Why is divorce such a taboo in desi culture?

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Petal_Pose

@Petal_Pose

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Posted: 7 years ago

I want to know why divorce is such a taboo within our culture?Marriage have their up and downs I know but I wonder why in our culture we pressure couple who are so toxic to each other and hanging on the last leg of their marriage to each other?Is not it better to just part ways? Is not it better to live happily than bind yourself in a thread which gives you pain?

I have seen loads of desi marriage who are hanging on their last thread and there is anything to save in the marriage. These people are sticking to each other just for society and "image".They just do not want their images tarnished that is why. There is one life , why live unhappily?

Not just that it has huge repercussions on kids. Ex..going hunger strikes does not help kids either or better the situation, right.

When will desi society esp. SE Asian culture make divorce less of a taboo so people can be liberated?

No wonder B couple never get divorced no wonder how awful marriage, some of them.DO you live by society standards or lead your own life on your own terms?

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@sherlockthor

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Posted: 7 years ago

I think most of the times, fights and misunderstandings can be cleared with time and counselling.

But sometimes, its gets too much and too poisonous and I feel its better to part ways.

Yes for the kids , they feel secure to have both parents together.. but as they get older they will see and realise that their own parents are not happy and this creates a very toxic environment in the house..

I think its better to part ways in peace..

But it is a big taboo in India. Worst thing to do while fighting would be to have kids.. that just complicates it more..!

Edited by sherlockthor - 7 years ago

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LoseYouToLoveMe

@LoseYouToLoveMe

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Posted: 7 years ago

Because people are afraid of living their lives the way they want to

"Log Kya Kahenge?!!!"

The same bullsh*t that's been forced on individuals for decades on end now🤢

And people who are allowing themselves to be basically bullied into staying in a toxic,unhappy & unhappy Sham of a marriage because of the "Society" that doesn't give a sh*t about their happiness and well-being are equally to be blamed💔

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707793

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Posted: 7 years ago

Taboo because of these qtiyapa type logic

Parivaar ki izzat ka kya hoga

Acche ghar ke log divorce nahi lete

aakele rehna is dangerous, you cant alone fight with this cruel world you need men

kya guarantee next wala accha hoga ...

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Illyrion

@Illyrion

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Posted: 7 years ago

I think in my parents generation, they expected very little. And in my grandparents time even less. If a man wasn't cruel or abusive, brought home money, provided a home and material necessities, and fathered your children, he was a fabulous husband. I think this is why there are so many people that simply cannot accept that BW divorced couples (from Aamir-Reena to Farhan-Adhuna) can "really be friendly - the old Indian mindset is if they don't hate each other, why divorce?

Eventually there will be a shift to where it's okay for people to expect marriage to be a source of happiness. Hopefully it will stop there unlike in America where the whole idea of marriage has become endangered because people expect to never have to compromise at all.

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1129726

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Posted: 7 years ago

I'm about to marry a divorcee 😆 😆

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1123190

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Ogreatone
I'm about to marry a divorcee 😆 😆

Congrats on your wedding Orangutan! May Allah/Ram/Jesus/Modi/Trump give her all the strength she needs to endure u. 👏😆

Edited by Mascarpone - 7 years ago

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TheRager

@TheRager

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Posted: 7 years ago

Because people feel that there must be something wrong with you if you could not adjust to your spouse.

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maal_u_have

@maal_u_have

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Ogreatone
I'm about to marry a divorcee 😆 😆

Congratulations! Treat her well, you will have a happy marriage. Glad that India-Forums gave you good advice in regards to marrying a divorcee and you followed it ⭐️

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BornHyper

@BornHyper

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Posted: 7 years ago

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It is definitely a taboo - mainly because people still find it difficult to face the society after such a thing. Close family members and friends are understanding however its the extended family that has issues

However things are changing and in big cities and amongst this generation is not a taboo anymore. Its getting more acceptance.