing the business as the word gets around fast in business communities as to who is the star. Also if things don't work out, legaly in any case spouses split the estate 50/50.. It actually happened with someone I know and the interesting thing is they decided to stay together in the business but got seperated in their personal lives.