Live in's - Too westernized or a step in the right direction?

We live in an age where divorce is pretty common these days , most of the ex-couples became couples due to arranged marriages ( atleast the ones i saw were from arranged marriages) and yet people claim that areanged marriages is the way to go and live in relationships are too westernized and is still frowned upon by the people from the older generations. These splits are happening due to the fact that the man and the woman never have a chance to know each others habits , likes dislikes etc. They nrver get to see the good , the bad and the ugly of the person they get hitched with which results in loveless marriages after a while ( this category of people never opt for a split cause "log kya kahenge" syndrome). I think that as a society we should be more accepting of dating culture ( pretty common in some states but not in the one that i live) and give time for the two to decide wether they should end their relationship or move forward , cause arranged, loveless marriages and splits only results in severe physical and mental health problems....what do you people think?

In my opinion, we don't get to choose the family we are born in and so we should get a chance to choose the family we make at least.

The problem in arranged marriage is simple. The choice starts with your family and then you are given the choice to say yes or no. Even then with the limited information you have on the partner. How can your answer be truly your choice.

So I want at least dating to be not frowned upon. Even if it is arranged marriage let them get to know each other for few months atleast before fixing the wedding.

But for that to happen we need more open minded acceptance as well. A women or a men shouldn't be frowned upon breaking up after dating. If thet don't want to get married it should be accepted and not rather forced by saying what will the world say if your engagement got broken.

Originally posted by: BlurredLines

In my opinion, we don't get to choose the family we are born in and so we should get a chance to choose the family we make at least.

The problem in arranged marriage is simple. The choice starts with your family and then you are given the choice to say yes or no. Even then with the limited information you have on the partner. How can your answer be truly your choice.

So I want at least dating to be not frowned upon. Even if it is arranged marriage let them get to know each other for few months atleast before fixing the wedding.

But for that to happen we need more open minded acceptance as well. A women or a men shouldn't be frowned upon breaking up after dating. If thet don't want to get married it should be accepted and not rather forced by saying what will the world say if your engagement got broken.

Agreed. People should be given time before marriage to get to know each other in arranged marriages , this would slove a lot of problems...

I for one don't beleive in marriages ( i find it outdated and as an excuse to flaunt your wealth) but your point is right , dating and live in relationships should not be frowned upon at all and it not westernized either , this should be universal

Originally posted by: HarshadThakker

I for one don't beleive in marriages ( i find it outdated and as an excuse to flaunt your wealth) but your point is right , dating and live in relationships should not be frowned upon at all and it not westernized either , this should be universal

Agreed. People from all over the country ( this practice is accepted in many countries except a few) should accept this cause times are changing and it'd best to leave past traditions in the past itself...

Good topic . I wanted to write about marriage vs Live in. 😃

Splits and divorces happen in love marriages too. There's no guaranty that by live in or dating you can understand eachother and will be togather forever.😕

In my culture live in relationship is big no. And I think this only suits guys.. girls bear the consequences of it till no end.

Originally posted by: awida

Good topic . I wanted to write about marriage vs Live in. 😃

Splits and divorces happen in love marriages too. There's no guaranty that by live in or dating you can understand eachother and will be togather forever.😕

In my culture live in relationship is big no. And I think this only suits guys.. girls bear the consequences of it till no end.

Late reply but this was a task thread in which i was only supposed to respond to the posts which agreed to my opinion. I'm back now that the task is long gone...

In india most relastionships starts with "i love you" hence skipping a bunch of important steps like getting to know each other...that's why even love marriages fall apart cause these ppl get married way too soon after declaring their love , that's why dating culture and live in's should not be frowned upon so that people could get to know each other and call it quits when they sense red flags...i agree about women alone bearing the consequences...the conservative people s*ut shame women and let the men go scott free which is wrong 😟

Originally posted by: Pete15rogmourey

Late reply but this was a task thread in which i was only supposed to respond to the posts which agreed to my opinion. I'm back now that the task is long gone...

In india most relastionships starts with "i love you" hence skipping a bunch of important steps like getting to know each other...that's why even love marriages fall apart cause these ppl get married way too soon after declaring their love , that's why dating culture and live in's should not be frowned upon so that people could get to know each other and call it quits when they sense red flags...i agree about women alone bearing the consequences...the conservative people s*ut shame women and let the men go scott free which is wrong 😟

Thank you for the reply. I too was a part of that task. But I couldn't stop myself from disagreeing to your post.

I know ppl should know eachother for longer time before getting married.. but again none can tell how long it can take. And imagine after living in with a guy and bearing his baby you realise that you weren't meant for eachother.😲 It is not just about the boy and girl.. innocent ppl can suffer for life because of it. Babies out of wedlock .. in our culture your parents, sisters may suffer. I think we aren't ready for something like it. And in my opinion it doesn't worth it. Coz we see after all of this marriages and divorces are in the hands of the Almighty. Many ppl who understand their spouces really well .. and after a long of time .. end up divorcing eachother. So why don't we just follow our culture. I see in modern countries divorces .. and live in relationships are more than in our culture.

Originally posted by: awida

Thank you for the reply. I too was a part of that task. But I couldn't stop myself from disagreeing to your post.

I know ppl should know eachother for longer time before getting married.. but again none can tell how long it can take. And imagine after living in with a guy and bearing his baby you realise that you weren't meant for eachother.😲 It is not just about the boy and girl.. innocent ppl can suffer for life because of it. Babies out of wedlock .. in our culture your parents, sisters may suffer. I think we aren't ready for something like it. And in my opinion it doesn't worth it. Coz we see after all of this marriages and divorces are in the hands of the Almighty. Many ppl who understand their spouces really well .. and after a long of time .. end up divorcing eachother. So why don't we just follow our culture. I see in modern countries divorces .. and live in relationships are more than in our culture.

So true...i have nothing more to add on this...