No pravachans from Mrs Funny bones?? - Page 9

Out of curiosity. Those who celebrate karva chauth or teej - why do you celebrate it. Obviously, we all know that a wife cannot increase her husband's life by fasting.

So what motivates you to fast and keep this ritual? Do you at some level believe it will increase your husband's lifespan? Why does it bring you joy? What was going through your mind the first time you kept karva chauth? What goes through your mind every year? Did it ever bother you that men didn't have to do anything similar for their wives? Have any of you had a husband who has mutually joined in? If your husband asks you not to fast, what do you tell him in order to keep your fast? Do you feel it is important to keep this tradition? What would happen if this ritual faded away in time? Do you ever ponder on the fine line between free will and peer pressure - aka is every woman doing it out of her choice or is she being guilted into doing it because all the women around her are doing it? What do you tell impressionable girls who think they must fast for their boyfriends? Or the crazy ones who fast for movie stars and celebs?

In more general curiosity - do people know of same-sex couples who participate in karva chauth?

Nope I don’t think kc is regressive..no one is forcing wife to follow this particular festival..they do it happily for the longevity of their husbands..how is it regressive ? In that case celebrating other festivals like 9 days dasara,diwali,pongal(sankranthi) are also regressive ?because it doesn’t make any sense celebrating 9 days dasara except wearing diff costumes on all 9 days 😆and cracking fireworks on diwali because something good happend in the past according to Puranas ?

That said it’s all personal choice and have no right to call it as regressive...

Originally posted by: RegressiveThug

Yes you are right, after writing it, I also thought, that wasn't a wise thing to say. Wanted to edit, but thought, mujh jaise naali ke.keede ke edit karne se kuch joga toh nahi, so left it.

Yes you right, She has a family and image to think about, ab Akshay itna baada haramchor Chutia tharki hai, toh usme Twinkle ki kiya galti.

🤣🤣

Bhai, itna Garam kyu hote ho ? Anyways all jayjay kaar to twinkle for raising such regressive thing and being ABLA naari for jheloing douche like Akshay..🤣

Originally posted by: fivestars

Nope I don’t think kc is regressive..no one is forcing wife to follow this particular festival..they do it happily for the longevity of their husbands..how is it regressive ? In that case celebrating other festivals like 9 days dasara,diwali,pongal(sankranthi) are also regressive ?because it doesn’t make any sense celebrating 9 days dasara except wearing diff costumes on all 9 days 😆and cracking fireworks on diwali because something good happend in the past according to Puranas ?

That said it’s all personal choice and have no right to call it as regressive...

Its not regressive agreed but the qs is does kc really help in longevity of your spouse? Has this been scientifically proven? If that’s the case why is it only done once a year.

1.Some one had problem with KC tradition but was excited about eating turkey on TG tradition.🤣 Shouldn't we question such humans as why sacrifice turkeys in the name of a tradition?

2. Few here have issue with KC being regressive "only" because female is "sacrificing".. This ritual will not be regressive anymore if both husband and wife keeps it. Interesting. So fasting is progressive as long as both gender keep it. They will no longer wanna fight on the fact that fasting has no impact in increasing another's longevity😆

3. Food for thought (oh the irony) Blueice shared her story about how her husband sneaked in an apple out of love... Can't we remove our so call gender biased progressive glasses and see how such sweet gestures born out of a tradition also strengthen husband and wife bond. I am sure Bi ji will agree that one sweet gesture bonded them for life.

4. Stop looking it from an angle of discrimination. See it as an expression of love. In our monotonous lives.. if any tradition and custom is giving partner to enjoy together... so why not do it. Instead of fighting for the ancient patriarchal society ritual...why not give it a twist like some progressives are already doing it where couple do it together without ridiculing the tradition. Celebrate it as a day of love for heaven's sake.

5. If you question why single out one particular day. Well then better question celebrating any other festival. If you like going gaga over celebrating Valentine's day I am sure won't have issue with KC either.

Originally posted by: fivestars

Nope I don’t think kc is regressive..no one is forcing wife to follow this particular festival..they do it happily for the longevity of their husbands..how is it regressive ? In that case celebrating other festivals like 9 days dasara,diwali,pongal(sankranthi) are also regressive ?because it doesn’t make any sense celebrating 9 days dasara except wearing diff costumes on all 9 days 😆and cracking fireworks on diwali because something good happend in the past according to Puranas ?

That said it’s all personal choice and have no right to call it as regressive...

Really now? 😆

Historically, Karva Chauth was celebrated as a prayer for the long life of soldiers in the war, their wives would often pray for their safe return, and by extension today refers to the long life of a married husband.

The festival also coincides with the wheat-sowing time (i.e., the beginning of the Rabi crop cycle). Big earthen pots in which wheat is stored are sometimes called Karvas, so the fast may have begun as a prayer for a good harvest in this predominantly wheat-eating Northwestern region.

Another story about the origin of this festival relates to the bond of feminine friendship. 🤣With the custom of arranged marriage being prevalent, the newlywed is supposed to reside with her husband and in-laws. Being new to the family, the custom arose of befriending another woman as her friend (kangan-saheli) or sister (dharam-behn) for life. The friendship would be sanctified through a Hindu ritual during the marriage ceremony itself. The bride's friend would usually be of the same age (or slightly older), typically married into the same village (so that she would not go away) and not directly related to her in-laws (so there was no conflict of interest later). A few days before Karva Chauth, married women would buy new karvas and paint them on the outside with beautiful designs. Inside, they would put bangles and ribbons, home-made candy and sweets, make-up items, and small clothes. The women would then visit each other on the day of Karva Chauth and exchange these karvas.

This emotional and psychological bond would be considered akin to a blood relationship. It is said that Karva Chauth festival evolved to include celebrating this special bond of friendship.🤣

Ahan! KC is very regressive.👏

The things I get to read here. Fasting is masochistic now.😆

Look, even all powerful science has proven how beneficial fasting is for ones health. It improves blood chemistry, aids with weight loss, improves concentration/brain fog among other things.

Progressives imposing their progressive ideals on the poor downtrodden regressive as usual. How progressive!💩

Originally posted by: Zeal17

Historically, Karva Chauth was celebrated as a prayer for the long life of soldiers in the war, their wives would often pray for their safe return, and by extension today refers to the long life of a married husband.

The festival also coincides with the wheat-sowing time (i.e., the beginning of the Rabi crop cycle). Big earthen pots in which wheat is stored are sometimes called Karvas, so the fast may have begun as a prayer for a good harvest in this predominantly wheat-eating Northwestern region.

Another story about the origin of this festival relates to the bond of feminine friendship. 🤣With the custom of arranged marriage being prevalent, the newlywed is supposed to reside with her husband and in-laws. Being new to the family, the custom arose of befriending another woman as her friend (kangan-saheli) or sister (dharam-behn) for life. The friendship would be sanctified through a Hindu ritual during the marriage ceremony itself. The bride's friend would usually be of the same age (or slightly older), typically married into the same village (so that she would not go away) and not directly related to her in-laws (so there was no conflict of interest later). A few days before Karva Chauth, married women would buy new karvas and paint them on the outside with beautiful designs. Inside, they would put bangles and ribbons, home-made candy and sweets, make-up items, and small clothes. The women would then visit each other on the day of Karva Chauth and exchange these karvas.

This emotional and psychological bond would be considered akin to a blood relationship. It is said that Karva Chauth festival evolved to include celebrating this special bond of friendship.🤣

Ahan! KC is very regressive.👏

How informative! 😆 Please show us the male equivalent of this for their wives which I believe should also be in Hinduism and celebrated at the same level because we all know how inclusive and not regressive definitely not sexist this ritual is and the wives' long life also matters as far as I believe 😆 And ofcourse yes, the epitome of female female friendship bond is definitely keeping fasts for their husbands and exchanging props that lead to their man's long life. How wonderful! 😆

Originally posted by: AllThatCritique

How informative! 😆 Please show us the male equivalent of this for their wives which I believe should also be in Hinduism and celebrated at the same level because we all know how inclusive and not regressive definitely not sexist this ritual is and the wives' long life also matters as far as I believe 😆 And ofcourse yes, the epitome of female female friendship bond is definitely keeping fasts for their husbands and exchanging props that lead to their man's long life. How wonderful! 😆

🤣🤣 Still stuck up on gender discrimination wonderful!! I was putting forth the point that stop looking it from gender prism.

Traditions evolve with time. In ancient time it was meant for praying n fasting for Ragi harvest. Gender is not mentioned. So who knows who was keeping it.

Then came the so called patriarchal society where men who volunteered for army their family was praying n fasting for their safe return. Gender wife or maybe sister, mother of married men. (Why not father or brother, might as well be in the army. Personally, you might see as gender discrimination.. I see it as a sign of women strength that they can and they adhere to rituals much better than men)

Fast forward to today... Female wants to fight KC and make it the gender war. Some men have started keeping fast out of love( some forced by the feminist wife).. which is a good development.

So why not we go back to the roots celebrate karva chauth about harvesting where couple volunteer together. Teach that to our next generation rather than keep fighting for ancient customs.