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Qwerty, Knowing comes from my own direct and personal experience in my life. Belief comes from what I have learned from others.

Most Indians are not broadminded enough to accept a gay couple into their midst.You could probably find a few liberal ones here and there, but that's about it.So forget the idea of public acceptance.

That's a very interesting reply. I did some research on Hinduism and Buddhism. And for thousands of years, neither really seem to have a problem with homsexuality. Various hindu-tempels also depict homoromantic love. Yet it is considered taboo nowadays. I always thought this taboo might be because of western influence.
But Christianity in India might be more openminded that Hinduism/Buddhism nowadays? That's a bit sad. Hinduism and Buddhism seem to be a much more tolerant core than Christianity or Islam... but that's the religion itself of course, not the people.

These posts are helpful for me. Thank you all for taking the time to reply. I was born and raised in the Netherlands, so I don't know any better other than 'romance is romance', no matter if it's straight or gay. So if I see romance in Bollywood, I don't see 'romance', not 'straight romance'. It might have been naive of me to think that Indians would see it the same way.

Originally posted by: Lodi

But Christianity in India might be more openminded that Hinduism/Buddhism nowadays? That's a bit sad. Hinduism and Buddhism seem to be a much more tolerant core than Christianity or Islam... but that's the religion itself of course, not the people.

Originally posted by: Lodi

That's a very interesting reply. I did some research on Hinduism and Buddhism. And for thousands of years, neither really seem to have a problem with homsexuality. Various hindu-tempels also depict homoromantic love. Yet it is considered taboo nowadays. I always thought this taboo might be because of western influence.
But Christianity in India might be more openminded that Hinduism/Buddhism nowadays? That's a bit sad. Hinduism and Buddhism seem to be a much more tolerant core than Christianity or Islam... but that's the religion itself of course, not the people.

These posts are helpful for me. Thank you all for taking the time to reply. I was born and raised in the Netherlands, so I don't know any better other than 'romance is romance', no matter if it's straight or gay. So if I see romance in Bollywood, I don't see 'romance', not 'straight romance'. It might have been naive of me to think that Indians would see it the same way.

Originally posted by: maha2us

Qwerty, Knowing comes from my own direct and personal experience in my life. Belief comes from what I have learned from others.

Originally posted by: QuietlyLoud

Most Indians are not broadminded enough to accept a gay couple into their midst.You could probably find a few liberal ones here and there, but that's about it.So forget the idea of public acceptance.

Now the family, after some initial outbursts, may eventually make amendments for the sake of your friend's happiness.May be they would value his happiness more than their sense of being right.

Also, them being Christians is in your favor.Christians seem to be somewhat more tolerant of the customs accepted and practised in the West, as a result of religious influence.

Qwerty, You say, 'Knowing cant come from experience.. only speculations can...knowing requires learning and thinking.. not just experiencing...and here you are talking about somebody else's experiences I guess... (assuming you are not a guy)'.

Definitely I am not a gay. That doesn't mean I have to talk based on the experience of someone else. Here the experience I am talking is the experience to be in a committed relationship. The relationship rules are the same whether the relationship is between a guy and a girl or between two men or between two women. Gays and lesbians are also human beings and every human being has divine essence within and is full of love and is capable of giving love as well as taking love. Every human being in a committed relationship has the chance to become a more caring, compassionate, gentle, tender and understanding person and bring out love. And he/she becomes more with his/her partner, present and available to his/her partner. These are the points I have known about relationships based on my personal experiences. All I understand is these rules of the relationships are the same for two male relationship also. Definitely as you say one learns and thinks based on his/her experience and develops more and more understanding.

Originally posted by: maha2us

Qwerty, You say, 'Knowing cant come from experience.. only speculations can...knowing requires learning and thinking.. not just experiencing...and here you are talking about somebody else's experiences I guess... (assuming you are not a guy)'.

Definitely I am not a gay. That doesn't mean I have to talk based on the experience of someone else. Here the experience I am talking is the experience to be in a committed relationship. The relationship rules are the same whether the relationship is between a guy and a girl or between two men or between two women. Gays and lesbians are also human beings and every human being has divine essence within and is full of love and is capable of giving love as well as taking love. Every human being in a committed relationship has the chance to become a more caring, compassionate, gentle, tender and understanding person and bring out love. And he/she becomes more with his/her partner, present and available to his/her partner. These are the points I have known about relationships based on my personal experiences. All I understand is these rules of the relationships are the same for two male relationship also. Definitely as you say one learns and thinks based on his/her experience and develops more and more understanding.

We are overpopulated as it is. Instead of producing even more children in an unequal world, it would be better to, say, adopt a poor indian orphan and give him a better life.