Cheeni Kum Vs Nishabdh - Page 7

Originally posted by: sareg

All these are preconceived notions backed by some research(who one day prove wine is good for heart next day say it is bad 😆 )

All this women are more mature than men at the same age is all BS. I have seen 25 year old handle things maturely than a 35 year old woman quite a lot of times.

If in that situation the Man and Woman are mentally compatible, sure the man can be 25 and the woman can be 45. It can happen if someone wants it to happen, and if someone wants it to work out. I say go for it 😉

Agree with you here. I also believe that maturity is not gender or age specific. it varies from person to person😊

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

Interesting thoughts there Maya and Rutu. I used to concur with these thoughts at some point, but no more.
Ash married Abhi for crying out loud 😭. Maya, I wish you were her best friend 😆.
My thoughts in past few years are based on watching two fabulous marriages among co-workers, where there's substantial reverse age-difference.
I agree that maturity plays a vital role in any successful marriage / relationship. However, some men though older than their wives make immature decisions and cause their families anguish. I also believe that after 30, there is only so much one can actually grow spiritually / maturity-wise. So is it really so bad for a 40 year old woman to be attracted to a 30 year old if he is a matured guy? Perhaps, perhaps not. Unless the guy is self-assured and matured, would he dabble into cougars for anything serious?

As regards Dil Chahta Hai, I would probably give Dimple a chance if she did not have a young daughter. Motherhood is the best blessing and a tough responsibility. I am glad she did not mess that up by controling herself.

Since some men never grow up and neither do some women, I stopped associating age and maturity, hence this post. still have to see CK 😆.

😆 😆 😆 @ Ash & Abhi

You think a woman like Dimple shouldnt get into all this cus of her daughter, buh doesnt she deserve to be happy with someone? I always wonder about these kinds, who sacrifice their life for their kids and one day the kids go off anyway What does one do then...alone? Or you reckon they should start finding partners after their kids go off to be on their own?

I agree Di, that Dimple's decision to be with Akshaye wud be a stand against society and might cast a shadow on her daughter's life too..but it seems really unfair to take away that right from her...dun u think so? 😔

Originally posted by: sohn

I know what you mean Maya 😊

But what I do think about the woman lookin older than the guy and similar issues, would all this really matter if they rhyme and get along very well on all other aspects in life? I'll stretch it a bit and even say, what if they find themselves to be each other's soulmates? I agree the thought is quite revolting cus its not a common thing to be practiced in our society, buh I personally feel, we dont know who might find their soulmate in whom...and finally, if and when the woman winds up finding someone younger in age to her but perfect for her, should she really not have the right to be happy and live a life with that person?

Sonya, I totally get your point. In fact if I have to argue from the viewpoint I can come up with good justification. But as I mentioned it is my personal take on the subject. I am not comfortable with such an arrangement may be because I am shallow😛. I don't want tot be the older one in the marriage, I don't want to be the one who ages first or who have to dye the hair first😳. As I mentioned in my previous post if anyone can ignore those minute things then sure go ahead and choose whichever way is comfortable for you.

Another thing is I don't believe in soulmates.😊

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

Interesting thoughts there Maya and Rutu. I used to concur with these thoughts at some point, but no more.
Ash married Abhi for crying out loud 😭. Maya, I wish you were her best friend 😆.

You know what Cutie Ash and Abhi have just 2-3 years difference. I don't even consider that as a major difference. What I am talking about is something like Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher.

Originally posted by: Maya_M

You know what Cutie Ash and Abhi have just 2-3 years difference. I don't even consider that as a major difference. What I am talking about is something like Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher.

@ Maya - LOL.. i was kidding about that myself :)

@ SONIA- responsible motherhood demands sacrifices perhaps unfortunately, but certainly. The society we live in will judge children of such women as Diple in DCH / women in a fantabulous devoted live-in . Changing times may bring some changes, but for now, I see the kid feeling very awkward about mother dating someone just a few years ahead of the child herself 😳.
Now since everyone who made a child willingly / unwillingly gets all the jazz and claps on mothers' day and since everyone gets all the glory for being a mother, one could attempt to be worth it 😊. Those who know that their kid won't face adversities due to their behaviour may also enjoy freedom, but I wonder how many such lucky women would be there today 😳. Is it necessary for the man to be older/ closer in age if younger than the woman? NO absolutely not.
Is is advisable when the woman has a child? YES. jmo.

Originally posted by: Maya_M

Sonya, I totally get your point. In fact if I have to argue from the viewpoint I can come up with good justification. But as I mentioned it is my personal take on the subject. I am not comfortable with such an arrangement may be because I am shallow😛. I don't want tot be the older one in the marriage, I don't want to be the one who ages first or who have to dye the hair first😳. As I mentioned in my previous post if anyone can ignore those minute things then sure go ahead and choose whichever way is comfortable for you.

Another thing is I don't believe in soulmates.😊

Awww thats so sweet 😊
And Nah, its not about being shallow Maya, its your personal opinion like anyone else's.... and I respect that 😊