Jaayen to jaayen kahan - Page 4

Originally posted by: persistence

have fun!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zy5-ryJTvZA&feature=relat ed

Ghuggi de barati - Gurpreet Ghuggi

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Originally posted by: SholaJoBhadkey

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Originally posted by: SholaJoBhadkey

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🤣 I remember one cheap guy , who did almost same at his wedding asked for a better car (small car was there in dahej) just before wedding , almost same situation , shown in video , well gal's father asked him to go back and to bring baraat in helicopter😆 . anyway they through them out of wedding reception . now girl is happy with another guy .😆

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Originally posted by: SholaJoBhadkey

Hum aap ki baat se poorn roop se sehmat hai - there is never any guarantee for a secure marriage and especially not with dowry. The soundest investment is in education and in making the woman financially independent.

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Hamari maa yeh hai 😆----such bolo,is it your snap???!!?😛😉

ooooooooooooooooooooooooooh hoooooo Sundariiiiiiiiiiii....😆

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

Ok lets take it as an insurance. It means it is kind of security in marriage.

What security does it provide? Does it secure marriage? I don't think so ..

If the girl is not employed, it is a security for the girls future, but not to the marriage. If it is as in most cases given to the bridgrooms family, then there is no security.

back then I can understand that women usually stayed at home so they were given dowery either from parents or by husbands ( according to culture) and in cases of emergency they could use it .

Agree with your points.

but now parents mostly invest their money which they could give their daughters for marriage in their education.. so mainly these days if you are marrying an educated woman you infact bring an investment. she can work and increase your house hold income, in cases of emergency can takecare of you and your children even in some cases your family . Even if she is not working and stay home mom , an educated women most likely provide a good house schooling to your children again helping you in reducing your expenses.

Agreed

as for security of marriage , divorce rate is pretty high and is not going down , dowery do ya na do , it is not a security that a girl would live happily ever after.

You are right there is not always a killing or chaos but these days mostly it create problems not every one can afford paying huge amount of dowery. dont talk about people like us , we have food available three times , we have shelter and we have clothes , we fall under previlliged category even with these three things forget about other stuff . majority couldn't even get those three basic necessities. for them dowery is definitly a big issue. where they have to decide if they need to save money for dowery or for education .

Agreed, but educated, employed girls parents are also now a days forced to pay dowery.

I would suggest education in any case cause to me now it is better security than dowery.

Yes, agreed.

But do you heard about the case between Mary Roy(Arundhathi Roy's mother) against her brothers, where the family is wealthy but after her marriage she didn't get anything from her parents but divided among brothers. After the judgement in this case the girls of christian community get some what equal share with boys. Earlier, if the girl didn't get married, only a small amount, even in wealthy families given to thje girl, mostly lived with brother's family as an unpaid servant. (Based on discussions among friends and experience in some of the families)

Problem is not in dowery, but the mindset of people,whether it is husband or brothers.

Dowery, if it is a token of love given by parents to their daughter it is good,but if it is forced it is an evil. (personally against dowery)

Originally posted by: nitasuni

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If the girl is not employed, it is a security for the girls future, but not to the marriage. If it is as in most cases given to the bridgrooms family, then there is no security.

you are right however again the problem is dowery in form of property etc may be a good investment however it is most of the time insufficient in long run.

and ofcourse as you said it is mostly given to bridegrooms family so where is the security for girls.

Originally posted by: nitasuni

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Agreed, but educated, employed girls parents are also now a days forced to pay dowery.

In the name of culture , still a men's world

Originally posted by: nitasuni

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But do you heard about the case between Mary Roy(Arundhathi Roy's mother) against her brothers, where the family is wealthy but after her marriage she didn't get anything from her parents but divided among brothers. After the judgement in this case the girls of christian community get some what equal share with boys. Earlier, if the girl didn't get married, only a small amount, even in wealthy families given to thje girl, mostly lived with brother's family as an unpaid servant. (Based on discussions among friends and experience in some of the families)

Problem is not in dowery, but the mindset of people,whether it is husband or brothers.

Dowery, if it is a token of love given by parents to their daughter it is good,but if it is forced it is an evil. (personally against dowery)

Yes among christians and some muslims this is a big issue where girls are totally crushed between religion and culture. people use religion and culture according to their own convenience.

Originally posted by: persistence

yeah, video dedicated to qwerty by me😉😆

😆😆😆..😆oy persi jaisi koi nahin.. mainu kiss vaasde dedicate kardi haan...assi guggi jaisa nahi qwertoo jaisa hoon, gal samjhi ki nahi?

Originally posted by: SholaJoBhadkey

Hum aap ki baat se poorn roop se sehmat hai - there is never any guarantee for a secure marriage and especially not with dowry. The soundest investment is in education and in making the woman financially independent.

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Hamari maa yeh hai 😆

That word looks like a cross between pop-corn and po*n...😆😆😆and why are you passing your pictures as mom's picture... just to see how well its accepted... Now ok that we have your picture... we cant imagine you ROTFL.....😆😆😆