Moving in with prospective life patner ? - Page 2

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

👏 Once again Great Response.

Reserving my spot to write in details😊

Originally posted by: raj5000

First reaction LOL... 10-15 years wasted in hit and trial.. Well with living together I meant was like mock after u are 80% sure that u marraige and life is gonna work out. 2 -3 years may be an exagg. may be 6 months are enough.

Lastly better be unmarried as compared to get married 3-4 times and still not find peace in a relationship.

Disclaimer - Hey - this is just based on ur response, have different views would share.

I agree what I gave is an extreme example, but what if it happens. 😆

If the couple has already decided on marriage, then it's ok to move in a few months prior to their actual marriage. However, one thing I disagree about is the mindset with which they should move in. If they move in to find out whether their partner has any unique habit with which s/he may disagree, they'll inevitably find one, which even though may not be too serious, will be enough to break their relationship. Instead if they move in to get more comfortable with each other's lifestyle, they may learn to adjust to smaller quirks of their partner.

Another issue is if they've already decided on marriage, why can't they wait for a few days more to know about their partner in detail. Afterall, drug addiction and such serous matters can be found out anyway by talking with their friends or colleagues and moving in is not necessary for that.

Originally posted by: raj5000

Do you think moving in with prospect spouse for 2- 3 years without getting legal/morally committed in marriage a viable solution in this case?

2- 3 years is a long time.. if one is sure that he/she wants to marry the other person then why not try for six months or so... or better go out with both set of families outside somewhere on a holiday for few days, say 15 days... for the sake of the future... that much one can do...

Things to think of:

- Cultural values, Society.

Our Cultural values doesnt allow it. Society will never look nicely upon such an arrangement where only the boy and the girl are staying together even though they might be getting married in few months time.

- Would parents in this age agree?

Does the moving in involves one of the individual (girl or boy) family or only the guy and girl will move with each other? 😕

Mostly in India... girl's family will never allowed their daughter to stay with the guy alone but if the guy's family is there along with them, girl's family might consider it.

- Recognition of such a relation among friends and families of friends.

If such an arrangement is backed by both the families.. then friends and others might have a hot topic for discussion....😆 Some may speak in front of their faces and some may not. It depends upon each individual thinking...

- Do we care about society when it's the question of one's life?

If you believe that this is the right thing to do in your heart and both are agreed to it then No cos this so called society doesnt come to help us in our time of need...

- Etc.. etc..

PS – Am factoring out the S* factor here to maintain decorum of this section.

Originally posted by: souro

I feel dating/ courting for sometime is perfectly okay to form a judgement about the person you're dating and whether you want to marry him/her or not. - I agree

Originally posted by: souro

However, one thing I disagree about is the mindset with which they should move in. If they move in to find out whether their partner has any unique habit with which s/he may disagree, they'll inevitably find one, which even though may not be too serious, will be enough to break their relationship. Instead if they move in to get more comfortable with each other's lifestyle, they may learn to adjust to smaller quirks of their partner.

Another issue is if they've already decided on marriage, why can't they wait for a few days more to know about their partner in detail. Afterall, drug addiction and such serous matters can be found out anyway by talking with their friends or colleagues and moving in is not necessary for that.

Totally agreed with souro's point of view in blue.... 😊

Originally posted by: SolidSnake

Personally I don't dont subscribe to live-in relationships. I think one can easily "know" about the other person in few months without living with him/her. And in anycase moving-in does not guarantee anything, *cough* western societies *cough*.

Of course it allows you to defy tradition and can violate sensibility of masses... Its like stolen apples taste sweeter than purchased ones.. .and all said.. its one thing saying and another one actually getting into..😆 and for your coughing try some robitussin ...😆

Originally posted by: raj5000

Very nice response Serialbuff - appreciate it. Thanks for sharing ur personal thoughts😊 To most of your views, I am with yaa in terms I totally understand. whole point of view, Bold part is where reflects my views.

Am soo happy for you guys and all loving wishes for great time together for ever, heart felt 😊

Thank you!

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

Originally posted by: serialbuff

LOL, I agree. But if the careers don't match, the move in, or talk till the phone dies, but get to know 😆😆😆