Do men have choices? - Page 7

Originally posted by: Maya_M

Seeing Anshu thread about discrimination based on gender at work place, I had the urge to bring this thread to front page. 😃

Lots of grave-digging going on the forum these days 😆 Let's make sure we don't end up exhibiting the skeletons in our cupboards 😉

😆 Make sense to get a related topic, on other hand - Maya are you planning to get me into trouble here? 😆 😆

Please - 2, avoid mixing views of these two posts 😉 😆 😆

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

I am going to sound a bit sexist now, but I will take the risk 😳.
It is actually majority women who want their husband to HELP at HOME, yet be a super-successful guy outside.
You nicely said double standards of SOCIETY😳. That society in majority may include women I fear.
"her husband does nothing, did you know that she is the only earning person?" ..
"ohno..really?? hmm.. did he get fired? "
"does he really have the degrees she said he does? "
"what!!.. you know... i would not like that, so un-manly!"
" Is he not getting hired?"
All the above may actually happen. Whereas, if a guy friend of men is at-home dad, I wonder how men would react 😛. I can't say. Probably they'll understand how important Golf and ESPN is and look at him as a hero? 😆😆 .. kidding.. They may not be willing to do the same, but they may / may not judge the other man.

The way we (asian women) grow up, most of us expect our man to work, atleast for namesake. Money doesn't matter. But I would be a hypocrite / liar if I denied that I would like my husband to work.
I truly will not gossip about another home-maker dad, but won't appreciate mine doing that (barring health-related / genuine difficulties) . he should atleast day- trade 😆😆 if nothing and register a company on-line and call himself an enterprenuer 😉..
qt

hilarious cutie.

and thank heavens for day-traders. keeps the market casinos running😉😆

ok, now what shld a guy do to be able to call himself a "serial entrepreneur"?😆

Originally posted by: serialbuff

Lots of grave-digging going on the forum these days 😆 Let's make sure we don't end up exhibiting the skeletons in our cupboards 😉

Seeing the Avatar, have an urge to say " Look who is talking" 😆😆 just kiddin ma'am.

Originally posted by: raj5000

Seeing the Avatar, have an urge to say " Look who is talking" 😆😆 just kiddin ma'am.

My skeleton's already out and about - in full public view, so no fears for me 😆

Originally posted by: serialbuff

My skeleton's already out and about - in full public view, so no fears for me 😆

😆😆 Got the point you are trying make. 😊

Why is it that a woman who chooses to be at home and then makes statements like she is doing it for the family and she is sacrificing whereas a working mother who takes care of the same work and works outside is called selfish who works to satisfy ego?

Why is it that men working outside is necessary and don't branded as satisfying ego? Why is it natural for a man to work outside? But there are ifs and buts when it comes to a woman working outside?

Originally posted by: Maya_M

Why is it that a woman who chooses to be at home and then makes statements like she is doing it for the family and she is sacrificing whereas a working mother who takes care of the same work and works outside is called selfish who works to satisfy ego?

Why is it that men working outside is necessary and don't branded as satisfying ego? Why is it natural for a man to work outside? But there are ifs and buts when it comes to a woman working outside?

👏👏 Very well tailored questions..
Hypocricy is what I call it
LOL.. i made this mc dreamy siggy about "work and love being important" - just yesternight and it is getting used.. lol..

From the beggining of time, I think man has been expected to feed. That's why, the idea of him not working, and sitting at home sounds pretty alien.

If a guy has a degree, and is eligible, yet still wants to stay home, is perfectly okay with me, as long as he has an income somehow (trust funds i.e)so that he is not dependable on someone else and is doing SOMETHING else that is worthful towards his own life. Would really like to see though, that if there ever is a poll conducted like this, that how many men would want to do that.

Nice topic, Maya.

These day and age everyone needs to be self sufficient IMHO. In a couple if man decides to stay home and help raise kids that is fine too. It is couple's choice. Nothing wrong in woman or man staying home to take care of family. At the same time nothing wrong for a woman to work outside of the house either.

Women who work professionally are home makers too. They are handling Double responsibility. Time management is a must. And working together at home between couple is a must.

Maya excellent topic my dear 👏