Man suffer double standard - Page 3

Originally posted by: maha2us

Reeha, There are good reasons why the society had been patriarchal. No doubt through centuries,we know that the women lived a subdued life and their freedom had been restricted. Why is it so? A woman has to accept to be restricted when she chooses to accept she needs her husband to protect her and provide her all the comforts. One more point to be noted is even the man's family is given the responsibility to protect the woman. Anyone having responsibility needs authority also. If a woman squanders the man's money, still man has to provide for her. but if the man does the same, he himself is responsible and he can't question the woman. For his protection also, he is responsible. This is probably the main reason why a man was given the authority to hold on to the woman's belongings after marriage in the patriarchal society. After all he is responsible for taking care of her children, even if she strays. Again a reason why he expects the woman to be faithful to him.

An interesting point: If a woman accepts her man is her protector and provider, she has very well accepted he is her God. Isn't it how the husband became God for a wife?

Originally posted by: ..Antisocial..

Disagree , Mother don't do works and earning when they are in this condition , they just take rest , That time only father take care of mother and child in her womb and earn hard , provide them food ...Again Father does work without taking rest

Originally posted by: BarbieGurl

Ur are extreamly mysognist and biased...how many pregnant ladies hav u encountered??

many of my frns worked till day before their delivery and joinned office after two weeks...

In west woman continue excercising and maintain an active lifestyle throughout their preganncy..

woman are not helpless frail babies during pregnancy.

I myself worked till 8th month and joinned work after my son was 3 months old...and tht dosent mean I was sitting on the bed all the time. ...BTW maternity leaves are paid leaves so woman still gets the salary hence its not tht she is totaly dependent on the man.

unless there's serious health issue women can maintain a normal lifestyle.N usually its the older womenfolks of the house who take care of the pregnant lady.I have never seen men actually doing the cooking and cleaning part for the wife...instead I have seen pregnant ladies waiting on their husband while they sit like couch potatoes.

And cranky ...I have seen men being cranky for no reason...woman atleast have excuse of pregnancy and PMS 😆

biology has naturally given women an edge over men in terms of babies...accept that.

and respect has to be earned...I know many men who are wonderful fathers n contribute equally in child rearing...but claiming respect without any contribution is stupidity

Your thinking is quite wrong and feminist , Just cause you saw some women working in pregnancy and some men don't help that does not mean all Fathers behave like this ...they contribute and do help mothers ...Fine Leave all , If a father does help and fulfill his all Duty, then ? Why put him on second rank , Why dont give him Equal Importance ?

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

I see some extremely incorrect, biased and somewhat misogynist statements being made in this thread.

Pregnant women are being repeatedly referred to as "cranky woman" and being compared to tantrum throwing toddlers. Some women do suffer hormonal changes that make their moods swing and become irritable. However, it is a myth that all pregnant women are moody, irritable or demanding. Secondly even when pregnant women are hormonal, they do maintain their composure as adults. It is one thing for a male friends and relatives to make good natured humorous jabs about a woman's hormonal changes, but it is extremely disrespectful to pregnant women to classify them as cranky and compare them to immature toddlers.

Secondly, I see several statements stating that pregnant women don't work or are incapable of being self-sufficient. There is also an outrageous statement referring to pregnant women as "helpless dependent creature" as if she's some injured animal someone is doing a favor by taking care off. Pregnant women come from all different backgrounds. Some do have the luxury to rest and relax while the family looks after them. Many pregnant women actually work, exercise, do household chores and live a normal lifestyle right until they go into labor. Most pregnant women actually do take care of themselves and their baby on their own. One the rare occasion women do have difficult pregnancies where they are somewhat helpless, bedridden and need to be taken care off.

Also I want to point out that whether out of health reasons or by choice, when pregnant women stay at home a husband is rarely left with the brunt of taking care of everything, especially in Indian culture. Traditionally in most Indian families the woman either goes to her maternal home or has her mother visit. Women in the family or neighborhood will always help with pregnancies. Even in modern times a female relative or friend helps out with pregnancy. Most women do have maternity benefits or insurance through work or on their own that pays for the bills. There are several single moms who do everything on their own without the father in the picture.

Paternity is valuable. Fathers do share loving bonds with their wife and kids, that can go underappreciated. However, demeaning and disparaging women as being cranky helpless dependent creatures to make a case for the father's role is just fundamentally wrong on many levels.

I am not demeaning , You said it is not easy to give birth a child so i counted all weakness which woman suffer in pregnancy ,You are not Giving any solid point , You are just Attacking and using wrong words and showing your unpleasantness .


It's better you give solid points in favour of moms rather than finding faults in me and my words or you don't have any points So you are trying to divert topic 🤔

Originally posted by: ..Antisocial..

I m a feminist and I am proud of it.

Wen did I say fathers font deserve importance...for a healthy n happy child both father n mother are important.
But its also a fact tht during pregnancy and initial childhood a child is totally dependent on mother.
Coz the amount of skill n patience required to handle a baby ...men just dont hav it.
But a father's role is important for guidance and upbringing of the baby.
and sorry to say...except few educated families in metro cities indian men hav no contribution in bringing up the child.

India does not mean Delhi n Mumbai...theres a big majority living in small towns n villages...I dont see men doing anything apart frm being the provider.
As I said I hav big respect for men who do contribute n help in child rearing...but these men r still scarce...

Originally posted by: BarbieGurl

I m a feminist and I am proud of it.

Wen did I say fathers font deserve importance...for a healthy n happy child both father n mother are important.
But its also a fact tht during pregnancy and initial childhood a child is totally dependent on mother.
Coz the amount of skill n patience required to handle a baby ...men just dont hav it.
But a father's role is important for guidance and upbringing of the baby.
and sorry to say...except few educated families in metro cities indian men hav no contribution in bringing up the child.

India does not mean Delhi n Mumbai...theres a big majority living in small towns n villages...I dont see men doing anything apart frm being the provider.
As I said I hav big respect for men who do contribute n help in child rearing...but these men r still scarce...

My question is on Equality ,not on how many men help ...If father does his duty fully then also nobody give them equal importance and put them on second position , Why not on first ?

Originally posted by: ..Antisocial..

<font color="#336633">My question is on Equality ,not on how many men help ...If father does his duty fully then also nobody give themequalimportance and put them on second position , Why not on first ?</font>

wat do u mean by second position ??
in a normal family ppl dont hav ranking contest abt who is the greatest.
Father n mother both take care of the child n usually no one says...father is more loving or mom is more loving So i dont get ur question.

Originally posted by: ..Antisocial..

Just cause Father dont carry child in their tummy Does not mean their love is not Deep ...Mother can express emotions , Father don't , Mother can cry , Father dont cause in our society if a man cry People taunt them and make fun of their ...So men keep all their pain in Heart .

Father dont show does not mean their love is not deep -- AGREE😊