Originally posted by: Quixotic5
what i meant is, what we are today as a species has been largely determined by the choices that our female ancestors made while mating..they only selected the best males as in males possessing desirable characteristic features & passed only desirable genes onto the future generation..and speaking from evolutionary perspective, men have always had to compete for mating rights & women chose only the best ones..so collectively speaking, these choices have shaped up our species, keeping the desirable characteristic features & eliminating others..and choice of best genes was mostly female driven bcoz they had to bear the cost of pregnancy & give birth..even today, women are picky about who fathers their children & men are inherently wired to mate with as many women as they could..though its changing since the male-female equation in modern human society too is changing..now a days even women participate in anonymous sex without any far reaching consequences (babies) & this behavior too might impact how the next generation shapes up..point is ,it is largely determined by the choices women make..men have always had to compete for women..but due to changed attitude towards sex, every tom-dick-harry stands a chance to father a child..and the choices made by women even under such circumstances will definitely have its impact on the traits retained in future generation..
ok, i know that was long & confusing ..& women yet again might feel burdened by this approach since the responsibility of future generation lies with them & men yet again might feel threatened to compete or belittled by this approach but the trick is to not think about it..we have reached a point where human society has become very complex..so the best thing to do is , sit back , relax, enjoy ur life & not worry excessively about how women's current choices will determine the future generation..am i making any sense ?😆
I agree women are very specific, very influential in this whole... thing. There were times when I myself went "no, I cannot see such a man as the father of MY FUTURE CHILD" even if he is filthy rich, is respectable, likeable by 'all', is intellectual etc. 😆 ...I think women are in general very possessive about their babies, having babies is the intention behind marriage for some(TBH, I think for 99% of the women, warna... why get married, for what lol? )
Actually, women wouldnt have to anonymously 'indulge' if there was an intention to bear a child. It's more for satisfying her biological needs.
Bearing a child will always be a different issue , no matter how liberal or how conservative or how confused a woman is. But the system of marriage is largely not one where woman has her say, because of various factors ---
1 - boys are picky too!
2 - girls are fine with anyone as long as they dont lose out time on bearing a child. Mothering a child drives a woman to compromise on many levels , I believe.
3 - rigid arranged marriage institution and etc.
Am I saying anything in relation to what you wanted to say...? 😆 ...now, I cannot say the onus is on the women for the future generations... unless a majority of the women are so empowered that they can deviate from the institution of family. But, those women will still be just a fraction of the entire population, just like how they are now. I dont think there'd be MANY girls like that 😆 ..every woman would want a child at the end of the day with exceptions ofcourse :)
Men are picky too, Quixote! 😆 ..now, I dont think men would evolve into something less if women change their minds on picking ONE to mate. Men too would enjoy it, infact a new sort of "have to put my best" would emerge even then... the more they'd 'get some' the better their confidence/whatever I think 😛
There are many other factors - social being the most major in making a man evolve. Is there clarity in what I am saying lol.
Edited by Angel-likeDevil - 10 years ago
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